Controlling personalities ( Archived) (44)

Yes indeed!

Ihave and it sucked.I was married to someone with a very controling and bossy attitude.He thought he could do whatever he wanted to anyone.I fixed his wagon,i turned the tables on him.He didn't like me treating him like he treated me.I told him,If the shoe fits wear it and see how it feels ,then i told him to hit the bricks.I raised our 3 children all by myself.I have been divorced,and totally single,since July,14th 1975.Iam not going to giveup,i will find that special and gentle Country Man.

Well done!

I had controlling parents
and men in relationships the same.
It is not a comfortable place to be...
it hard to love, to care, to trust, to be safe in a place like that.
But, you can trust with the right person, and people in general.

Yes dear my late husband was the worst I had ever encounted.He tried to control everything.He was physically and verbal,and mentally abusive.And he couldnt competely control me so it was constant.I didnt know how affected I was untill he was gone.I have coped with it and moved on.But it has made it very hard for me to trust a man.I am always looking for signs.I would never get in that situation again.Good Luck sweety.

Sit, lie down, now stay!.......

I am an A Type Personnality... But Im also a nice guy

Well, what a question....huge for sure.....i was married to a women for 13 years that was and still is so controlling that she is miserable.....all i konw is that until the day that i seen what made people controlling i was powerless to exist with her without conflict.....then it became apparent to me that it was fear, the more controlling a person is the more fear that exist within them.....that is why if they have been taught religion the fear will be greater....the fear of being wrong.....this fear is within each human and there is nothing to do that can dispell it besides go thru it.....as one would a ghost....it cannot touch you nor has any power of you.....but it sure as hell feels like it.....itis an illusion......so if ya love somebody with lots a fear and you want to stay.....you have to want to help them see their fear is not real....how can one do this....do ont believe it....do not react to it......each negative thing we react to we make BIGGER.....the snowball effect......the cause and effect......for every action there is a reaction.....if the reaction to the fear is what we display....the bigger it will get....and fear makes control.....so if we try to resist control.....it will become bigger in the other......like the bully......be scared and run and he WILL try to catch you.....walk up and shake his hand and say i am sorry you don't like me but i kinda like you.....i see how you helped that little girl the other day when you tought no one was watching.....i think your just scared and have to beat up on me to prove to you and everybodyn your not....so go ahead......HE WILL NOT. If someone is so mad at you they want to rip your head off......fear will tell you to run.....love will say go hug them but fear stops us......hug them and see how much anger disolves immediately......it is surely true.....well, i am a nobody and only tell you the things that have troubled me so much.....they are the things that have helped me......i propose these truths are in each human ever born.....and if it is time for you to do something different, then these things will make sense to you but it is not because i am smarter or with greater understanding.....but because these things can only make sense to the mind to another if they are already within you TOO, in your heart....always have been and it is just a friend that wants to help another as they have felt the same pain so often themselves......anytime, ben

Actually the worst ones are the ones who control through manipulation, making you believe that you are making your own decisions. I understand that bullies are bad, but subtle bullies are worse because they completely wear you down until you wonder if there is any of you left!

Recently liberated.

Trusting others is not the issue at this point.

It is trusting your own judgment of others that is.

Use your new knowledge to meet different people.