Are people able to put you on a guilt trip?.............You start believing you were at fault? (34)
hollandgirl: Some people are experts in laying the guilt on the other person.
Unless your standing strong in your shoes you may believe them.
I have a lot of common sense, for me to fall for this, you have to get up real early.
Unless your standing strong in your shoes you may believe them.
I have a lot of common sense, for me to fall for this, you have to get up real early.
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hollandgirl: Some people are experts in laying the guilt on the other person.
Unless your standing strong in your shoes you may believe them.
I have a lot of common sense, for me to fall for this, you have to get up real early.
Unless your standing strong in your shoes you may believe them.
I have a lot of common sense, for me to fall for this, you have to get up real early.
You have to get up really really early to catch me !!!
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woody636: Let em wallow in it! I take responsibility for my actions; not those of someone else or their perceptions.
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Nope, I used to be pretty good at laying guilt trips on myself, but I don't do that any more. But let someone else try it, I get really riled up!
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woody636: Let em wallow in it! I take responsibility for my actions; not those of someone else or their perceptions.
People who do this are very subttle.
You may not realize right away what the other
is trying to load up on you.
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hollandgirl: People who do this are very subttle.
You may not realize right away what the other
is trying to load up on you.
You may not realize right away what the other
is trying to load up on you.
True, but it doesn't work if you don't play the game. I don't.
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alabamabebe: Nope, I used to be pretty good at laying guilt trips on myself, but I don't do that any more. But let someone else try it, I get really riled up!
Yes THAT I did too for awhile.
Low self esteem then but not today.
Having lived twenty years on my own,
11 years in California.
I had to become assertive.
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woody636: True, but it doesn't work if you don't play the game. I don't.
You first have to be able to recognize it that is is
being done to you.
My first tried this game.
He had low self esteem so..... Try to dump it on somone else.
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hollandgirl: You first have to be able to recognize it that is is
being done to you.
My first tried this game.
He had low self esteem so..... Try to dump it on somone else.
being done to you.
My first tried this game.
He had low self esteem so..... Try to dump it on somone else.
Can see how you might question yourself at the beginning but you seem like a smart lady. I KNOW you figured out what was going on. Then it's all about how YOU react. Accept or reject. I reject.
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woody636: Can see how you might question yourself at the beginning but you seem like a smart lady. I KNOW you figured out what was going on. Then it's all about how YOU react. Accept or reject. I reject.
I was only fourteen years old when we met so what did I know.
My dad taught his kids preached it so often;
"Think further than your nose is long"
Combine this with having an analyzing mind, it helped to come to
conclusions.
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hollandgirl: I was only fourteen years old when we met so what did I know.
My dad taught his kids preached it so often;
"Think further than your nose is long"
Combine this with having an analyzing mind, it helped to come to
conclusions.
If you don't mind me saying , 14 was very young to meet anyone !! Lordy I was still scared at that age !!My dad taught his kids preached it so often;
"Think further than your nose is long"
Combine this with having an analyzing mind, it helped to come to
conclusions.
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I have had the best do that to me and it was my mom while growing up, so no one can play that game on me now.
I see it for what it is and I don't want any part of it, they can't phase me. So they are totally SOL on that game with me.
I see it for what it is and I don't want any part of it, they can't phase me. So they are totally SOL on that game with me.
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Someone can only put me on a guilt trip only if I let them. I refuse to let anyone do that to me.
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oh yeah,,,I fall for it every time,,easy mark,,that's me. then I figure it out, and think that no,,,that just can;t be! noone would do such a thing.
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keytone: oh yeah,,,I fall for it every time,,easy mark,,that's me. then I figure it out, and think that no,,,that just can;t be! noone would do such a thing.
Yes too believe the possibility that someone would try to do this
to you, is not always easy to spot and when you do, you can't believe
someone could be sooo mean.
What did you ever do to them that you deserved this?
Most likely, not a thing!
Remember it is them, not you!
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hollandgirl: Yes too believe the possibility that someone would try to do this
to you, is not always easy to spot and when you do, you can't believe
someone could be sooo mean.
What did you ever do to them that you deserved this?
Most likely, not a thing!
Remember it is them, not you!
to you, is not always easy to spot and when you do, you can't believe
someone could be sooo mean.
What did you ever do to them that you deserved this?
Most likely, not a thing!
Remember it is them, not you!
Guilt trips are a part manipulation games, I did a very good thread on Manipulation recently and if you learn all of the symptoms and game plans you will learn about this game.
Guilt trips are to weaken you, or to manipulate you into feeling what the manipulator wants you to feel. Usually there's more than a guilt trip going on.
But I have been around a few that do just that one. It is a way of knocking others down, so that one doing it, can feel better about their own self and they enjoy hurting others with it. There are different levels some are really mean with it and some are just doing minor amount but it all boils down to controlling someone or hurting them. And its all about manipulation to get what ever they will get out of it. Thats the best I can tell you about it.
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livinglarge: Oh yikes , you came through an awful lot !! Fair play to you.
Adversity builts character.
It never did me any harm, sometimes you have to get
through things so you can face anything, that my come at you later.
The one thing I had to guard myself against is; too never allow myself too become hard or bitter.
I took instead to humour.
My slightly sarcastic sense of humour has kept my
balance.
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hollandgirl: Adversity builts character.
It never did me any harm, sometimes you have to get
through things so you can face anything, that my come at you later.
The one thing I had to guard myself against is; too never allow myself too become hard or bitter.
I took instead to humour.
My slightly sarcastic sense of humour has kept my
balance.
Yep I agree , I don't ever want to get bitter , it will only harm me in the end , no matter what I can still be me , what I say is I am always there for me!It never did me any harm, sometimes you have to get
through things so you can face anything, that my come at you later.
The one thing I had to guard myself against is; too never allow myself too become hard or bitter.
I took instead to humour.
My slightly sarcastic sense of humour has kept my
balance.
My friends can't be with me 24/7 and neither can my family , so sometimes I have to lean totaly on myself and thats ok to.
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livinglarge: Yep I agree , I don't ever want to get bitter , it will only harm me in the end , no matter what I can still be me , what I say is I am always there for me!
My friends can't be with me 24/7 and neither can my family , so sometimes I have to lean totaly on myself and thats ok to.
My friends can't be with me 24/7 and neither can my family , so sometimes I have to lean totaly on myself and thats ok to.
You got IT girl!
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Unless your standing strong in your shoes you may believe them.
I have a lot of common sense, for me to fall for this, you have to get up real early.