Well, I can only speak from my own experience of course. I find that the common chant from men is that they want an "independant, self sufficient, ambitious, educated" woman "with her own money". I personally don't think that a person's station in life determines their worth. No, I don't think I'd be interested in dating anyone that lives under a bridge or in a box, but the guy living under the bridge (or in a box) could still be a genuinely nice person.
I've found that some men will initially find a brainy woman stimulating and interesting at first but then quickly become somewhat resentful of it. I've been patient & understanding thus far of these types, but I can only do so much. Has my brain doomed me to a fate of singularity? Has my education estranged me from my male peers?
Just wondering.
Anyone else in my boat? Or am I sailing this sea all by my lonesome?
What you say rings of truth about some guys...getting resentful. Sad but true. Is very truth about how a person can be...does not matter if they do live under a bridge or work in a high tower...woman or man. Either can be very good, or very bad. Hench the, do not judge a book by its cover.
I can only speak for me, I do not think you are doomed to a fate of singularity. It really only takes one instance in time then bam....funny thing is, it probably will happen at the moment you are not looking. You are a human, just like we all. Means you have feelings, so I do not think education detracts from things. Only that perhaps people do not want to look further. Or, you do not want to show further until you are sure you can trust them enough. Just my two lincolns.
I can agree with your two lincolns, I just wonder why so much attention is always paid to it. Minus my studies, Im a regular girl that just loves to travel and enjoy life, like anyone else.
how many times have i heard "you challenge and stimulate my thinking-thats what i want/need"
and then he flips later- funny how many profiles/people say one thing but when you get to know them you notice they perhaps are listing hopes of how theyd like to be? but arent there yet...
That is a tough question. I could analyze this every way but sunday...would not make me right. Society sort of causes people to think about that first, lets face it....hard to make a dollar sometimes. Unfortunately, we all seem to have forgotten...what makes us happy? We get so focused on success for that future later on in life that....before we know it life is over.
Like you, can only speak for me. Life is too short, and I know I am not getting any younger. If you are a great person, one that I can see in the heart and it works....does not matter what you know...how much you make or the rest. Why should it? Generally speaking, 2 hearts beat as one so....means sharing something good together...think you know where i am going with this.
HealthyLivingSomewhere In, Tennessee USA4,775 posts
I could have written your thread myself. I am definitely in your boat.
I believe that this type of man who says he wants the woman you have described, then comes to resent her, is a man who is insecure in himself.
Why can they not just accept us for who we are and not feel threatened? I do not attempt to pose as a threat to them. They should feel proud to have an intellegent woman on their arm, someone others think highly of, instead of a "dumb blonde" type.
I have about given up on ever having a mate and have even stopped searching. I am doomed to be alone. I would just love to have a companion who is understanding, who wants to go out and share lifes joys. Where is the threat in that???
I even tried marrying a man who lived under a bridge. Don't do it, it didn't work either.
Where do all the intelligent men hang out... who aren't arrogant and stuck on themselves?
cristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands17,243 posts
right!
Lets then pretend we are weak or we don't know what to do sometimes...? I always ask "what do you think"...of course i ask this to a very intelligent man...or at least he has to show me to be so!
You post some good questions and as a guy, wish i could answer. I never feel threatened by a woman, why? I have the same potential, or they the same so.....i love intelligent women. Anyway, do not think you are doomed to be alone. They are around, trust me.
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I've found that some men will initially find a brainy woman stimulating and interesting at first but then quickly become somewhat resentful of it. I've been patient & understanding thus far of these types, but I can only do so much. Has my brain doomed me to a fate of singularity? Has my education estranged me from my male peers?
Just wondering.
Anyone else in my boat? Or am I sailing this sea all by my lonesome?