Advice concerning a dating prospect (68)
Taralyn: @Rohaan
Although it really, really kills me to say this - some of the harsh restrictions that are in place for interaction between carers and clients are there due to bad situations in the past.
How many ppl have given someone their number and have said "call anytime!" but not actually meaning "anytime?" Older clients, especially those who have family who ignore them, will call their carers to pick up something at the store, come and check whatever, ask questions, ask for a ride, cry, fight, demand and threaten. To keep complaints down from the workers, they are told not to give out numbers. If they do so anyway, it's not my problem. Take care of it yourself. The same applies to heights, pet care, deep cleaning and moving households. I assume that most companies have a hiring package that outlines what is permissible and what isn't. The same info is given to the client. Sometimes being nice is the worst thing you can be.
Boy howdy.Although it really, really kills me to say this - some of the harsh restrictions that are in place for interaction between carers and clients are there due to bad situations in the past.
How many ppl have given someone their number and have said "call anytime!" but not actually meaning "anytime?" Older clients, especially those who have family who ignore them, will call their carers to pick up something at the store, come and check whatever, ask questions, ask for a ride, cry, fight, demand and threaten. To keep complaints down from the workers, they are told not to give out numbers. If they do so anyway, it's not my problem. Take care of it yourself. The same applies to heights, pet care, deep cleaning and moving households. I assume that most companies have a hiring package that outlines what is permissible and what isn't. The same info is given to the client. Sometimes being nice is the worst thing you can be.
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No hard feelings. Glad you found my issue interesting. I've learned a lot. I did not have to go through any training except for one day of basics, when I became a Caregiver for my son. This man was a Respite worker for me for one day a week and I little to no clue about boundaries in social work. I have learned a lot by googling the issue. Life is a process, we are learning new things for as long as we are breathing.
Some of the information I have gotten over the years up until now is different though. I once read a story about a woman who hired a caregiver for her disabled loved one (friend/acquaintance); they fell in love and married. Last night I read an article posted from a Mental Health therapist who believes in hugs, for many--not all--clients. She sees it as healing. Some of the responses to her post were from people who had therapy who felt hurt by a lack of a hug from a Counselor/Therapist. Someone else said they would not accept a hug. We are all human and we are all different, so this is a very interesting topic. Things do not even stay the same over the years with what protocols are in place with social workers and clients. And the human side of us could potentially make it quite difficult to not cross some kind of a man made line. I did appreciate what I have learned though, and am glad I found another worker. It was too tiring and draining to deal with that other guy, and worry that his motives were self serving. Perhaps he just wanted a cheaper roof over his head.
Some of the information I have gotten over the years up until now is different though. I once read a story about a woman who hired a caregiver for her disabled loved one (friend/acquaintance); they fell in love and married. Last night I read an article posted from a Mental Health therapist who believes in hugs, for many--not all--clients. She sees it as healing. Some of the responses to her post were from people who had therapy who felt hurt by a lack of a hug from a Counselor/Therapist. Someone else said they would not accept a hug. We are all human and we are all different, so this is a very interesting topic. Things do not even stay the same over the years with what protocols are in place with social workers and clients. And the human side of us could potentially make it quite difficult to not cross some kind of a man made line. I did appreciate what I have learned though, and am glad I found another worker. It was too tiring and draining to deal with that other guy, and worry that his motives were self serving. Perhaps he just wanted a cheaper roof over his head.
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Melody1671: With all due respect, if I were you, I wouldn't want a person like that anywhere near my son... And I would cut every and any kind of contact with him... That's not a dating prospect... That's a disaster prospect...
Most likely it would have been a disaster. I have another respite guy now. 
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deedee123xo: When he reported you I think that's your clear answer there.
He obviously has to come to your house daily or however frequent..he was going to run into you eventually....if he had not got the decent to air the problem face to face but rather report you then he isnt someone worth considering.
I would also consider looking for a new career and possibly consider answering your phone no matter what given that theres someone in your house caring for someone you love.
I agree He obviously has to come to your house daily or however frequent..he was going to run into you eventually....if he had not got the decent to air the problem face to face but rather report you then he isnt someone worth considering.
I would also consider looking for a new career and possibly consider answering your phone no matter what given that theres someone in your house caring for someone you love.
Thanks for posting
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SingleFeather: A man I'm working with is showing interest in me. He wants to take a walk in the park with me and he also wants to cook me dinner. I usually have my smart phone off and when he tries to call me, he doesn't leave a message, then he complains that I don't answer my phone. He even complained to the agency that I'm not answering my phone and that I cancel appointments with him too late when he's already driving, so he needs more advance notice (true). Yet he cancels appointments with me 80% more often than I do! He has become unreliable at this point. And we have yet to even have a date. Advice?
Have you thought of using smoke signals to improve communications? 
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Time after time,
It seems women of this era,
Just like to complain what they are not getting, or have?
Attention or being attentive,..
It seems women of this era,
Just like to complain what they are not getting, or have?
Attention or being attentive,..
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ThinkinDaily: Time after time,
It seems women of this era,
Just like to complain what they are not getting, or have?
Attention or being attentive,..
Or just simply ask for advice. But that's probably too simple for you to grasp.It seems women of this era,
Just like to complain what they are not getting, or have?
Attention or being attentive,..
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I just thought that if they were as close to get to the stage of almost dating, that he might just take her aside and say "look I having this problem that we need to sort, you need to be accessible for me when I'm caring for your son, if t continues I'll have no choice but to report to my superiors"
But if he hasn't felt there was that kind of relationship he should do what he has done.
Chain of command is probably the better thing to do all round that way it leaves out the "he said, she said" argument.