Separated ( Archived) (71)

Here, there is also a form you can file (I think it is called In Forum Pauperis) that basically just means that you're low income, so the court doesn't charge you any filing fee.
And there are a few slightly sneaky tactics for getting away from those who don't want the divorce. Sliding a Joinder form in with a bunch of others, and having them sign it whether they know they are or not, makes it so that they don't even have to be notified of any further proceedings, as they basically are agreeing with everything you are doing.

If there's a will there's a way!..I agree...When I decided to finally divorce, I wasn't going to let anything stop me.. I searched online on every topic that pertained to me. Then I talked to a few attorneys, till I found one who understood my predicament. Was single, behind on bills, the ex kept dodging me concerning the divorce, etc...Found an attorney who would charge me less than $500.00 and was willing to take payments. I had to be seperated for a year before the divorce. All I had from him was a post office box and the name where he worked. We send papers to his mailbox, addressed from me where he would sign for them, and had it delevered to his job. If no one signed, it would of been in the newspaper, and if he didn't answer the court would of granted me the divorce without him there. The day of court he never showed up, and I was granted everything that I had requested.

You were lucky to find such a reasonable atty. The newspaper is the way to go if the other person is absent and unable to locate.

Wow! Mine only cost me $25 for the book with all the forms in it. (Filed the In Pauperis form and no filing fees.) Pretty much a no brainer as far as filling them out. I WAS just a kid when I got mine LOL

Why not? I've been talking to a friend (female) who is in the process of getting a divorce from work for the past few weeks and I do not have a problem with it. We are only friends, and it'll probably stay that way. She moved back home with her parents so I know it's legit. I don't think anything serious will develop out of it, since I'd rather just be friends at the moment.

I didn't mean "friends" I meant a romantic interest.

I wouldn't have a problem with it from a legal or moral point of view. But with merely "separation" there could possibly be a chance of reconciliation - it does happen. I wouldn't voluntarily place myself in the position of developing real feelings for someone to eventually face that kind of heartache. Best not to go there in the first place, for me personally.

Well I am another person who is seperated currently...
I have been seperated for going on 8 months now.
Really these things do take time to resolve.
I was living the married life for 2 1/2 years. We lived
like roomates for the last two years of it. We found we didn't
mesh in many ways. I married a friend but not a partner. I could
go on with the explanation but there is really is no need.

I guess what I'm trying to say is...
Every divorce is different and when it all comes down to
it. It's a bunch of paperwork that binds you "legally" to each
other. My soon to be ex husband is and has been dating. Which
is just fine with me. Because we have always been friends. Just never could make it to the next level. From the beginning we both made the wrong choice and realize it now. I was never married before the age of 30 yrs old. I was holding out for the right person. Made the wrong choice. Does that take away my right to continue to look for him? I don't believe so...

I really feel bad that seperated is such an eye sore to some.
If your divorced you were also seperated at some time.

If never married well, I would have to say you probably wouldn't
understand. No offence intended.

Was that meant for me? If so, I don't understand. I wasn't saying there was anything wrong with people who are separated!!! There is bound to be that transitional period, the law being what it is and all.

I was simply saying that it wasn't for me. I have been there before, there was reconciliation, and I would avoid the heartache in future. Self-preservation maybe? That's all.