Why is it so hard ( Archived) (53)

I undertsand what is being said about dishonesty, but I don't understand it. Why lie? The truth always comes out in the end (no pun intended). Why post pics that aren't you? Don't you think anyone will catch on? Are people that insecure? I am me and I just post as me. I don't do anything to impress anyone or mislead them because it will truly never work with anyone if your basing meeting someone with lies. Maybe I am naive, maybe you don't like me for me, but thats life. You don't like everyone you meet, and if we were all the same what be be the point? WE are all different and that is what attracts people to each other, being different in some ways and similar in others. But lying seems to me to be counter productive and a waste of time. For all anyone knows I am 75 yrs old, 856 lbs, living in a dumpster using a stolen laptop connecting to the internet via a wifi hotspot, and if I was, what would be the point? Integrety and honesty seem to have dissappeared from society and it is a shame.

It is the ME generation. Some ME's never see past ME. Some ME"S will do anything to others to get what is in it for ME. SO! there is no trust! Each person seems to be fighting for ego and selfesteem while doing this the ME's tear down all others around them. There are a few who do not live this ME.....they live life fair and honest thinking of others.....and get a royal screwing!



"The love of many shall wax cold."

Thought's..............I hav none.........

I dunno but somehow...the words what goes around comes around come to mind and we get what we give....Sometimes when we do things to win the love of someone...that are underhanded...or what we think is love at the time...it comes back on us 10 fold....so it's always good to be careful what you wish for....

My experience...
I don't do any effort to find love at this moment. Not here, not in real life. If i found love here it would be a bonus, but never i cared about impressing because i don't believe in the guys that are here. Once here, always here, they never disconnect from "being available" online because it's a way they find to feel extra desired. Relationships do have their ups and downs, internet is a rescue to their souls when their partner annoyed them. I don't want my future husband in here, out!

The one thing that interests me on this thread is that we all agree that being dishonest about who you are is common on online sites. But I have to wonder what someone must feel about themselves if they can't be who they are online? Or anywhere for that matter? We all want to get to know the true person. I'm a full figured girl and say so. Telling strangers I'm a size 4 would be counterproductive to me. If I meet a great guy I'd have to explain why I suddenly gained lots of weight or am using a old picture. What would be the point? I would just be setting us both up for a let down. Life has enough of those, why create more? But unfortunately for those of us who are honest about ourselves it's hard to sift through the dishonest people to find the genuine article. I think this is why it's called " the dating game". Play along, ladies and gentlemen and find your needle in the haystack! Good luck to all of us and may we all find friends along the way!

Truthfully, I don't think it's that hard.

I have been spereated 8 years and in that 8 years I have had 2 realtionships, which meant I have only been alone for about a year and a half of my adult life.

I came on the site to make some friends around the world as my intention was to travel...........free acomodation
jokin......but hav found a little community of people to interact with.

I would not laugh as I do in another environment and that is really why I come on the forums.

If a relationship comes along well and good.

I can't answer you, Squirly. I had that happen to me. No explanation, nothing. Just *poof*, up and disappeared. It won't stop me from trying again, but I'll give a bit less of myself next time until I'm more sure of the person and the relationship.

Yes, it's a shame that there seems to be much less of it, but I can't agree that it's disappeared.

Like you, I'm me on here. Very much me. I was talking about that with a friend last night, and he agreed with the part about actually being more "me" online because of the topics discussed, and the way they make you think. He's not on here, but on another site, and feels the same way. And is having the same troubles I am with finding a true connection. But, we keep trying.

For me, if it happens here, it does. If it doesn't, it doesn't. It will happen where and when it's meant to...and in the meantime, I'll keep having fun here in forums.