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Age..Does it really matter? (16)

Sep 15, 2008 3:45 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
CasualChuck
CasualChuckCasualChuckLondon, Ontario Canada11 Threads 50 Posts
Ok..tell me truthfully. If you found a person to communicate with, who is relaxing to you and actually cares about what your saying, who you are as a person, and enjoys being with you, should age matter heart wings...or should they be conciderate to those who may see the two together and frown on the age difference? Just wondering where some of you sit on this issue...personally I do not have an issue with the age of two who are attracted to one another..unless it is a minor with an adult.
Sep 15, 2008 6:04 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
No it does not matter. 20 yrs might be a bit of a stretch.

Even today on some show, women mentioned males in their age range (40+) are looking for women in their 30's or younger. One woman said she did not like the idea of dating someone her father's age. I agree that I would not like to date someone my father's age. Someone 25 yrs older than I am, might be a great friend and the best person to have in my life, but I guess, someone I can talk about things from my generation would be more to my liking (as a partner/lover). There are many couples that are able to have a successful relationship with this big an age difference. My aunt was 17 yrs younger than her husband. They truly loved each other. No matter what, they still had that glow in their eyes when they looked at each other. I also watched her go down hill and so alone when my uncle passed away.

I guess it depends on the couple involved. If they are with each other, are good to and for each other, the rest should not be anyone's business.
Sep 15, 2008 6:06 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada165 Threads 3 Polls 4,065 Posts
hmm let me put it this way, he (not from a date site) was not interested in being introduced to someone over 50 yrs old let alone a 51 yr old. He is 48 yrs old. Never say never. smitten
Sep 15, 2008 6:10 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
CasualChuck
CasualChuckCasualChuckLondon, Ontario Canada11 Threads 50 Posts
thanks for the imput....myself I have dated girls between 23 and 68..and they wer happy and confident in who they are and where they were in life..and we got along just fine..jsut wanted to know others opinons..thanks.
Sep 15, 2008 8:55 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
gemery
gemerygemeryWilliams Lake, British Columbia Canada5 Threads 676 Posts
I have no problem with age. But, unfortunately, I think there are some things that I personally need to consider as far as age goes. Women generally outlive men as a rule and of course there are exceptions to that rule.

If I was to get into a relationship with a woman that was say 10 years younger, and that would be about my maximum age difference...5 is ideal for me, but when I am 75...she would just be retiring (maybe). The average lifespan of a North American male is about 76-78 years. That would leave a woman who has just retired a widow. Could be fun, but then again, could also make things tough for her as well. I would have to consider this and the implications of it before I went too far outside my ideal age bracket. And also as KHD says, it is always nice to have somebody you can talk to about when dinosaurs walked on the earth as well. rolling on the floor laughing

geo
Sep 17, 2008 5:59 AM CST Age..Does it really matter?
hollandgirl
hollandgirlhollandgirlSomewhere in Canada. B.C., British Columbia Canada711 Threads 6,072 Posts
My late husband was 6 1/2 years younger than me.
I married him when 48 years old.
Okay, personally I wonder if now, that I am 71, it is not more a serious matter?
Who is going to be there for me ten, fifteen years from now?
Yes it could very well be, that I would be taking care of you and not you me.
I have learned this much; Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Leaving today, as The day!
None of us knows how much longer we will be around on this planet.
I used to think different as forever etc. Not anymore!
I have crossed many bridges that later turned out, where never there!

I am alive today and feel alive and tomorrow? Who then lives, who then worries!
Sep 17, 2008 8:53 AM CST Age..Does it really matter?
CasualChuck
CasualChuckCasualChuckLondon, Ontario Canada11 Threads 50 Posts
Thank you everyone for your imput..it is great.
Sep 17, 2008 12:35 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
curvychick
curvychickcurvychickToronto, Ontario Canada22 Threads 1 Polls 369 Posts
yeah.....blushing

age IS a big thing for me......

5 years either way is cool.......but that about sums it up

NOOOOOOOOOOOO, 20 something is IMPOSSIBLE....early 30's FORGET IT.....

55 PLUS is a no-no too.....

I am young at heart.....but on the flipside, responsible......

too young = looking for a sugar momma

too old = looking to re-live his youth

now now, don't go throwing bad produce at me! rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing JMO!

cheers

Curvycheering
Sep 22, 2008 10:12 AM CST Age..Does it really matter?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada81 Threads 21,310 Posts
Yes age does matter to a point...

For me i would go either way..10 years....

but can you imagine me going out with a 18 year old or even 20...

They are still immature and learning and growing...

I have an 18 year old..

So nope/never to that...

i think most that age..wants a second mommy..do everything for them

But Each to their Own..

JMHOhandshake
Oct 4, 2008 10:19 AM CST Age..Does it really matter?
Ray33
Ray33Ray33Paramaribo, Suriname11 Threads 165 Posts
I think life can be very complicated at times because this is a touchy subject. Again what makes life so amazing is that on each topic we all see things differen to one another and really its no different to how I just said it.

First let me say I dont see age different as a big problem but then its something that being in anyone elses shoes differs because :

1 - Being a man of maybe in your 20's and 30's and wanting a relationship with women above 40.

This can have more con's than pro's and one of the biggest con' is the "CHILD TOPIC". I he wants children or more children and she cant give him any....almost sure he will go outside the relationship and make them.

When she might not have the urge for sex sometimes and he might have because seeing that he is younger and maybe wants to prove himself and sometimes she might be exhausted....you can be almost sure that he tends to look for satisfaction outside (especially if he is not someone with patience and an open mind).

Sorry to say this guys but some men also are not yet matured and a women way much older than you might see things differently and there is where the miscommunication might start.

2 - More often relationships between women 30's and older men can work out to an extent.

Men can still make children at an older age and as long as the two in question can see with each other and they settle for each other. A woman in her 30's can make kids and this is and wont be an issue whereas women in their 20's you wont find that often with men in their mid 40's and 50's.

Not being of finding themself being old the younger women will want to go out, have a nice time and not always will the older men see themself doing this and one really big problem you can have here is that she might find he is not willing or he might eventually accuse her of mixing with someone at the club and blah blah blah...

This is a really complex situation and what I just summed up here are just a few...there are alot more to having a relationship with someone much younger or older than you....as I said ....It differs from situations.....peace hug yay
Oct 23, 2008 1:13 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
maryjane420
maryjane420maryjane420dartmouth, Nova Scotia Canada1 Threads 30 Posts
in my preferance age matters a lot to me. i would never go out with someone 10 years older than me...i like men close to my age not age gaps.
Oct 23, 2008 10:29 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
Brew01
Brew01Brew01Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan Canada128 Threads 2,629 Posts
You know what they say... if there's grass on the field, the playground is open for business

laugh
Oct 23, 2008 10:33 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
Blond32
Blond32Blond32saskatoon, Saskatchewan Canada5 Threads 46 Posts
I never used to think that age could be an issue, until I experienced it. scold Ten years either way isn't a big deal, but beyond that...I think you start getting into some deeper issues of mommy/daddy stuff. Maybe it works for some people, everyone is different. But this is just from my own experience. For me though, older men...they tend to age like a fine wine. (some of them anyway!) grin
Oct 23, 2008 10:57 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
babextinct18
babextinct18babextinct18north york, Ontario Canada3 Threads 1 Polls 28 Posts
now at my age ..i have a bit of a problem with this age issue..im not bragging but i dont look my age...and i dont feel it..(at least MOST days..when my arthritis doesnt flare up..lol..lol)..but i feel i have a lot more in common with people in their 30s..and for some strange reason the few guys i find very attractive happen to be in their late 30s..now 38,39 might not be much of a difference from 49 in some ways,espescially if the 2 peopl look the same age...BUT..i have this bit of a problem where..if i were to meet a guy in that age bracket..he could think he could "rub it in my face" that he's younger (even tho i could probably show HIM a thing or 2..lol..and even tho HE might not be able to keep up with ME!!..LOL).. but..theres the problem..i would PREFER that the guy is OLDER than me..but it happens that most guys that i actually find very attractive are in their late 30s...hmmmm..what to do...lolinnocent doh rolling on the floor laughing
Jan 10, 2009 3:34 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
TheKid52
TheKid52TheKid52Birmingham, West Midlands, England UK14 Threads 553 Posts
CasualChuck: Ok..tell me truthfully. If you found a person to communicate with, who is relaxing to you and actually cares about what your saying, who you are as a person, and enjoys being with you, should age matter ...or should they be conciderate to those who may see the two together and frown on the age difference? Just wondering where some of you sit on this issue...personally I do not have an issue with the age of two who are attracted to one another..unless it is a minor with an adult.
Yes it does matter greatly, if its a man younger than the woman in his life, its all well and good until an arguement arises then is when it will be slapped in the ladies face that she is old. If a man is much older than the woman he can be humiliated when they go out by being mistaken for her father. Big age gaps are a nightmare. I would not marry a younger man again even a couple of years makes a difference.If you are happy thats all that counts and it works for you great.
Jan 10, 2009 3:38 PM CST Age..Does it really matter?
TheKid52
TheKid52TheKid52Birmingham, West Midlands, England UK14 Threads 553 Posts
hollandgirl: My late husband was 6 1/2 years younger than me.
I married him when 48 years old.
Okay, personally I wonder if now, that I am 71, it is not more a serious matter?
Who is going to be there for me ten, fifteen years from now?
Yes it could very well be, that I would be taking care of you and not you me.
I have learned this much; Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Leaving today, as The day!
None of us knows how much longer we will be around on this planet.
I used to think different as forever etc. Not anymore!
I have crossed many bridges that later turned out, where never there!

I am alive today and feel alive and tomorrow? Who then lives, who then worries!
Nothing to do with thread,just stopped by to say you look wonderful what did you say 71? Never!yay
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