Selfish in the bedroom (215)
gininitaly: Hmm.... if pertaining to the Matrix here online, it seems to be a rampant malady , in my opinion. Wanting all for nothing and giving little in return.
"That's exactly the way it is....some people are very sensual, very physical, and some simply are not...I have been with both...it's simply a question of meeting the right match, so that your intimacy levels sync....it takes two to tango" Lagoona
Sounds good at the get go Lagoona, but the fact remains that most male internet connections talk a good talk but rarely walk a decent walk.... let alone tango , does make you wonder about the obsession for quantity at any cost, over quality?
Communication is key for sure. But I have found there are many quite put out if a woman does have ideas and suggestions of her own ....... isn't that a shame?
"That's exactly the way it is....some people are very sensual, very physical, and some simply are not...I have been with both...it's simply a question of meeting the right match, so that your intimacy levels sync....it takes two to tango" Lagoona
Sounds good at the get go Lagoona, but the fact remains that most male internet connections talk a good talk but rarely walk a decent walk.... let alone tango , does make you wonder about the obsession for quantity at any cost, over quality?
Communication is key for sure. But I have found there are many quite put out if a woman does have ideas and suggestions of her own ....... isn't that a shame?
maybe i am different dont know and i dont care. My motto for many many years has been very selfish. First the lady and then me no matter where, what or how and quality is number one on the list above all others.
It is amazing how many women cant cope with this. So called sophisticated ones cant even get their heads round it. This quote also applies to the Woman as well"" internet connections talk a good talk but rarely walk a decent walk.... let alone tango "" not just the male component.
Sommerauer71: Pleasure. It is an interesting discussion.
To come back to your question about intelligence being related to your question.
When we know what we want, and age does not come into that at all, do you not think that having a degree of intelligence is related to what we look for in a partner?
Therefore, would you allow a person in your life who would not consider your needs?
Would you allow a person who did not care what you thought, to continue being in your life?
Is not being emotionally intelligent and in tune with ones own needs part of working through what we find acceptable and what we would want to negotiate on within a relationship?
i may be explaining myself clumsily here, so do feel free to ask anything that you need clarifying.
See, if I have a problem now, I take it to my partner, we discuss it and it may not always be pretty or pleasant, but we get a result where we both feel better about things.
To come back to your question about intelligence being related to your question.
When we know what we want, and age does not come into that at all, do you not think that having a degree of intelligence is related to what we look for in a partner?
Therefore, would you allow a person in your life who would not consider your needs?
Would you allow a person who did not care what you thought, to continue being in your life?
Is not being emotionally intelligent and in tune with ones own needs part of working through what we find acceptable and what we would want to negotiate on within a relationship?
i may be explaining myself clumsily here, so do feel free to ask anything that you need clarifying.
See, if I have a problem now, I take it to my partner, we discuss it and it may not always be pretty or pleasant, but we get a result where we both feel better about things.
Mmmmmm where you live you must have a lot more choice then we do here in Marbella
Unfortunately I have had to lower my standards or accept being single. I love living in Marbella and leaving would not be an option BUT I somehow don't feel I will meet my dream man here 
Sommerauer71: Now this I can relate to.
Not being clear or being vague, this can sometimes be my problem and I am not talking in the bedroom here, just in general.
We have a common language, that was taught differently to us, sometimes especially the English language being such an ambiguous language, words can be misunderstood.
Butterfly, your last paragraph is great too, why do you feel that their heart is not in it?
This is what I have not had a problem with, simply because I have not had the experience of trying with lots of different people.
Not being clear or being vague, this can sometimes be my problem and I am not talking in the bedroom here, just in general.
We have a common language, that was taught differently to us, sometimes especially the English language being such an ambiguous language, words can be misunderstood.
Butterfly, your last paragraph is great too, why do you feel that their heart is not in it?
This is what I have not had a problem with, simply because I have not had the experience of trying with lots of different people.
Body language? 
butterfly27459: I TOLD YOU I SHOULD BECOME A LESBIAN
Butterfly..whats the problem...From a quick reading of the thread it seems like a communication breakdown..could be wrong..
I'll have another read
gussi: maybe i am different dont know and i dont care. My motto for many many years has been very selfish. First the lady and then me no matter where, what or how and quality is number one on the list above all others.
It is amazing how many women cant cope with this. So called sophisticated ones cant even get their heads round it. This quote also applies to the Woman as well"" internet connections talk a good talk but rarely walk a decent walk.... let alone tango "" not just the male component.
It is amazing how many women cant cope with this. So called sophisticated ones cant even get their heads round it. This quote also applies to the Woman as well"" internet connections talk a good talk but rarely walk a decent walk.... let alone tango "" not just the male component.
Mmmmmm interesting play of words Gussi
butterfly27459: Mmmmmm interesting play of words Gussi
I cannot really comment on this post and remain both modest and a gentleman........... if only I could 'play my own trumpet' I would - and I'd have no need whatsoever to consider either the needs or feelings of ladies!
rusty_knight: I cannot really comment on this post and remain both modest and a gentleman........... if only I could 'play my own trumpet' I would - and I'd have no need whatsoever to consider either the needs or feelings of ladies!
Why can't you...unless of course the old back is playing up again and you can't bend over
Phoenix: Why can't you...unless of course the old back is playing up again and you can't bend over
Apparently only 0.2% of the male population can play their own trumpets - Lord knows how they got the statistic!
Don't make a tit of yourself again here Robert...
rusty_knight: Ewwwwwwww! You must be REALLY desperate, old boy!
Lagoona22: Don't make a tit of yourself again here Robert...
No need with you around, dear Tony!
In response to: Hi guys, time to spice up the EU Forums a little
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
I think it is best to keep going until the lady tells you to stop, because she has had enough/too much. I never was much for a quickie, for me a nice, lazy Saturday morning in bed is best...and if it runs into the afternoon, all the better. ;)
rusty_knight: Apparently only 0.2% of the male population can play their own trumpets - Lord knows how they got the statistic!
I'm going to whistle dixie on mine....
Phoenix: I'm going to whistle dixie on mine....
Do you holes in your flute too?
NelsonOKC: I think it is best to keep going until the lady tells you to stop, because she has had enough/too much. I never was much for a quickie, for me a nice, lazy Saturday morning in bed is best...and if it runs into the afternoon, all the better. ;)
Now that is braging
keep it up mate 
rusty_knight: I cannot really comment on this post and remain both modest and a gentleman........... if only I could 'play my own trumpet' I would - and I'd have no need whatsoever to consider either the needs or feelings of ladies!
I think this resembles our observations thus far.....
Good way to take ALL the fun out of romance. And Rusty? Fictional gentleman or not, I believe you've just blown your cover
.He's actually very good at that you know...!...
gininitaly: I think this resembles our observations thus far.....
Good way to take ALL the fun out of romance. And Rusty? Fictional gentleman or not, I believe you've just blown your cover .
Good way to take ALL the fun out of romance. And Rusty? Fictional gentleman or not, I believe you've just blown your cover .
butterfly27459: Mmmmmm interesting play of words Gussi
ah the powers of female observation, so refreshing
Lagoona22: He's actually very good at that you know...!...
wot blowing
rusty_knight: Do you holes in your flute too?
I've heard holts exhaust bandage is good for holes in the flute, goes hard as well
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"That's exactly the way it is....some people are very sensual, very physical, and some simply are not...I have been with both...it's simply a question of meeting the right match, so that your intimacy levels sync....it takes two to tango" Lagoona
Sounds good at the get go Lagoona, but the fact remains that most male internet connections talk a good talk but rarely walk a decent walk.... let alone tango
Communication is key for sure. But I have found there are many quite put out if a woman does have ideas and suggestions of her own