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Personally I would... Because she's already done it once so what would make her not want to go and do it again... This time around it will just be easier for her!! Under no circumstances is cheating okay...
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if you have proof, absolutely......
turn in her cheating Oss
turn in her cheating Oss
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OUCH!!! What a rough spot to be in!! 
One thing I would do would be to make 100% certain you have all the facts straight before mentioning a single word. 
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OMG! What a position to be in...poor you. If you were my sister, I'd be so grateful to be told...oh yes! Think if he found out, and ALSO found out you knew but didn't tell him?
Just a thought....
Good luck!
Just a thought....
Good luck!
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If you are sure of it, then you should. It's your brother, and even though it's gonna kill him to hear it, he needs to know. The sooner the better.
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If it were me, and I knew for sure, I would absolutely tell him.
You'll be doing him a favor by (hopefully) saving him even more heartache in the long run.
You'll be doing him a favor by (hopefully) saving him even more heartache in the long run.
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oh I have prof just my bro is bessoted with her
I really want to say somethin but my mum says not to (its not his mum)
I really want to say somethin but my mum says not to (its not his mum)
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I'm in the Tell Him camp. It could be a very difficult thing to live with - for both of you. Best of luck.
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I can't tell you what to do. All I can say is, personally, I would have a private talk with her first. If the outcome of that is not satisfactory, I would make it clear to her that either she must come clean with my brother or I would have to tell him.
But I would have to be asbolutely sure of my facts first, without any doubt whatsoever. Without knowing all the facts, I may unwittingly help destroy a perfectly good relationship and also end up being the big bad wolf in all of this. Life just ain't black and white!!
JMO.
But I would have to be asbolutely sure of my facts first, without any doubt whatsoever. Without knowing all the facts, I may unwittingly help destroy a perfectly good relationship and also end up being the big bad wolf in all of this. Life just ain't black and white!!
JMO.
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I emphathize with your situation. It's hard to know when to meddle and when to let it be.
But in this case, my opinion is, yes, he should know. However.... I would suggest confronting the wife-to-be with what you know and tell her you're planning to tell your brother. Give her a chance to come clean with him.
But in this case, my opinion is, yes, he should know. However.... I would suggest confronting the wife-to-be with what you know and tell her you're planning to tell your brother. Give her a chance to come clean with him.
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Wow, how well do you and your vbrother get along?? are you close? or have you in the past rained on his parade with naysaying advice?
My sister did not believe me ...3 years later and two kids she discovered his cheating ways.... now we are close, bu twhen you love someone you become blind and think you know the person better than anyone else including your close freinds and family.
and on a personal note I was anoutcast with my sister pretty much for the entire marriage.... its a tough call search your heart and soul then do what you think is rightm maybe even get other family members input on this.
it's not a task to be taken lightly that's for sure.. Good luck
My sister did not believe me ...3 years later and two kids she discovered his cheating ways.... now we are close, bu twhen you love someone you become blind and think you know the person better than anyone else including your close freinds and family.
and on a personal note I was anoutcast with my sister pretty much for the entire marriage.... its a tough call search your heart and soul then do what you think is rightm maybe even get other family members input on this.
it's not a task to be taken lightly that's for sure.. Good luck
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Well I am usually in the Mind my own Business camp like your mum but this is your brother. But if he is that taken with her, the proof better be undeniable.
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oh oh....better make sure there is a pre nup....
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Mmm...I thought it was MUCH worse than that. Yes it's bad, but there are more comprimising betrayals...
And no, I'm not saying it isn't bad before I get jumped on!
Got some good advice up there...you'll be fine!
And no, I'm not saying it isn't bad before I get jumped on!
Got some good advice up there...you'll be fine!
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You keep your mouth shut.
If you have a great relationship with your brother then don't interfere in his personal life. N matter what you think.
It is his personal life and no one else's. He will not thank you for it. Especially if he is as you say besotted.
And he will forever; be second guessing himself on whether you were right or wrong, if you meddle.
It is his life let him make his own mistakes. No ones life is at stake and no public property is being damaged. For all you know he could be aware of it and gets off on it.
When one gets married they are suppose to know the person they are marrying on all levels. It seems that he still has a lot to learn, from what you say. It could be that he needs to learn this lesson in life.
She could be having that final fling before settling down to wedlock. Lots of guys do it and see no harm in it. Why can't she.
Leave it alone and forget everything you think you know about her. You can't condemn a person until you have openly talked to them about the said situation. You have a photo but no story. It could be completely harmless but portrayed wrong by your snapshot.
Stand back and let your brother live his own life.
If you have a great relationship with your brother then don't interfere in his personal life. N matter what you think.
It is his personal life and no one else's. He will not thank you for it. Especially if he is as you say besotted.
And he will forever; be second guessing himself on whether you were right or wrong, if you meddle.
It is his life let him make his own mistakes. No ones life is at stake and no public property is being damaged. For all you know he could be aware of it and gets off on it.
When one gets married they are suppose to know the person they are marrying on all levels. It seems that he still has a lot to learn, from what you say. It could be that he needs to learn this lesson in life.
She could be having that final fling before settling down to wedlock. Lots of guys do it and see no harm in it. Why can't she.
Leave it alone and forget everything you think you know about her. You can't condemn a person until you have openly talked to them about the said situation. You have a photo but no story. It could be completely harmless but portrayed wrong by your snapshot.
Stand back and let your brother live his own life.
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My brother is gettin merried, but I know the wift to be has cheated.
Do I tell my bro or not????
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