gillyloves69OPlondon, Greater London, England UK7,359 posts
gingerb: I agree with theothers Gilly, sorry. Alcoholics don't have the right to inflict the results of their habit on anyone and that includes their families.
There is a very well known "program" with a book of the same title. It is called Alcoholics Anonymous. In that book, there is a chapter to the wives, I would suggest maybe both of them read the book. Maybe she would benefit from checking out a program called Al Anon, it is for friends & family of Alcoholics.
As for those making stupid statements about alcoholics and alcoholism, I would like to see their medical credentials. The comments just go to show how uninformed (stupid) some that post in forums..
Gilly, if this person is really a friend of yours, you could be of great benefit to him..
"Alcoholism" is a disease, I wonder how many would have these feelings if a spouse or close friend or lover or parent or child had cancer? So many wonder why others would want nothing to do with them.
Gilly, since you are closer to the situation than I am, please forgive me for even attempting to know something, I couldn't possible know a thing about. If your friend and his wife owned a bar together....probably it's more like drinking out the profits(pun on words) rather than just drinking and falling off his feet. Most men who become alcoholic, didn't started out that way. First it was one drink, and then two,and the rest is another long story. If he is unhappy, he will drink also, and his pain may be deeper than anyone really knows. But Gilly, I think you are the best friend, so your giving a listening hear, and a broad shoulder to lean on will be of great help. Your friend will be much happier once the misery of the divorce and the bickering is over.
she's given plenty of chances !....but thats just the good news !
the bad news is as people they're both just as bad as each other !
Maybe both of them need to go together and try to work on this that way, if they love each other maybe they would want to help each other though the hard times.
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