In The Dumps ( Archived) (18)

For the most part im allways looking up finding the good in the bad. But it also seams to be a mask or a cover for the real problems in life. And after so long it just becomes to much to hold up and it all come crashing down driving me into the center of earth. Now im back on rock bottom again looking up saying ( it could allways get worse ) and I start stacking everything back up working on the balancing act again knowing full well that after awhile I'll stumble and fall. And finding myself back into this hole of hoplessness. I find myself thinking about a thread that somechick ( if I recall right) posted about what are purpose is in life. I sure wished I could figure out mine. Cause I feel broken inside and even tho I find some of the peaces and put them back where thay go the glue never seems to hold. I dont even know what it is im trying to say or why I'm even trying to tell it to alot of people I dont even know. Im just down in the dumps really bad right now, and its crazy cause about 1 hour back I was fine and then boom nuke time. Oh well time never stops so my count down of leaving the dumps has allready started. I kind of feel better just by typing all this out. Thank you all for being a part of the forums cause with out you I would have no one to tell this to.

Steven

Hello Steven , It will get better , just have hope that it will.

Steven, you'll find you're not alone...and that's part of what we all do here for each other. Support each other when we're down. As someone on here said in a thread once, what's the difference between this and what we call RL? This is RL, too...just most of us haven't met in person. But we tend to be our real selves here, and make real friends. So...you've done the right thing.

I've been at the point you are now many times. What works for me is to give myself a day or a weekend to wallow in it, and then start living again. That's important...allow a certain amount of time to wallow. I found it easier to lift out that way because I wasn't fighting the feeling. I allowed it to be...for a time.

Another thing I do is start thinking about my blessings: friends, roof over my head, family, dogs, car, job, food, my garden, my yard, my health...you get the idea. Start thinking of every positive thing in your life.

I call where you're at "facing the abyss", btw. I hate it there, but without times like that I couldn't appreciate fully the happier times...so, it's a blessing in its own way, too.

Another thing to help yourself...give yourself a treat. Go buy something that you really like...a book, a movie, a game, whatever...or treat yourself to something nice like an ice cream cone or your favorite comfort meal (mine is McDonald's). Just do something positive and uplifting for YOU. It helps.

Hi Druidess thx for the tips most of them I allready do, I've been here b4, this is no stranger on my back. I guess I need to stop,drop,roll

Hi Steven

We all have our ups and downs mate. Hang in there

Hi Aberfoyle

Life's hard, but if it wasn't hard it wouldn't be worth doing.