We all have them, to some degree or another. If yours are very unusual, chances are you might never experience them. But, if they are a bit more mainstream, the odds are more in your favor. Your fantasies....you don't need to share them, for they are yours alone. But have you LIVED them? Have you been able to experience the things that you only once imagined?
If not.....what's stopping you?
And, if you have, was once enough to satisfy the curiosity or intrigue, or did you want it again and again? Did fulfillment of one fantasy bring on a new one, itching to be experienced? Or did you simply check off a box without creating a new one?
I ask this because of a conversation I had recently with a male friend of mine whose experiences with his own fantasies resulted in a different outcome than mine. So now I am curious to hear from both men and women on this topic.
KevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK6 Threads433 Posts
KevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK433 posts
They can backfire,
I was asked in one relationship, about 3 years into it, to act out her fantasy, I tried but there was a degree of violence attached to it that I was not comfortable with so stopped, it caused some friction between us, for quite a while until we were able to discuss it and realise that sometimes fantasies need to stay as a fantasy
Is to find a woman who isn't a liar a cheat, or user..
Someone who doesn't want to play "20 (loaded" questions," each night after I get off work, someone who ,oh I don't know, maybe uummmm. doesn't try to change me, into what they think I should be, and doesn't change their attitude, every hour on the hour, or because the relationship status changed, they think that they need to act differently......And this person also has common sense, and speaks their mind while speaking from their heart also....
I didn't want to do it but I got too lonely I had to call you up in the middle of the night I know it's awful hard to try to make love long distance But I really needed stimulation Though it was only my imagination
It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing But sometimes a fantasy Is all you need
When am I gonna take control get a hold of my emotions Why does it only seem to hit me in the middle of the night You told me there's a number I can always dial for assistance I don't want to deal with outside action Only you can give me satisfaction
It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing But sometimes a fantasy Is all you need
Sure it would be better if I had you here to hold me Be better baby but believe me it's the next best thing I'm sure there's many times you've wanted me to hear your secrets Don't be afraid to say the words that move me Anytime you want to tell them to me
It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing But sometimes a fantasy Is all you need It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing It's just a fantasy It's not the real thing
I am not so sure if I have fantasies (well, at least since Wonder Woman went off the air) as much as I have plans. Then again, the plans are perpetually stillborn, so perhaps they are indeed fantasies. Hell, I don't know...
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If yours are very unusual, chances are you might never experience them. But, if they are a bit more mainstream, the odds are more in your favor.
Your fantasies....you don't need to share them, for they are yours alone. But have you LIVED them? Have you been able to experience the things that you only once imagined?
If not.....what's stopping you?
And, if you have, was once enough to satisfy the curiosity or intrigue, or did you want it again and again?
Did fulfillment of one fantasy bring on a new one, itching to be experienced? Or did you simply check off a box without creating a new one?
I ask this because of a conversation I had recently with a male friend of mine whose experiences with his own fantasies resulted in a different outcome than mine. So now I am curious to hear from both men and women on this topic.