Please enlighten me ( Archived) (35)

This happens to everybody. I'll bet most of us have a story to tell about this same sort of thing. I have several. I won't bore you with them.

As I was typing this I began to wonder have I ever done this to anyone? Not intentionally but there maybe some who would say that I have.

Sometimes as you go your interest becomes more intense sometimes it wanes. It can be very tricky to end contact with the latter without hurting the persons feelings or leading them on.

Just last week I was emailing with a gentleman on another site. We discovered we were going to be in the same town close to the same time. He asked me to meet him at the mall at 11 am. I told him it would be difficult but perhaps I could be there by noon. Mistake number one. I never got his cell number, mistake number two. I ended getting held up at an earlier appointment and did not make it to the rendezvous until almost 12:15. Naturally he was not there.
When I got home I got back on the sight to email my apology. He had deleted his profile moments before.

I think one of the things to look out for is if they live in a remote area. People that live in such isolated environments tend to get rather desperate, and will say almost anything for companionship. Another warning sign is a twisted sense of humor (which is often a symptom of living in such an area, since it helps alleviate the pain of loneliness). Changing one's main profile photo, particularly in a self-flattering way, can be an indication of deviousness. Also, people wearing hats or caps may be attempting to cover up a thinning hairline. This kind of individual deserves a special wariness.

Just some observations from my personal experience.

Thank you all so much

His whys don't interest me - his rudeness needs no explanation.

And no, we did not ever meet - that was "scheduled" for later

But we did spend several hours daily - voice chat.

That is my problem - I know the signs in person - also, I know about scammers - I scambaited for years. I can spot a scammer a mile off.

(jstreet610 - your friend has a scammer on his hands - a bold one.)

I just was not aware of signs in chat - and cyber dating in general.

I am, such a virgin in that area and SURELY do not want to waste time like that again.

I do appreciate all the advice, will remember it, and I will NOT give up.

WW

Wise words, indeed, Z.

My pleasure, honey-sweetie

There's no sure way to tell whether or not someone is sincere before it's time for "the rubber to meet the road."

I had an online relationship for 2 years and thought I knew her. I found out the hard way that she was very careful of every minute to hide as much as possible from me without "seeming" to.