When you bring another person into your life, no matter if it's a child, your best friend, an aging parent or a new spouse you have to make room! You may have to give up some of the things you do to make time for them like visiting people you love or playing some sports! Make space in your home and sell or throw out some of your stuff! You may have to get rid of a pet or tenants. You may have to change your work hours do you can spend time together! You have to change habits like cleaning up or walking around in your underwear or smoking joints indoors. You may have to curtail your friends and family from just dropping in unannounced. You may have to put out a little more cash each month for entertainment or food and you might start gaining weight! You may have to also bring in their children or parents! You have to figure out if it's a sacrifice or a pleasure to do for the sake of a loving relationship.
honesty.....people say is the best policy is it really...how can you be honest without sounding rude....what about the other saying...if you don't have something nice to say to someone don't say it at all
HJFinAZ: We have no control over what another does, the only thing we can change is "ourselves"
If "WE" get hurt in a relationship, the "hurt", the "feelings" are ours and we must own them.
Personally, when I "hurt", I ask myself, "what role did YOU play"...
very very true indeed, yet I can honestly say, without stating a lie, that EVERYONE of us has been hurt in love. Question though is, did we learn from it? as you ask yourself, what role did you play in it? maybe we should all be asking ourselves such a question. good post.
mrsmiles4444: very very true indeed, yet I can honestly say, without stating a lie, that EVERYONE of us has been hurt in love. Question though is, did we learn from it? as you ask yourself, what role did you play in it? maybe we should all be asking ourselves such a question. good post.
I "always" ask it, most seldom reply. Or, it is a SGT. Shultz reply "I KNOW NOTHING"....
HJFinAZ: Stop giving a crap what others say/think.... BTW, I do believe it was a compliment to you and if you look like a model, wear the badge with pride..
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You may have to give up some of the things you do to make time for them like visiting people you love or playing some sports! Make space in your home and sell or throw out some of your stuff! You may have to get rid of a pet or tenants. You may have to change your work hours do you can spend time together! You have to change habits like cleaning up or walking around in your underwear or smoking joints indoors. You may have to curtail your friends and family from just dropping in unannounced. You may have to put out a little more cash each month for entertainment or food and you might start gaining weight! You may have to also bring in their children or parents!
You have to figure out if it's a sacrifice or a pleasure to do for the sake of a loving relationship.