What is Love ? ( Archived) (19)

For what it's worth, in my rather meagre experience with this, I've found that Love is a process, not a destination, which is hard to keep in mind in this instant gratification and disposable oriented society that strives for some hazy goals, like "independence" which to me is bot a synonym for irresponsibility, aka, "no commitment" to anyone or anything.But nothing short of that broad perspective is needed when we are trying to enact the full magnitude of our,(seemingly), "lovingness" on the human level, day in, day out. For we as individuals exist on the material, emotional and the spiritual planes, and our relationships do too. To keep love alive, we must deal not only with who takes out the garbage, but how we trigger one another's wounds from the past, and what we need to do to raise the consciousness of our love so that it is a reflection of our highest and best selves.And this, is no small task....

love is undefinable, its a different experience each time and for each person, i guess you justknow it...it ignores things like distance....differences....it just seems to find its way there

Feelings reside in us like a river and pass through our consciousness in an evermoving flow. They range from fear, sadness, shame, and anger to joy, delight, exuberance and playfulness. At any moment, we can reach in and discover what we're feeling. Saying what you feel is giving audible language to the flow of feelings, discovering and articulating the emotions that are the constant undercurrent of our lives.
Revealingt these emotional tides to the person you love is a way for you to continue to endear yourself to your partner. We often think that intimacy is created merely by "falling-in-love" or by immediatly jumping into bed, or by what we do, plan,buy, or even persue together. But it is actually getting to know another person through the intricate texture of his or her emotions that makes us feel truly connected. In fact, an intimate relationship at its core is a process of trading feelings to a high degree.
Paradoxically and sadly, it's often when we love someone that we tend not to share our emotions and revert to information-laden conversation. It just doesn't occur to most, that the other person is interested in what we are sad, happy, scared or angry about. In this way, surprisingly, proximity can breed not intimacy but a sense of isolation.
Believe it or not, it's the experience of knowing you that your beloved wants. He or she wants to see the full kaleidoscope of your inner emotional contents, to understand how you feel, to discover what makes you tick. It's all this that makes you who you are, that makes you uniquely lovable....
If it's hard for you to express your emotions, you need to know that it will be worth it to step into these unfamiliar waters and discover the treasures at your depths. Not only will your partner be pleased to connect with you, but the experience of discovering your feelings will give you a greater sense ofthe richness of your own inner life. So, let the person you love enter this underground stream of your feelings so they can cherish you, so he or she can love you even more, by starting to say, exactly and always, whatever is in your heart and mind;say what you feel.

I don't know I thought I had found it a few times, but I guess not...

When one of you finds it... Be sure to tell the rest of us so we know what to look for..lol

Once again Abra...Bravo!

:)

Who the hell knows!!!

wow. This person should write a book.

ok just for clarification cause I have been getting this a lot lately...i was not in any way dissing your stuff.... I am just tired and thats what rolled off my fingers,,,to be honest I just read the question and answered I never read the responces...This person is Lilly, nice to meet you...I'm not usually this sour....i'm heading to the cs bar now might lighten me up!