People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Dear Dru, I adore your posts. Always straight from the heart. Your post brought to memory a favourite song/poem. I hope you are having a lovely day:
To everything - turn, turn, turn There is a season - turn, turn, turn And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to be born, a time to die A time to plant, a time to reap A time to kill, a time to heal A time to laugh, a time to weep
To everything, there is a season And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to build up, a time to break down A time to dance, a time to mourn A time to cast away stones A time to gather stones together
To everything, there is a season And a time for every purpose under heaven A time of war, a time of peace A time of love, a time of hate A time you may embrace A time to refrain from embracing
To everything, there is a season And a time for every purpose under heaven
A time to gain, a time to lose A time to rend, a time to sew A time to love, a time to hate A time of peace, I swear it's not too late!
As I think today on the above, I realize that most people in my life have been for a reason or a season. Only my family so far has been for a lifetime.
It took me a while to accept my late husband's death, after only 2 short years together, but realizing the reason helped. It was part of my healing process. Many of the friends I had in the Army fell into this category as well. Those were short-lived, but amazingly strong friendships, and some helped me to reach planes of travel and experience I never would have without their guidance. Blessings to all of these people.
I had a best friend for 25 years that I lost over something stupid. For whatever reason, a friendship that we always thought would last a lifetime only lasted for a season. A long season, but a season. She gave me an unbelievable amount of joy during that time, and we were there during some of the worst times of each others' lives. If not for her, I might have taken my life or done things even more stupid than the ones I did. Even my pets have fallen into this category...it hasn't even been their lifetime that I've had them for, but I've treasured them anyway. Blessings to all of these fine animals and people.
A lifetime, though...that I've never had beyond my family. It's something that a part of me yet dares to hope to have.
So...what have the special people who have been, or are, in your life been? A reason, a season, or a lifetime?
immanuelle: Dear Dru, I adore your posts. Always straight from the heart. Your post brought to memory a favourite song/poem. I hope you are having a lovely day:
To everything - turn, turn, turn There is a season - turn, turn, turn And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to be born, a time to die A time to plant, a time to reap A time to kill, a time to heal A time to laugh, a time to weep
To everything, there is a season And a time for every purpose under heaven A time to build up, a time to break down A time to dance, a time to mourn A time to cast away stones A time to gather stones together
To everything, there is a season And a time for every purpose under heaven A time of war, a time of peace A time of love, a time of hate A time you may embrace A time to refrain from embracing
To everything, there is a season And a time for every purpose under heaven
A time to gain, a time to lose A time to rend, a time to sew A time to love, a time to hate A time of peace, I swear it's not too late!
Thank you, Immanuelle. I heard that song the other day...I love it. So very true.
pretzelman: By the way...that song, recorded by the Byrds...is taken from the book of Ecclesiaies and put to music, I believe, by Pete Seeger. A beautiful song!!
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When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.