Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada3,320 posts
HJFinAZ: Well welcome to the slaughter house...
You should here some of the "youngsters" I know when I share my "experience". Hell, according to the youngsters, us old coots don't know a damn thing.
Another "experience" of mine, the older "I" got, the smarter my dad got..
On the other hand, true friends attempted to warn me about certain people in a subtle way, I would not listen. SOme of us must find out the hard way..
I have found, it ALWAYS pays to "ask around"..
I am going through the same thing. Now I enjoy the ' older than me people' so I can learn from them instead of when I was one of those youngsters thinking "the old fools don't know what they are talking about"-- Now I think about the youngsters " they don't know -that they don' know"
Daniel4021: There have been lots of questions on this subject, so I figured I would post something to answer some of those questions.. so I will try to give you ladies as much insight to what men are like on the inside.. or at least some of us men.. so here goes..
If you ladies ever really wanted to know.. then I here is my perspective on this subject..
We like to be appreciated for things we do that we are never asked to do...
We like to get a call if for no other reason but to say, hey I was thinking of you.. things like that really go a long way, at least for me it does.. sometimes it nice to hear a voice instead of getting emails all the time, and it shouldn't have to be us that does the calling all the time. kinda makes us feel like it one sided..
We want you to know that even we have feelings and can hurt just as much as you can... Deep down inside we really do have hearts..
We want to be loved, and for you ladies to be sensitive enough to know when we are hurting
Every now and then we need someone to lean on just like you do
A few kind words and a little love, motivates us to move moutians for the one we care about...
We like having affection returned in kind..
We need to be comforted and held close too not just in bad times, but good times as well..
We like to be appreciated for getting up early in the morning and heading off to work, and putting in those long hours because we care enough to do what ever it takes to support a family..
We like to know that we are thought of...
The bottom line is.... we want to be loved, just like you do..
Well, there you have it.. hopefully now you ladies will understand us men a little better..
somechick: Although I do appreciate your humor Pat I'm being totally serious right now.I also have to admit I do clam up and am to stubborn to express myself most of the time.
I guess it's my way of putting up bearers so I don't get hurt.
Honey, please realize, that hurt is yours, it is inside of you. NOBODY can make you hurt and I am being serious. That was one of the most difficult lessons I have ever learned.
Even the Berlin wall was torn down by the right people..
HJFinAZ: Honey, please realize, that hurt is yours, it is inside of you. NOBODY can make you hurt and I am being serious. That was one of the most difficult lessons I have ever learned.
Even the Berlin wall was torn down by the right people..
Oh man I think it's time for me to go have a good cry right now.
Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada3,320 posts
HJFinAZ: Honey, please realize, that hurt is yours, it is inside of you. NOBODY can make you hurt and I am being serious. That was one of the most difficult lessons I have ever learned.
Even the Berlin wall was torn down by the right people..
Heck. I am leaving for a bit to ponder that one. Awesome!
Arlene101Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada3,320 posts
HJFinAZ: Honey, please realize, that hurt is yours, it is inside of you. NOBODY can make you hurt and I am being serious. That was one of the most difficult lessons I have ever learned.
Even the Berlin wall was torn down by the right people..
We all claim we want honest & open communication in a relationship. "MY" experience, when I am really open and honest, really taking things seriously (seldom these days), "she" wants (wanted, as there is no "she") claims up, refuses to be honest and open..
Daniel4021: There have been lots of questions on this subject, so I figured I would post something to answer some of those questions.. so I will try to give you ladies as much insight to what men are like on the inside.. or at least some of us men.. so here goes..
If you ladies ever really wanted to know.. then I here is my perspective on this subject..
We like to be appreciated for things we do that we are never asked to do...
We like to get a call if for no other reason but to say, hey I was thinking of you.. things like that really go a long way, at least for me it does.. sometimes it nice to hear a voice instead of getting emails all the time, and it shouldn't have to be us that does the calling all the time. kinda makes us feel like it one sided..
We want you to know that even we have feelings and can hurt just as much as you can... Deep down inside we really do have hearts..
We want to be loved, and for you ladies to be sensitive enough to know when we are hurting
Every now and then we need someone to lean on just like you do
A few kind words and a little love, motivates us to move moutians for the one we care about...
We like having affection returned in kind..
We need to be comforted and held close too not just in bad times, but good times as well..
We like to be appreciated for getting up early in the morning and heading off to work, and putting in those long hours because we care enough to do what ever it takes to support a family..
We like to know that we are thought of...
The bottom line is.... we want to be loved, just like you do..
Well, there you have it.. hopefully now you ladies will understand us men a little better..
Oh Daniel, I have already started a thread on this subject persay. I wanted the GENTLEMEN on here to know that ladies appreciate them when they are being noble, kind and loving. I know you, know how much I and many of the other people on here feel about you. You are a special person with a heart of gold that you wear openly on your sleeve. I hope you know that I am here for you just as you are there for so many, myself included.
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