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You've arrived at the correct course methinks. Get to know her - get to know her children. One package.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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I think treating the whole package is the correct way to go anywhere, on CS or in real life.
My concern is this.
As a mother, I'm very sure she's protective of her children. She might not want to involve them in your initial meeting, just in case you're(and I'm not saying you are) a psycho. So be prepared for this suggestion to fall flat, and for that reason.
Good luck man, I'm pulling for you.
TET
My concern is this.
As a mother, I'm very sure she's protective of her children. She might not want to involve them in your initial meeting, just in case you're(and I'm not saying you are) a psycho. So be prepared for this suggestion to fall flat, and for that reason.
Good luck man, I'm pulling for you.
TET
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I say no.
It is not the kids you are trying to get to know. So at this stage let the kids be. Just meet her and find out who she is. Spoil her; (as if as you describe) then she would get that very often.
Several dates down the line when you get that far. Thats when you try to start involving the kids.
In the mean time .....
I'll leave it there.
It is not the kids you are trying to get to know. So at this stage let the kids be. Just meet her and find out who she is. Spoil her; (as if as you describe) then she would get that very often.
Several dates down the line when you get that far. Thats when you try to start involving the kids.
In the mean time .....
I'll leave it there.
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Go for it!!! Being a single working mom, I know how she feels. I know when my kids were small I always felt guilty going out and having a good time and they were stuck at home/. Being a single mom I'm sure her budget is a little tight and she can't do as much for her kids as she would like. This would also save her babysitting money. Which is a big relief also. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
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yeah thats my answer, NO...why becasue its her kids...i would be very protective of them myself...good idea..thanks
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From a woman's perspective, I would insist on getting to know you first before involving you in the lives of the children. Its so easy for things to not work out and the children experience one "uncle", if you like, after another.
As adults, you both need time and opportunity to establish a stable and fulfilling relationship first. Don't forget, there can be all kinds of obstacles to overcome with the children trying to accept a new man around the place. It doesn't mean to say that you are not accepting the children also as a "package". I feel there is a natural progression as in "walk before you try to run"??
JMO.
As adults, you both need time and opportunity to establish a stable and fulfilling relationship first. Don't forget, there can be all kinds of obstacles to overcome with the children trying to accept a new man around the place. It doesn't mean to say that you are not accepting the children also as a "package". I feel there is a natural progression as in "walk before you try to run"??
JMO.
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Can totally see the wisdom in that course. Well said! 
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I like your way of thinking and I think it would impress her but not for a first date.
Most mothers are very protective of their children especially so soon after the break up of "the family". My guess is she will be pleased with the suggestion of including the kids but will decline the offer until she knows you better.
Most mothers are very protective of their children especially so soon after the break up of "the family". My guess is she will be pleased with the suggestion of including the kids but will decline the offer until she knows you better.
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okay
now i got and answer from a single mom...everyone should know that i am not going to get envolved with her kids at the park...herself and the kids will do what they want and i will set back and let her come to me when its time for her to relax after having fun with her kids
i have two of my own...two girls
now i got and answer from a single mom...everyone should know that i am not going to get envolved with her kids at the park...herself and the kids will do what they want and i will set back and let her come to me when its time for her to relax after having fun with her kids
i have two of my own...two girls
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do what is ur heart telling you even if all the world say different 
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from a single mums point of view,,i wud say no,,,i see ur jest in it,,,but theres no way if i was meeting someone,,even for person to sit back and watch i wud go,,,as a parent,,with a past hurts from relationships,,the last thing is to involve the kids,,at begining,of it.I wud rather build a relationship,,first,,even before letting my kids,,know about it,,,till i,m kind of sure,,r feel its secure enuff,,just my thought on it,as a single mum,
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I agree w/ Dandelion. I've met a lady here who has a child. She'd rather get to know me before she brings the daughter into the mix. Kids are great - and I can see your point of wanting to take them all out for a day of fun, but it's prolly better for you and her to get to know one another before bringing the children along. But who knows. Ask her if she feel comfy with your idea. She just might think it's a wonderful idea.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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It's not your decision to involve her kids. Get to know her. Let her know you are open to doing things with all of them. But, ultimately, it's her decision to decide at what point she wants them involved.
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Shes recently divorced ( how long ago?) she wont say? with two kids, one of those (at home, works full time, moms) which i admire her strength and courage!
im thinking of asking for us to meet and im not sure, i am going about this question correctly but heres my idea!
This whole time i have been thinking of me and her?! I've been trying to get her to meet with me..i have only asked her one time so far, so no bad jokes..
This is my idea...why not treat the whole package instead of just the wrapper? What i mean by this fortune cookie tale, is take her kids along with her to the water park and let them enjoy themselves!?!? and i stay back a little and watch...now i came up with this idea because i felt that a women that works full time and with two kids, proberly never gets a chance to spend real time with her kids without worries, i want to give her the chance...My question to the world is this!!!
Should i approach her with this idea?
Please spend time with the answer...if you cant come up with more then two words dont bother answering