why are they so hurtful (25)
im sorry to hear that i bet you were really shocked
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It's not one-sided, an ex of mine and I were together a good while before she told me one day that it's all been a lie, and that I was being subconciously compared to her ex which she wasn't over. That's what caused a mental meltdown within her, and it tore me to pieces.
It's difficult and takes alot of time to heal, don't rush it - just let things go as they will and know that in the end it's probably better you found out now than going through it after a longer period. That's about the only optimistic view I can offer, and it's really not completely optimistic but it's the best thing I can come up with at this time based on the situation. I wish you the best :)
Rich
It's difficult and takes alot of time to heal, don't rush it - just let things go as they will and know that in the end it's probably better you found out now than going through it after a longer period. That's about the only optimistic view I can offer, and it's really not completely optimistic but it's the best thing I can come up with at this time based on the situation. I wish you the best :)
Rich
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No offense intended by it really irks me the way people always lump on individual's actions into a broad group.
It isn't "Why are THEY so hurtful?", It's, "Why is HE so hurtful".
When you get into the whole blanket thing you endanger yourself to becoming prejudiced against a whole gender.
I personally have never hurt women I've broken up with. All men are not like that. I do know that many are, but certainly not all. So don't push please don't push your ex-boyfriend's behavior onto my gender wholesale.
Thank you.
It isn't "Why are THEY so hurtful?", It's, "Why is HE so hurtful".
When you get into the whole blanket thing you endanger yourself to becoming prejudiced against a whole gender.
I personally have never hurt women I've broken up with. All men are not like that. I do know that many are, but certainly not all. So don't push please don't push your ex-boyfriend's behavior onto my gender wholesale.
Thank you.
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I't hurts honey. Been there. I won't offer any platitudes here. Feel the pain, own the pain, and it will pass. Right now time is standing still for you. I know the feeling and I feel you're pain. Paws
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Right on Paws. I feel ya too singlemommy...going through almost exactly the same thing right now.
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I got the " I'm not in love with you anymore " speech from my ex husband of almost 20 years. And the " I don't love you that way anymore " speech as well.
Do people ever realize that they have changed?
I am sorry about your broken heart, time will help mend the pain.
Do people ever realize that they have changed?
I am sorry about your broken heart, time will help mend the pain.
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I thought you have never had any breakups? I'm am very confused.
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I'm cueious as to why the thread exists?
two weeks ago? and she still oves him and on a singles site?
two weeks ago? and she still oves him and on a singles site?
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Wow! you were really young when you got together.
Maybe that is what it is? He wants to see what he has been missing. Chances are too that he will be back too. If you give in, that can start a cycle of him coming and going.
You sound the more mature of the two of you. Kepp your head for your children's sake. I know it hurts but just keep telling yourself you ARE a good woman and WORTHY of love. Give yourself credit for all you have done right.
No excuse for telling someone they "don't love you anymore" after all that was shared. I dunno what your relationship was like but if it was miserable than maybe just let it go now before you take him back and regret it.
You have support?
Maybe that is what it is? He wants to see what he has been missing. Chances are too that he will be back too. If you give in, that can start a cycle of him coming and going.
You sound the more mature of the two of you. Kepp your head for your children's sake. I know it hurts but just keep telling yourself you ARE a good woman and WORTHY of love. Give yourself credit for all you have done right.
No excuse for telling someone they "don't love you anymore" after all that was shared. I dunno what your relationship was like but if it was miserable than maybe just let it go now before you take him back and regret it.
You have support?
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I dunno? good question
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she may just be looking around to comfort herself.When I broke up with my ex I was on yahoo 2 weeks after just to see what was out there.she is lonely and hurt.I hope she doesnt rush into anything.Nene you were in the process of divorce when you came here as I recall.Show some support girls.
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Umm...not to be mean in any way.
A few of the women here could describe hurtfull for you...
that's not it.
It appears to me you're still using a type of magical thinking...
"I deserved better"..."He should have loved me",
maybe he should, but that doesn't really matter now...
try not to dwell on it.
I do agree on one point though...we give alot of power to those we care about,
sometimes this benefits us greatly...
sometimes not so much.
A few of the women here could describe hurtfull for you...
that's not it.
It appears to me you're still using a type of magical thinking...
"I deserved better"..."He should have loved me",
maybe he should, but that doesn't really matter now...
try not to dwell on it.
I do agree on one point though...we give alot of power to those we care about,
sometimes this benefits us greatly...
sometimes not so much.
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I do!
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After my break up I found a saying that although I don't agree with made me laugh like hell;
'The best was to get over a man is to get under another one'
For the record Hunting is not why I'm here anymore. I came cause sombody thought it would be good for me...even found the site. It has been good because I met people I consider friends who confort me when I'm down, laugh with or at me when appropriate and gave me a wealth of comfort to an injured soul. I come here now to keep in touch with those friends and to play around.
I hope you take the time to heal cause believe me it will take time. Settle in here and keep posting, meet people but don't be in a hurry....You never know what is around the next corner. You let people know who you are when you are posting and having fun with friends...then wham outta the blue when you least expect it someone pops up...and you think.... what does this idiot want?...because you forgotten that it is a singles site and he turns out not to be an idiot...okay maybe not the first time but you might get lucky...
Hang in there girl the world never knows what the fates provide....this time next year your life could be on a whole new path 
'The best was to get over a man is to get under another one'
For the record Hunting is not why I'm here anymore. I came cause sombody thought it would be good for me...even found the site. It has been good because I met people I consider friends who confort me when I'm down, laugh with or at me when appropriate and gave me a wealth of comfort to an injured soul. I come here now to keep in touch with those friends and to play around.
I hope you take the time to heal cause believe me it will take time. Settle in here and keep posting, meet people but don't be in a hurry....You never know what is around the next corner. You let people know who you are when you are posting and having fun with friends...then wham outta the blue when you least expect it someone pops up...and you think.... what does this idiot want?...because you forgotten that it is a singles site and he turns out not to be an idiot...okay maybe not the first time but you might get lucky...
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Whatcha laughin' at Jax..lol 
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hehehe
yuh, but jackie... my ex had abandon us long before. and the love had gone long before that...
a matter of doing the legal work...
snot, lol
yuh, but jackie... my ex had abandon us long before. and the love had gone long before that...
a matter of doing the legal work...
snot, lol
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been there...it sucks...ya get by it eventualy....u have no choice
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People do change through the years and you will always have your kids to remind you of him which will make it more difficult but you will survive and new love will come-just don't rush it and enjoy your freedom and take time to know some people-one day you can tell him
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I gave him my world, all the love i had,and he walked out like nothing had ever happened. I tried to talk to him, i was so confussed,and to be honest still am.
I've always said that in life, your enemies can't hurt you, but your boyfriends will kill you with the hurt they cause you.: