How to get by the day in a long distance relationship ( Archived) (58)

stefonline: Really nice and touching thread....just normal the way I like it...Dont know who the lucky Lady is but she is lucky....The only thing that I would be sad about is that I did'nt get to you first.....

TurkishDelight: Mike
Wonderful thread, hopefully it will inspire others to do

as you have suggested..who knows

We have done more or less the same for over 2 years and it has paid off. We are combining our households over the next few weeks and moving in together Thank you CS

stefonline: Oh I see...seems strange that your wife would be so far away....a little confused.... never mind I guess I dont know the details....

I am happy for the both of them....I did think he was here one time looking for someone or something...I must have been mistaken...

Sommerauer71: Oh it is a wonderful story, Mike and A split up and have recently got back together, and it is often the case with many people that they have to live in seperate countries, I did it with my ex husband for four months until he finished his work in the UK.

stefonline: Many thank's for clarity on the picture sommer...

mike69spain: Just wanted to drop a few examples how we do it...

Morning - I wake up, kill the alarm and call one short "beep" on her mobile to show I am up, I have my coffee and I read the net news.

When she wakes up she do something similar, or did already since she is in another time zone ahead of me.

When I have my thoughts in order I give her a short call and tell her I still thinks she should have slept at my place instead. She normally agrees, but sometimes she need me to convince her that would actually be a better choice than her very cosy bed. A call of no more than 5 minutes and we quickly present each others plans for the day.

Siesta / afternoon - I send a text, from a simple love message to something more substantial depending on thoughts, questions and events. If she have a reply it will come, if not there will be a short beep back to acknowledge the message. If there was a question she will instead call back twice for a Yes, one for a No.

(A call back three times it means "call me as soon as you can".)

Evening - we log in to our messengers and use that to recapitulate the day, gossip and send images of things we seen and wanted to show. This can be everything from 10 minutes to the rest of the evening depending on things like work,going out with friends, TV or other things.

Often we end with calling and wishing good night, but even so, she will tuck in before me and I will call another short "beep" when I put my lights out.

Now, we have kept each other in our daily life all day, and all we missed was the physical side of the relation.

Long calls cost money, and high bills tends to be a stress for many. The system with beeps (one short for "got it" or NO!, two short separate for "YES!" and three for a call back) works really good.

If I simply call in the middle of the day in between all it means "I am thinking of you" and she will return it when she find out if she is not available at the moment.

We keep in touch, we keep each other a jour of events and we miss very little in spite of the distance.

Long distance can work out just fine, if you find ways of cutting the distance and the time spent away from her/him.

vinny1967: Well done Turkish...........

Delighted for you and hope everything works out for you........