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airlinerCentral, New Jersey USA23 Threads 2 Polls 5,143 PostsI understand and I agree....I posted that to point out what factors can play into the victim's forgiveness process.....It wasn't my view
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There could be various circumstances, I think to much to list.....
But if the person is depressed, that can change and be helped.....
If they got bombed at a party..that can change and prevented in the future.
If they are young still, they can learn.
The cheater can be in a controlling, abusive relationship...They need to get out. That can change.
I wasn't just assuming it was in the cheater's character. If so, the answer is simple "always a cheater"
Regardless, It is a huge gamble to forgive with something like this and possibly setting yourself up for potentially devastating results.
But if the person is depressed, that can change and be helped.....
If they got bombed at a party..that can change and prevented in the future.
If they are young still, they can learn.
The cheater can be in a controlling, abusive relationship...They need to get out. That can change.
I wasn't just assuming it was in the cheater's character. If so, the answer is simple "always a cheater"
Regardless, It is a huge gamble to forgive with something like this and possibly setting yourself up for potentially devastating results.
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I think I developed a so called "nose"for cheating people by now..it takes time, but at some stage, there is a little bit of a snagglypooh, when I catch their word ....I have also made great friends online and found out, that people I enjoy talking to online, are people I enjoy in real life as well
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yes understood your point
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lo sorry that was to you!
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it does not take my posts the way i want ..grumph
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You mean the cheater has the problem and the person who lives with the cheater bis quite ok?Me no understand
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If you break the trust it s over.
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Once someone has cheated on you, then it is best just to get out of the relaionship, as they will just too likely do it again. Cheating is a sign that they (the cheater) has more self-centered interest that will seldom if ever change.
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once a cheater always a cheater thats what i say 
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From my own experience, I have to agree with Airliner that it has to do with fundamental character issues ...
My ex cheated on me, then cheated on his girlfriend and is now cheating on his current wife. Each time blaming his partner for not giving him all the attention he needs.
My ex cheated on me, then cheated on his girlfriend and is now cheating on his current wife. Each time blaming his partner for not giving him all the attention he needs.
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I think it depends why they cheat i the first place....theres a whole host of reasons.....if its just for doing its sake.because one person cannot remain faithful to the other...then no..i dont think they would change......if somebody is i a bad relationship...is feeling vulnerable, and ends up in a situation where they end up sleeping with somebody as a means of comfort...its still cheating......but it doesnt necessarily mean that it will happen again....
Just my 10 pence worth...
Just my 10 pence worth...
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Leopards and spots........
Spots and cheetahs.........
Spots and cheetahs.........
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If you truely love the person you are with you wouldn't cheat in the first place...So yes I feel they would cheat again. just my 2 cents
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