Sunddy,an old love of yours would call you,after 10 years (You really haven't gotten over yet..) (51)
womanofvalues: Post: From the guy point of veiw, This guy has been thinking of you at least off and on for 10 years. It's REALLY hard for a guy to do what he is doing. He coming crawling back, even if it dosen't look that way to you, I bet my last dollar it feels that way to him. And he's doing it. He may very well feel like he's never going to find anyone like you. I say absolutly, give him a CHANCE. I'm not saying go walzing down any isles any time soon. You don't need to rush either. I'm not saying play games with the poor guy's heart, but if he's for real, he's not going anywhere any time soon. I would be excited about this if I were you.
I noticed he was asking for" forgivness". If this was about cheating, then all bets are off. Run, that leopard dosen't change it's spots, but anything short of that, hey take a shot. give him a chance. jmho
Yes... all of you got a bit right.. But you bob1959... I must... say have a good acknowledge from people. I mean as a man you got much right. But... After a long conversation with him, I said that I would forgive him... And that I needed some time... He agreed. He said that He would call me back in two weeks, and never did again... I found him after 11 months... Whem he realized that was me on the phone, there was a silence... He most of being thinking ..How the hell did I found out where he was..! As I requisited an answer from him... Why did he called me.. He said that he was going to a hard time.. But it had nothing to do with me... Ans he took everything back what he told me on that phone called.. I just wanted to know.. What goes on peoples head for someone to do such a mean thing that he really aimed to do to me.. He was after that, very mean to me.. I and said to him, that, I did forgive him... I was very sincere to him... But now... I am going to do something.. That I had of done since he had called me for the first time. Because, now.. I don't want him any more, a lost completely respect him. He commited a crime against me.. and I can prove it.. My pride is very hurted.. And I can't forgive him for the second time.. I just can't... I suffered a lot because of him.. What would you do on my place...? Should I forgive him now again! And he'll be ready to do next crime against other person maybe? We all have to learn the hard way.. I think.. You right.. He blow his second chance ! And he haven't changed at all... He just got worst then he was before.. That hurts... because deep inside I do feel some pitty for him.. But, I love myself first.. And I won't loose my face !
I noticed he was asking for" forgivness". If this was about cheating, then all bets are off. Run, that leopard dosen't change it's spots, but anything short of that, hey take a shot. give him a chance. jmho
Yes... all of you got a bit right.. But you bob1959... I must... say have a good acknowledge from people. I mean as a man you got much right. But... After a long conversation with him, I said that I would forgive him... And that I needed some time... He agreed. He said that He would call me back in two weeks, and never did again... I found him after 11 months... Whem he realized that was me on the phone, there was a silence... He most of being thinking ..How the hell did I found out where he was..! As I requisited an answer from him... Why did he called me.. He said that he was going to a hard time.. But it had nothing to do with me... Ans he took everything back what he told me on that phone called.. I just wanted to know.. What goes on peoples head for someone to do such a mean thing that he really aimed to do to me.. He was after that, very mean to me.. I and said to him, that, I did forgive him... I was very sincere to him... But now... I am going to do something.. That I had of done since he had called me for the first time. Because, now.. I don't want him any more, a lost completely respect him. He commited a crime against me.. and I can prove it.. My pride is very hurted.. And I can't forgive him for the second time.. I just can't... I suffered a lot because of him.. What would you do on my place...? Should I forgive him now again! And he'll be ready to do next crime against other person maybe? We all have to learn the hard way.. I think.. You right.. He blow his second chance ! And he haven't changed at all... He just got worst then he was before.. That hurts... because deep inside I do feel some pitty for him.. But, I love myself first.. And I won't loose my face !
In other words he thought you were an easy mark and that you would be there to provide for HIS needs again to stroke his ego until he didn't need you anymore AGAIN...Nope...sorry...I'm with Claayer...ya snooze ya lose.....if you really loved me then you would have done what it took the first time to make things work....and regardless of what I may feel or have felt at one time....going backwards is not an option either!!!!!!
If you have genuinely changed then you will think of ways to show me...without words....and with genuine actions...absent that....forget it.....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: In other words he thought you were an easy mark and that you would be there to provide for HIS needs again to stroke his ego until he didn't need you anymore AGAIN...Nope...sorry...I'm with Claayer...ya snooze ya lose.....if you really loved me then you would have done what it took the first time to make things work....and regardless of what I may feel or have felt at one time....going backwards is not an option either!!!!!!If you have genuinely changed then you will think of ways to show me...without words....and with genuine actions...absent that....forget it.....
This is interesting, we don't even know the whole story here...nobody is perfect...He did contact her, that is a first step with action...what is he supposed to do?
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StressFree: This is interesting, we don't even know the whole story here...nobody is perfect...He did contact her, that is a first step with action...what is he supposed to do?
After a long conversation with him, I said that I would forgive him... And that I needed some time... He agreed. He said that He would call me back in two weeks, and never did again... I found him after 11 months... Whem he realized that was me on the phone, there was a silence... He most of being thinking ..How the hell did I found out where he was..! As I requisited an answer from him... Why did he called me.. He said that he was going to a hard time..
Not sure what happened here,but i feel i know what didn't.
Am i missing something?Seems he just needed a crutch for a bit.
Just an observation.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: In other words he thought you were an easy mark and that you would be there to provide for HIS needs again to stroke his ego until he didn't need you anymore AGAIN...Nope...sorry...I'm with Claayer...ya snooze ya lose.....if you really loved me then you would have done what it took the first time to make things work....and regardless of what I may feel or have felt at one time....going backwards is not an option either!!!!!!If you have genuinely changed then you will think of ways to show me...without words....and with genuine actions...absent that....forget it.....
I agree to an extent but noone is infallible... we are all human and make mistakes. Not getting it right the first time could well be down to human error??
That said though, I don't believe it would take TEN years to recognise it and try to put things right....??
Once bitten, twice shy?? Okay.... TWICE bitten in my case...!!
(And no reference to hair colour..... thank you!!).
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StressFree: This is interesting, we don't even know the whole story here...nobody is perfect...He did contact her, that is a first step with action...what is he supposed to do?
She just told it on the other page silly...I would not presume anything...but its' obvious by her story....
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roseofsharon: I agree to an extent but noone is infallible... we are all human and make mistakes. Not getting it right the first time could well be down to human error??
That said though, I don't believe it would take TEN years to recognise it and try to put things right....??
Once bitten, twice shy?? Okay.... TWICE bitten in my case...!!
(And no reference to hair colour..... thank you!!).
That said though, I don't believe it would take TEN years to recognise it and try to put things right....??
Once bitten, twice shy?? Okay.... TWICE bitten in my case...!!
(And no reference to hair colour..... thank you!!).
Oh I agree...but for me it would take some sort of action to demonstrate the change not words and not after 10 years...but I do see how the..."what might have been" questions may need to be answered as in your case darlin...and it's better to put them to rest sometimes...
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friendsfirst: After a long conversation with him, I said that I would forgive him... And that I needed some time... He agreed. He said that He would call me back in two weeks, and never did again ... I found him after 11 months... Whem he realized that was me on the phone, there was a silence... He most of being thinking ..How the hell did I found out where he was..! As I requisited an answer from him... Why did he called me.. He said that he was going to a hard time..
Not sure what happened here,but i feel i know what didn't.
Am i missing something?Seems he just needed a crutch for a bit.
Just an observation.
Not sure what happened here,but i feel i know what didn't.
Am i missing something?Seems he just needed a crutch for a bit.
Just an observation.
I just read that post...what a douchebag that dude was. I mean, to call after ten years and then go into hiding...man, I think I should start thinking the worst case scenarios for now on....it's kinda closer to reality...
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Hugz_n_Kissez: She just told it on the other page silly...I would not presume anything...but its' obvious by her story....
My bad...
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Only two people know the answer to this question and that is you and him.
10 years is a looooong time. I think personally I would take it as it comes and see what happens I certainly would not go rushing back into his arms.
If you felt you wanted to persue this the key word is "SLOW" its been 10 years, so if it takes a year or more to get back together then so be it.
10 years is a looooong time. I think personally I would take it as it comes and see what happens I certainly would not go rushing back into his arms.
If you felt you wanted to persue this the key word is "SLOW" its been 10 years, so if it takes a year or more to get back together then so be it.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: Oh I agree...but for me it would take some sort of action to demonstrate the change not words and not after 10 years...but I do see how the..."what might have been" questions may need to be answered as in your case darlin...and it's better to put them to rest sometimes...
Yes.... they HAVE been put to rest, well and truly now!! Its a shame.... ya know, 'what might have been' but I am able to think more with my head than with my heart nowadays.
Older and wiser perhaps?? Well..... older anyways!!
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Regarding that this relationship was difficult, and sort of awkward... And considering of the difficulties of his personality.. What would you think, and, would you give him a knew chance ? If he did asked you for ? Your opinion is important to me...
People dont change for the most part, but time/life does teach us a few things. So, if it were me, I might give it a try, just depends on the difficulties that you are referring to, that would be the deal breaker.