trish123: I have never found you to be nasty Ginger - sometimes a bit short on patience with em but heck - none of us are saints
Trish I am truly sorry about your thread. You had a nice idea and I am sorry I ruined it for you.
I will say this once because I am at a place where I feel I have to, then I will never mention it again. It is relevant to the topic too.
One of the reasons I get a bit short with people on here is because I see a lot of unfairness going on, bullying and popularity cliques. I hate to see people getting hurt.
I have never ascribed to any of that because I see it as unfair. I have been the recipient of ostracisation, nastiness, judgemental misconceptions and many other negative things since I have tried to join this community.
It would appear that there are those on here who despite or maybe even because of being different are accepted and loved and allowances made for on here, but that has never been the case with me despite my opening up to complete strangers to explain my lack of social graces and why, (which was very painful for me by the way).
I wonder how people would think I wouldn't notice being ignored in threads or people disappearing as soon as I post, for months on end now, but the last few weeks in particular. I can name on one hand the number of people who have been consistantly nice to me out of all of CS and to them I say thank you. But for you I would have given up long ago on myself and human nature in general.
You say you have never known me to be nasty, well I haven't Trish. In my very weird untutored socially inept often blunt way, I just try to be fair, to everyone, but because I am "different" I get treated like I have a contageous disease and best avoided.
I just don't feel that this is fair. I think I am as entitled to have allowances make for as anyone who is extremist in their views, or anyone who has a disability you can see, or as anyone period.
I am sensitive and vulnerable and have very profound feelings and this is the first and last time I will make myself open in this way on here ever again. I can't get on with everyone. I know that. I just ask for a belief that I am not some nasty person crawling into your threads that you have to sneak out from, so you dont have to talk to them.
This is not anyting against you personally Trish. I sincerely hope you understand that. But maybe anyone reading it might have cause to think a bit about their treatment of someone who is a bit different.
It's a sad world when I even had to say this..............
But over the time i have been here .. i NOW choosed to stay out of threads which are nasty .. if i feel i have something to say i say it .. otherwise .. i selectively participate .. nope it does not depend on whose thread but the topic.
But over the time i have been here .. i NOW choosed to stay out of threads which are nasty .. if i feel i have something to say i say it .. otherwise .. i selectively participate .. nope it does not depend on whose thread but the topic.
Thank you for the advice Riya. You are a very sweet lady. There are threads I don't go in either, usually because I don't know what to say. Often they are the fun threads and I have nothing in common there but love to watch to see what others say and sometimes smile.
gingerb: Thank you for the advice Riya. You are a very sweet lady. There are threads I don't go in either, usually because I don't know what to say. Often they are the fun threads and I have nothing in common there but love to watch to see what others say and sometimes smile.
Once upon a time i used to crib about the above you threads .. now .. i seem to enjoy them instead.
I dont go to some threads where i have nothing to say either. ( i like Obama though )
riyablossom: Once upon a time i used to crib about the above you threads .. now .. i seem to enjoy them instead. I dont go to some threads where i have nothing to say either. ( i like Obama though )
gingerb: Trish I am truly sorry about your thread. You had a nice idea and I am sorry I ruined it for you.
I will say this once because I am at a place where I feel I have to, then I will never mention it again. It is relevant to the topic too.
One of the reasons I get a bit short with people on here is because I see a lot of unfairness going on, bullying and popularity cliques. I hate to see people getting hurt.
I have never ascribed to any of that because I see it as unfair. I have been the recipient of ostracisation, nastiness, judgemental misconceptions and many other negative things since I have tried to join this community.
It would appear that there are those on here who despite or maybe even because of being different are accepted and loved and allowances made for on here, but that has never been the case with me despite my opening up to complete strangers to explain my lack of social graces and why, (which was very painful for me by the way).
I wonder how people would think I wouldn't notice being ignored in threads or people disappearing as soon as I post, for months on end now, but the last few weeks in particular. I can name on one hand the number of people who have been consistantly nice to me out of all of CS and to them I say thank you. But for you I would have given up long ago on myself and human nature in general.
You say you have never known me to be nasty, well I haven't Trish. In my very weird untutored socially inept often blunt way, I just try to be fair, to everyone, but because I am "different" I get treated like I have a contageous disease and best avoided.
I just don't feel that this is fair. I think I am as entitled to have allowances make for as anyone who is extremist in their views, or anyone who has a disability you can see, or as anyone period.
I am sensitive and vulnerable and have very profound feelings and this is the first and last time I will make myself open in this way on here ever again. I can't get on with everyone. I know that. I just ask for a belief that I am not some nasty person crawling into your threads that you have to sneak out from, so you dont have to talk to them.
This is not anyting against you personally Trish. I sincerely hope you understand that. But maybe anyone reading it might have cause to think a bit about their treatment of someone who is a bit different.
It's a sad world when I even had to say this..............
You are looking at this whole issue subjectively sweetie - im hopin I can be looking objectively..........
lots of us see unfairness going on and to have an unaccountable reaction is the norm really - change that round if it suits you - the way I observe is to see unfairness as the norm and I dont see it as unaccountable, there are many accepted norms which account for the accepted ways of 'being' - but they just say - OK, not, this is the truth of who I am..................
riyablossom: Once upon a time i used to crib about the above you threads .. now .. i seem to enjoy them instead. I dont go to some threads where i have nothing to say either. ( i like Obama though )
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