OK Friends.....I Need Some Help!!!! ( Archived) (29)

Good to know that u have mark, but love urself first.........its ur duty towards ur own body n soul that god has given u ,take care of it.
Eat right,excercise(will surely give u a high),cultivate some habits good ones .enjoy

I feel so lonely and blue. I have a job that I love.....but I don't want to go to work. When I come home from work....I don't want to go anywhere, don't want to talk to anyone, but Mark. Just wanna cry all the time. I am eating like the end of the world is coming and I know that is not healthy.

you've developed a dangerous side effect of having a relationship,And you know it.

If it where a teenager acting this way what would you call it?

you have allowed this attraction/relationship to consume every facet of your life...Which is a very dangerous path.
As your love/attraction grows, you as a individual are changingfrom the very person Mark became attracted to This change from your own words is not for the better.

Personally, I've never been in a LDR myself but when any thing effects so many facets of ones life in such a self inflicted detrimental way is bad... for everyone concerned.

I hope you can find a solution that both nurtures you and this relationship

Love can be a great driving force toward your goals in life together. Make plans of things to come and work toward them with love driving you. Money will be need to move and then there is clearing out the old and new things needed.......all types of things to consider. if you are worried about gaining use the drive to get in better shape or health. Use that love to drive you for better and don't give place for it to cause problems for you. Look at some of the grand things done in the name of love down through the years.

Sounds like you are dangerously close to depression if you aren't already there. You are counting too much on the impersonal interaction of this internet relationship when you should focus more on the real life people and tasks around you.

I am not saying that talking with him, planning with him, and even loving him is wrong, but it sounds like you are digging a hole that is setting yourself up. What if you are finally together and it doesn't work out? Then what?

It is an old saying called "putting all your eggs in one basket." The problem with doing that is you set yourself up not to have any eggs at the end.

I agree with volunteering, go grocery shopping, go to the lake or park, do something to get yourself out of the house and your mind focused on something else.

Sorry Red..
I agree with most of the others here,
To actually love someone you have never met is a bad idea in itself, Much worse yet to allow yourself to base your entire life on a complete unknown!!!!
This is like deep frying food in gasoline.

You have got to do thing with other people to get your life balanced again.

Mark (or any perspective partner) should be a addition to your life... not your entire life.

with you making Mark the world that your life revolves around- you might even end up scaring him off completely.

Anyone in this situation needs to make their life something to share with a partner, not live hoping that a partner will give us a life.

Sorry to be so blunt.. but you know me..
I say it like I see it, but......You clearly have other issues that need to be resolved before you actually meet Mark in the real world...
Maybe go speak to a Doc, get some help.
Spend a bit of time with real life friends and maybe not so much with the cyber friends. real human interaction.

Cyber friends are ok...........but we all need real people around us.

Damn.......... scared myself again........ got to stop talking serious

Do the opposite and stop eating and go for a lot of power walks.....you will be so happy with your new shape for your new man when he finally arrives....get a new hair do....nails etc......shop for a new wardrobe....there is no solace in food.....

You think food might be nice fried in gasoline.....Mmmmmm must give that a try some day soon.....