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kkitty4u: I just would like some different views on this
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
Use a community resouce as a go betwen to monitor visits with his child. Such as DCF or a community program. PLEASE do not use the children as a pawn in a game with the father. Get a restraining order and have his visits with the shild, monitored
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kkitty4u: I just would like some different views on this
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
i had a friend who had a similar experience and the courts gave him supervised visits and told him to go on an angermanagment course before he was allowed to have unsupervised visits.
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See the above posts..
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kkitty4u: I just would like some different views on this
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
How old is your daughter Kitty?
sorry you are having to go through this.......
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First of all i am really sorry...
and i hope the child didnt see him being violent...
Fine if you dont want to see him..
but i think the child should have the right to see her father..
but if he is violent with her..Hell Noooooooooooooo...
Make sure he has supervise visit..
but i hope you dont talk badly about her father...
just try to explain the best way you can and be gentle..
No child likes a parent to talk badly about the other..
All the best hun
and i hope the child didnt see him being violent...
Fine if you dont want to see him..
but i think the child should have the right to see her father..
but if he is violent with her..Hell Noooooooooooooo...
Make sure he has supervise visit..
but i hope you dont talk badly about her father...
just try to explain the best way you can and be gentle..
No child likes a parent to talk badly about the other..
All the best hun
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Tough situation but I think the advice you were given above is good! 
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shipoker58: Use a community resouce as a go betwen to monitor visits with his child. Such as DCF or a community program. PLEASE do not use the children as a pawn in a game with the father. Get a restraining order and have his visits with the shild, monitored
oh that is the last thing I want to do so this is why I am looking for some advice on how to tell my daughter and even what I should tell her
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trish123: How old is your daughter Kitty?
sorry you are having to go through this.......
sorry you are having to go through this.......
she is six
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kkitty4u: she is six
how much does she know already? she must have asked where he is.......
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trish123: how much does she know already? she must have asked where he is.......
I think she seen it all she was here when it all happend and when he was leaving he said I tripped.
and yesterday she asked me if I tripped and I didnt know what to say to her
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kissmedeeply: First of all i am really sorry...
and i hope the child didnt see him being violent...
Fine if you dont want to see him..
but i think the child should have the right to see her father..
but if he is violent with her..Hell Noooooooooooooo...
Make sure he has supervise visit..
but i hope you dont talk badly about her father...
just try to explain the best way you can and be gentle..
No child likes a parent to talk badly about the other..
All the best hun
yeah I know she has a right to be with her father. but then I think of my rights and i hope the child didnt see him being violent...
Fine if you dont want to see him..
but i think the child should have the right to see her father..
but if he is violent with her..Hell Noooooooooooooo...
Make sure he has supervise visit..
but i hope you dont talk badly about her father...
just try to explain the best way you can and be gentle..
No child likes a parent to talk badly about the other..
All the best hun
and I am afraid and I do not want any contact with him at all what so ever. He also has threatened to take her away he has family all over the place and at this point I have no clue as to what he could be planning
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kkitty4u: I just would like some different views on this
OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
I would stay away from him....OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation
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OK heres the situation I was in a long term relationship and we have a daughter together and well it has been a bad relationship for a long time and I finally left and it was going OK until one night he showed up and he got violent and hurt me. I pressed charges and now I have so many fears that I cant even think straight sometimes. what would be the best way to explain this to my daughter and how would u handle the situation? would u allow him to see her?
This is what I plan to do have no contact at all what so ever and let him take me to court for visitation rights and then tell the courts my fears and see what they say about the situation