New guy... now what? ( Archived) (28)

sweety_33: Okay, back from the date. He was better looking than I thought. It went okay. Nothing to write home about. We went to dinner, which was okay. He ate a lot. I mean a lot. I didn't know what we were doing after, so I wasn't sure if I should wrap my meal to go or not (there was more than half of it left), and he ate it! Plus all of his. Okay, fine. Then, he asked me what I wanted to do, and nothing I suggested seemed to sit well with him. He shot all my ideas down. I said okay, where do you want to go? I'm new to my area and he grew up here, so I thought he'd have some ideas. He kept asking me. So, finally we went to some car show where he goes often (he has a classic car), and then we drove around some. Then, I said I was tired (I really am), and he ended up driving me home. We talked a bit, and then I said goodnight. That was it. Oh, and he proclaimed how much he liked me and wanted to see me again. I guess I would, but it was just okay. I don't know if we're that compatible. We have a lot in common professionally and all that, but we couldn't even decide what to do tonight. I don't think we have the same interests. Honestly, I was a bit bored. Oh, and he talked about himself a lot. A whole lot. So, then he asked me at one point how he did. I was like, what do you mean? He said, oh, I must be judging him in some way; he basically wanted to know what I thought. So, I told him. I said that while it was fine he wanted to share with me, he didn't seem to ask me a whole lot about me. So, then he was apologetic and said sometimes he's uncomfortable asking about someone else because he doesn't want to ask the wrong questions. Eh - whatever! In writing about it here, I think afterall it wasn't great, and I don't know if I'd go out with him again. I'm not upset, but not that thrilled either.

Oh well...

sweety_33: Okay, back from the date. He was better looking than I thought. It went okay. Nothing to write home about. We went to dinner, which was okay. He ate a lot. I mean a lot. I didn't know what we were doing after, so I wasn't sure if I should wrap my meal to go or not (there was more than half of it left), and he ate it! Plus all of his. Okay, fine. Then, he asked me what I wanted to do, and nothing I suggested seemed to sit well with him. He shot all my ideas down. I said okay, where do you want to go? I'm new to my area and he grew up here, so I thought he'd have some ideas. He kept asking me. So, finally we went to some car show where he goes often (he has a classic car), and then we drove around some. Then, I said I was tired (I really am), and he ended up driving me home. We talked a bit, and then I said goodnight. That was it. Oh, and he proclaimed how much he liked me and wanted to see me again. I guess I would, but it was just okay. I don't know if we're that compatible. We have a lot in common professionally and all that, but we couldn't even decide what to do tonight. I don't think we have the same interests. Honestly, I was a bit bored. Oh, and he talked about himself a lot. A whole lot. So, then he asked me at one point how he did. I was like, what do you mean? He said, oh, I must be judging him in some way; he basically wanted to know what I thought. So, I told him. I said that while it was fine he wanted to share with me, he didn't seem to ask me a whole lot about me. So, then he was apologetic and said sometimes he's uncomfortable asking about someone else because he doesn't want to ask the wrong questions. Eh - whatever! In writing about it here, I think afterall it wasn't great, and I don't know if I'd go out with him again. I'm not upset, but not that thrilled either.

Oh well...

skwidwurd: sounds kinda awkward but it really might be worth giving it another go. i remember a particular frosty first date i had and when i agreed to go on another we ended up lasting 5 years. you really can't know a person after just one date. Sometimes i tend to talk a lot about myself if my date is quiet. it's just my way of avoiding an uncomfortable silence. my advice would be to go out again and make sure you enjoy yourself.

skwidwurd: sounds kinda awkward but it really might be worth giving it another go. i remember a particular frosty first date i had and when i agreed to go on another we ended up lasting 5 years. you really can't know a person after just one date. Sometimes i tend to talk a lot about myself if my date is quiet. it's just my way of avoiding an uncomfortable silence. my advice would be to go out again and make sure you enjoy yourself.