Generally, I have found generally that parents in the poor countries are more attentive to their children than those in rich countries. I think that the reason is that in richer countries kids AND parents get sucked into doing 'activities' -- after school programs, second jobs, both parents working, sports, etc. etc, and simply have less time for 'being' together.
I have never seen the utter gentleness, caring and love that all adults show children -- whether they are theirs or those of others -- in Cairo. And I have very poor friends in Colorado who are the same way.
Here in Washington, I live in an expensive suburb and know lots of families: sadly not one achieves the that same level of child rearing. It is not a lack of love: it is a lack of time management and a failure to recognize that one's presence in the life of a child may be more important than their participation in endless rounds of kids soccer or basketball games.
Having said that, and thinking of India, I would not say that these generalizations hold up in all instances. For example, the horrible practice of child brides in India must stand at the top of infamous things that adults do to children. (See the story of Phoolan Devi, aka the Bandit Queeen.)
Ok so, what is the solution...we all move to whatever country is the best? But can we all go there, would not the government at some point put a stop and say no more people here? And the people that move there, if many from a "bad country" and by that I mean simply what we feel is bad not that it is bad and the country changes...whos fault is that?
The U.S. is a VERY big place. As are many others in this world. Found it interesting the best countries...relatively small where much can be controlled what comes in and goes out...not so in America and other countries as well.
When considering the WAR MACHINE...ok, then look internal to China or Korea...the machine is really big. Heck, North Korean people are starving everywhere because of this machine. That is also available news out there. But does that make those countries "the worst" to bring up a child? I would say what town?
Where there is incredible crime in one place in the states in another doors are left unlocked and people live so much in harmony they would never leave. What I love about these "surveys" we all read is that that come out on best and worst places....there is a time crunch to study data, only certain places are visited and often times the few that are bad...a judgement is made that way and on the other had a few are visted that are good...and a judgement is that way.
Here is what I know. PARENTS are what make the situation. And we are really uneducated to thing that any country is inheritantly bad or good to raise a kid. I'm sorry, who is the parent?
I was raised in a not so good place and did not turn out bad. I have known friends that lived in a great place...had everything and turned out bad.
Abra, friend, we cannot say it is too late. There is too much at stake.
I agree with your take on the culture as a whole -- and in fact am giving a talk in California on just that subject in a couple of weeks.
But we are not impotant to shift things, and in a later post will try and explain why.
I'll leave you all with a riddle for right now, if that is OK.
"How were the neocons so successful to manipulating the US into attacking Iraq and into the 'War or Terror'?" That's the riddle, and I think the answer will be very isntructive and useful for us.
Later, friends. I've got to get back to work for a while.
I did understand, you will not ever know how incidents i lived came back in my mind.... but you also forget your last sentence after all that you stated, and that is the part where the rest of what you were conveying left because in that statement you were placing blame that i did not subscribe to and reacted accordingly. That is what angered me, not the rest. It was as if you were placing blame where I did not feel it should be. And perhaps I did not respond in a kind way, but then you would have to understand some things also to understand the reaction. Instead of getting to the bottom line you took reacted in the way you felt best.
bl8antOPAmsterdam, North Holland Netherlands1,000 posts
actually you mailed me exactly what you publically posted... i did not react
i responded
you reacted and aggressively...why? because you want to make your point....well i don't know you nor do i like you....so why should i take the time to dig into your neurosis
If you really wanted to know why, you would not have closed the door.
So ok if you want to have the debate here. so be it. you started....
children....
we have had this topic a few times and now i have confirmation as to my opinion on the matter.... doncha just hate that i am always right?!! lol
UNITED NATIONS — The United States and Britain ranked as the worst places to be a child.........
further on you said
and my point here is :what kind of country spends trillions of dollars war mongering and exploiting the resources of other countries while it's own children and elderly face these statistics ??
This already begs the: what is your neurosis delimma...for me I thought there was something else behind it...
Later on you eluded to an organization I never heard of. So i sought answers, you gave some....I also would be angry but to end your statement with...and we'll leave that out of the forum...what would you think or what how would you react? Do you honestly believe that what you saw, deal with is, corresponds to your ending statement to me? That last statement, to me, means you blame all america and what it stands for. That in addition to these comments you posted. So, I did react..but took it out of here not because I want to make a point....rather to understand yours. Well i don't know you either but cannot honestly say i like or dislike you. Why, because we have never met face to face...never conversed verbally or saw each other, to know one another...but judging from your reaction i would have to say if one agrees with you they are ok and if not...you shut them out. But cannot say i do not like you because, I don't know you.
Charity: I think it is best when given anonymously, and received anonymously. No one knows who gives, and no one knows who receives. There are several cultures in which charity is routinely practiced this way and it seems to encourage the emergence of a healthy community.
I agree. I do believe there are causes where good media could benefit hugely. Not monetarily, but to spread the word. I know people, myself as well, that are so ashamed to take charity, we do anyhting we can to avoid it. It is humiliating to feel you've failed... And, I really think honest peole feel this way. I took a hell of alot to ask for help, and accept it. You do see things while your in he machine, though. I have American citizenship. I am not always proud of people in our country... and, I believe other people feel he same of thiers... It's to bad it comes to ownership personally, and figuratively. Not sure what else to say. Just had a Nene moment. Brainfart, LOL!
bl8antOPAmsterdam, North Holland Netherlands1,000 posts
no about just the USA........
but for dietzman i thought i would post my mail he keeps referring to.... where by the way i essentially agree with Jax
From: bl8ant To: dietzman Date: Today at 7:04 PM Subject: oh oh oh ..... look all i am up to is shakin the tree...i just wanna wake people up to more perspectives....
i am here in CHAD...i have buried dozens of bodies today and the smell of burning human flesh will not leave my nose... i am tired and upset.... i found 2 dead tortured babies 1 and 3 yrs old....so just do what ever you gotta do man to raise your children with kindness compassion and awareness...it makes no diff where you live...it's the greed and stupidity of americans i am shouting at here....
“the best place to raise a child is in a loving home ....” Should Be the obvious answer, no matter where you are. And I agree with… “just one more study to knock the USA...” Jealousy sure does make people pop off any way they can.
bl8ant – “no about just the USA........ it's the greed and stupidity of americans i am shouting at here....” LOL Made up your mind yet? Or are you just in here throwing around BS to shake up trees or something?
Ok, i will chime in...again. Depends on the place in a country. Statistics, as i have said again...are by and large a snap shot...smaller countries it is easier to make some good statistics....larger ones....not so good.
Plenty of good places in Britian and U.S. to raise a child.
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I have never seen the utter gentleness, caring and love that all adults show children -- whether they are theirs or those of others -- in Cairo. And I have very poor friends in Colorado who are the same way.
Here in Washington, I live in an expensive suburb and know lots of families: sadly not one achieves the that same level of child rearing. It is not a lack of love: it is a lack of time management and a failure to recognize that one's presence in the life of a child may be more important than their participation in endless rounds of kids soccer or basketball games.
Having said that, and thinking of India, I would not say that these generalizations hold up in all instances. For example, the horrible practice of child brides in India must stand at the top of infamous things that adults do to children. (See the story of Phoolan Devi, aka the Bandit Queeen.)
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