Scared of Love (33)
That's great news Lorraine... congrats.
The best advice I have is to trust your instincts, but leave your heart open...
Enjoy the journey
All good things
Roxanne
The best advice I have is to trust your instincts, but leave your heart open...
Enjoy the journey
All good things
Roxanne
I don't have any advice of my own to give Lorraine...when it comes to matters of the heart...I am out to sea...
However..a friend sent me this bit of advice i'd like to share with you....
..."Just be patient with your heart. "....sage advice if you ask me..
However..a friend sent me this bit of advice i'd like to share with you....
..."Just be patient with your heart. "....sage advice if you ask me..
Hi Lorraine,, right on,, good for you,, just try to relax,, go with the flow,, when are you going to actually meet him face to face,, do you know yet
Thanks for the advice Roxanne. My instincts are just telling to run. However, my heart is trying to hang on for the journey. Lorraine.
Hi Kelly,
Thanks for your message and your words of encouragement. The man lives in Texas. The plan was for me to go down there and meet him and spend time with him in early April. Since he mentioned the "L" word - I feel like I am just backing away - big time.
Cheers,
Lorraine.
Thanks for your message and your words of encouragement. The man lives in Texas. The plan was for me to go down there and meet him and spend time with him in early April. Since he mentioned the "L" word - I feel like I am just backing away - big time.
Cheers,
Lorraine.
Congratulations Lorraine! I am very happy for you! Just allow the relationship to develop in whatever way it does.
I fell in love with someone I met online last spring. We spent hours every day on the phone and online for months. We truly felt we loved each other and were thrilled that we got so lucky and found our dream. When we met in person, however, we discovered that the chemistry we felt online and on the phone did not translate into real life and the relationship couldn't proceed as we had planned. We were both heartbroken about it and it scared me because I thought that I couldn't trust what I thought I knew. What I discovered is that I can trust what I know - my mistake was in thinking that I had all of the information when I didn't.
A friend of mine fell in love much the same way. The lady he loved came to visit him and it worked out for them - they have been together for 6 months so far.
Be brave and be open. You just might fiind a love beyond what you have imagined. You won't know until you meet.
I wish you much happiness!
I fell in love with someone I met online last spring. We spent hours every day on the phone and online for months. We truly felt we loved each other and were thrilled that we got so lucky and found our dream. When we met in person, however, we discovered that the chemistry we felt online and on the phone did not translate into real life and the relationship couldn't proceed as we had planned. We were both heartbroken about it and it scared me because I thought that I couldn't trust what I thought I knew. What I discovered is that I can trust what I know - my mistake was in thinking that I had all of the information when I didn't.
A friend of mine fell in love much the same way. The lady he loved came to visit him and it worked out for them - they have been together for 6 months so far.
Be brave and be open. You just might fiind a love beyond what you have imagined. You won't know until you meet.
I wish you much happiness!
Hi Artgurl,
Thank you for sharing your story. I am going to try to hang onto this relationship. The man knows how I feel and he is not going anywhere. However, - I am so damn scared. Lorraine.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am going to try to hang onto this relationship. The man knows how I feel and he is not going anywhere. However, - I am so damn scared. Lorraine.
Just take it easy and take a big deep breath.
Take it one day at a time. Its normal to feel scared in a situation like that. Your not alone remember that.
The best of luck to you both!
Take it one day at a time. Its normal to feel scared in a situation like that. Your not alone remember that.
The best of luck to you both!
I know i've said it before but when i met Clay it was not with the intention of "hooking up"...it was to meet a friend..make a friend...
Obviously that did happen...along with something else...so I guess what i'm trying to say is that whatever is meant to happen is going to happen...
And then again, perhaps because i didn't go to meet him with any sort of "expectations"..I was able to be myself and allow him to see the "real" me...(the one that people don't think exist because of my appearance...)
I am willing to put all my effort into making this relationship work...if it lasts then i will have what i have always wanted, if it doesn't...then what i will have learned is that i am still capable of loving, worthy of being loved and i will be content with that...
Its no use "anticipating" Lorraine...you have made the first step by opening yourself up to being loved by someone, now its time to take the second step...and that is to meet this person...each step after that will only get easier...
Good luck!
Obviously that did happen...along with something else...so I guess what i'm trying to say is that whatever is meant to happen is going to happen...
And then again, perhaps because i didn't go to meet him with any sort of "expectations"..I was able to be myself and allow him to see the "real" me...(the one that people don't think exist because of my appearance...)
I am willing to put all my effort into making this relationship work...if it lasts then i will have what i have always wanted, if it doesn't...then what i will have learned is that i am still capable of loving, worthy of being loved and i will be content with that...
Its no use "anticipating" Lorraine...you have made the first step by opening yourself up to being loved by someone, now its time to take the second step...and that is to meet this person...each step after that will only get easier...
Good luck!
You'll never know if you don't try...
Breathe, relax, share, open up...and see what it brings...
Breathe, relax, share, open up...and see what it brings...
Well if your new pic is any indication of what "breathing, relaxing, sharing and opening up" will result in....
I say Lorraine...go for it!!!
I say Lorraine...go for it!!!
Yupper!
love's grand Lorraine! Jump in!
love's grand Lorraine! Jump in!
Hey Lorraine!
WHAT THE HECK! GO FOR IT! follow your heart and your gut instincts....if you are telling us that you are feeling scared and afraid,............well, then you MUST be in love.......
live, laugh and enjoy every moment..........this may just be what you have been waiting for.....all your life!
much love and success to you and the TEXAN........
hugs,
Rose
WHAT THE HECK! GO FOR IT! follow your heart and your gut instincts....if you are telling us that you are feeling scared and afraid,............well, then you MUST be in love.......
live, laugh and enjoy every moment..........this may just be what you have been waiting for.....all your life!
much love and success to you and the TEXAN........
hugs,
Rose
Thats awesome. Yes go for it.
But how can you fall in love via email and the phone? Its impossible IMO. Yes you can learn some things from each other and its a great start the process but my opinion is you have too meet in person and hang out that way too. So i say plan a trip and meet.
Darren
But how can you fall in love via email and the phone? Its impossible IMO. Yes you can learn some things from each other and its a great start the process but my opinion is you have too meet in person and hang out that way too. So i say plan a trip and meet.
Darren
Thanks everyone for your input and your opinions. The man and I have agreed to slow things down because of the way I am feeling. He seems like a very patient man. from "Nervous Nellie" aka Lorraine.
Good Luck Lorraine. We are here to support you.
Thanks sincerely for the support. Lorraine.
Many times people fall in love with the idea...of someone. You won't really know until you meet in person and spend time together if, in fact any mutual feelings are real, will you? As for that, you have to take a chance...to get a chance.
"Scared and Afraid", are not feelings I would want to ascribe to feeling in-love. For me, going into a relationship with these feelings would be wrong. Being in love for me, would mean having feelings of quite the opposite. Feelings of fearlesness in the sense that whatever happens, I am still me and that no one other person or situation can take away from that. I would take feelings of fear as a red flag that I was not ready. It's great that he has fallen in love with you Lorraine...do you feel the same? Thats the barometer to go by, in my opinion. I would not make a cross country trek because someone has said they are in love with me. If that was the case, I think the onus would be on him to make the journey. Let him show how much he "loves" you.
I hope you don't feel indebted to him because he says he loves you Lorraine. If that is the case, you are headed for disaster in this situation. He declared his love for you...let him get on the plane. I would be wary of anyone's declaration of such a strong feeling for me without meeting them live and in person. For me, anything else would be naive.
I hope you don't feel indebted to him because he says he loves you Lorraine. If that is the case, you are headed for disaster in this situation. He declared his love for you...let him get on the plane. I would be wary of anyone's declaration of such a strong feeling for me without meeting them live and in person. For me, anything else would be naive.
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Any advice? Lorraine.