I could really use some advice (37)
JustMe0807Marshall, Missouri USA34 Threads 558 PostsI got a call at work at 3 o'clock this morning from my cousin saying that he heard on the scanner that a 911 call had been placed from my house and that there had been a suicide in our basement...I called home and my son said I needed to come home right away because his best friend had hung himself in our basement...How do you Help your children through so much pain...I don't know what to say or do to help my son's get through this..My youngest son is the one who found him...
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Oh boy...I'm so sorry girl..
I wish I could give you some advice, but I really can't. What I will do though, is keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I wish I could give you some advice, but I really can't. What I will do though, is keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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OH Dear am so sorry..all you can do is be there lend a shoulder and just listen..It will take time as everything does to heal...Pls am sorry...Hugs for both..All of you will be in my prayers
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you should get your children, all of them into counceling right away...
talk to them...don't let them keep this inside of themselves...
I wish you the best of luck my dear...if you need someone to chat with...please email me...I will do whatever I can to help you...
talk to them...don't let them keep this inside of themselves...
I wish you the best of luck my dear...if you need someone to chat with...please email me...I will do whatever I can to help you...
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thank you all very much...
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Your welcome take care..and if you want to talk i am here for you..
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Wow. I cannot offer much in the way of advice, although the counselling suggestion sounds like a good one. Thoughts and prayers to you and your sons.
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This is so sad and I am so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. The peer pressure for the children these days is down right awful. Just know that we are all here for you.
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Thank you all for all your prayers...
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yes he keeps saying that if he would have just gone downstairs sooner he could have stopped him...I keep telling him that there was nothing he could have done..That he had already made up his mind to do it and it would have happend no matter what he would have done..
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You and your family are in my prayers.
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By all means keep telling him that! also tell him that no matter what terrible thing he could ever do you will be there for him and there is nothing that will ever turn you against him. Tell him it's better to be open and truthful to you at all times because you have a lot more life experience than he does and nothing is as bleak as it may seem. Tell him (even if it's a lie) that whatever he could do, you've already done so nothing he can tell you will shock you.
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Omg... The best thing I would think is to just be with them right now.. your presence will help a lot.. I hope that helps..
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thanks again for everyones support and prayers...I have to get off here for now but I will be back later this evening.......
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Thinking of you all at this terrible time.
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Take heart in knowing that children are much stronger than we know. They adapt and weather adversity well. Just be there for them and they will be fine. Be strong yourself and they will follow suit.
With that said, I will remember you and your family in my prayers.
With that said, I will remember you and your family in my prayers.
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Another suggestion, if the kids school has a counselor, get in first thing tomorrow morning (or call) and talk with the counselor and let them know what's going on so they can talk with your son. Also, let his teacher (s) know what happened so that they can also be part of the support group & can be aware of why your son may be acting differently. Let the school administration know as well, they can probably steer you in the right direction for grief or crisis counseling....it'll also help them be prepared for other students who'll just be finding out about their classmate. Contacting a crisis center would be a good resource for finding a counselor that specifically deals with this type of thing. And like everyone else has said, just be there...keep the lines of communication open.
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You need to be there for them it will help a lot !!!!!! but professional help should definitely be sought !!------ This thread is Archived ------
Yes deffinatly get him some counselling take any help offered. Most of all tell him you there for him if and when he wants to talk. Don't force him to talk about it he will get there in his on time. Also reasure him there was nothing he could have done. because i am sorry but if someone is really determined to commit sucide they will find away.
My Friend hung her self many years ago and i still go through bouts of being angry with her angry with my self. Then when i am calm i realize she was ill. Its so difficult especialy as your son found them. Be perpared for anger at the victim and him self and any one else involved. This is part of the shock and grieving process it is hard enough to lose someone but sometimes you feel betrayed that they didnt want to be with you any more your feelings are so mixed up between anger and Guilt. So i would say listen if he wants to talk just let him kow your there and be very open about the way you feel as it will help him open up.
My Friend hung her self many years ago and i still go through bouts of being angry with her angry with my self. Then when i am calm i realize she was ill. Its so difficult especialy as your son found them. Be perpared for anger at the victim and him self and any one else involved. This is part of the shock and grieving process it is hard enough to lose someone but sometimes you feel betrayed that they didnt want to be with you any more your feelings are so mixed up between anger and Guilt. So i would say listen if he wants to talk just let him kow your there and be very open about the way you feel as it will help him open up.
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