Here we have to "talk" not in real life... ( Archived) (27)

have you realised that talkative people here might be quiet in real life? I was just thinking that when we meet in real, we'll have to start all over again in knowing the person even though we play a lot here.

For those who have met in person, ever felt that in person it was totally new? Was it too different? Maybe this "difference" is what makes people feel disappointed...because they were expecting bananas all the time in real life. Hey, for those who fall in love here, maybe you shouldn't give up on that first difference impression, he/she is not different he/she is just more complex than what she/he shows here...?

What do you think, your experiences?

I pretty much go with that thought.

After being here , you know the thoughts and ideas and have a comfort zone developed " about " the person. But, in real its going to be " a start " from there . Its unrealistic to conclude from what we see people on here as the entire picture about them while what we see in real life is also a process of getting to know and never the entire picture till a certain amount of time has elapsed.

Point is , you can never totally understand a person or his / her situation by who said what , what we saw , what we spoke etc on here as in reality things can be quite different .

Very good point cris!

No matter what we think we know from posts etc, it is only one dimension, no facial expressions, no body language, just people trying to elicit a response.

IRL I listen more than I talk. Of course I do not talk that much here either!

was thinkin just that 2 day when I read someones file saying she was shy and in here shes not.
Wonderful thing having a moniter to hide behind. I am not shy though in RL

All the information we get here it's a starter indeed


We need to count on the long walk...

Very good thread Chris.... ...

I do definitely think that the internet can serve as a shield to some people.. perhaps people who have difficulty connecting with people might feel this is a good canvas for expressing a 'better self' the 'self' they want to be...

I myself am probably a bit more expressive on here than I would be normally,... conversations with my mates, normally would tend to be more lighthearted and fun.. I do like explorative type conversations but I tend to reserve these kinds of conversation for select friends and my family (philisophical bunch )

Otherwise what you see is what you get.. one of the main draws for me, to CS is the fact that you can learn alot from other people and not be afraid to express ur thoughts...

Hi Bajan

Thanks for adding the importance of body language, facila expressions etc

Hi..i have met Eric in real..and he is like he is on here...more crazier..but when we first layed eyes on each other he was nervous...shy..quiet..but that didnt last long for us...He is such a funny guy..sweet...kind..nice..he is all that and then some..God i hope he dont read this...

I have met a few in person that disappointed me.

I sort of felt like they deliberately misrepresented themselves. In other words, they were dishonest.

One girl was really really fat. I don't mean just a little bit plump. I don't mean a few extra pounds, or big boned. I mean morbidly obese. I don't judge her for that. I do judge her because she explicitly told me otherwise during our conversations.

Another, just misrepresented herself alltogether. She was really very different in person than what I had come to expect based on our conversations.

There have been some others that were A-okay both online, and off-line...just circumstances didn't work for some sad reason or another.

I have been told that the internet me is a pretty good reflection of the real me.