Selfish in the bedroom (215)
butterfly27459: Hi guys, time to spice up the EU Forums a little
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
yep thats the behaviour of a "wham bam thank you maam" bloke.
sad but true,
butterfly27459:
Question:
Can I educate a selfish lover?
Question:
Can I educate a selfish lover?
Educate me please I would like to learn....I promise I will try to get 10 out of 10... with a litle help from you
Sorry about last night Butterfly, but when you picked up the remote control while we were bonking, and switched on "Pirates of the Caribbean", I thought that you had lost interest...
Lagoona22: Sorry about last night Butterfly, but when you picked up the remote control while we were bonking, and switched on "Pirates of the Caribbean", I thought that you had lost interest...
lol...you are sooo mean...come on, give me some real advice here! Or are you the perfect lover? Never been selfish in the bedroom?paul1901: Educate me please I would like to learn....I promise I will try to get 10 out of 10... with a litle help from you
moet je wel naar Spanje komen 
Lagoona22: Sorry about last night Butterfly, but when you picked up the remote control while we were bonking, and switched on "Pirates of the Caribbean", I thought that you had lost interest...
Bet you're a closet Mills and Boon author!
C'mon Lago, tell us your pseudonym
butterfly27459: Hi guys, time to spice up the EU Forums a little
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
Two points 'spring' to mind:
1.) Is the person only selfish in the bedroom? I would have thought that people are either selfish or selfless or somewhere in between........... but if the person is selfish elsewhere education could be a waste of time!
2.) Communication - how can your partner know what you want if you don't tell him?
Men are not mind readers - and some are less 'aware' or sensitive to the feelings and needs of others through no fault of their own........... men are better at killing things and simple 'Yes/No' questions and answers rather than thinking deeply about feelings!
rusty_knight: Two points 'spring' to mind:
1.) Is the person only selfish in the bedroom? I would have thought that people are either selfish or selfless or somewhere in between........... but if the person is selfish elsewhere education could be a waste of time!
2.) Communication - how can your partner know what you want if you don't tell him?
Men are not mind readers - and some are less 'aware' or sensitive to the feelings and needs of others through no fault of their own........... men are better at killing things and simple 'Yes/No' questions and answers rather than thinking deeply about feelings!
1.) Is the person only selfish in the bedroom? I would have thought that people are either selfish or selfless or somewhere in between........... but if the person is selfish elsewhere education could be a waste of time!
2.) Communication - how can your partner know what you want if you don't tell him?
Men are not mind readers - and some are less 'aware' or sensitive to the feelings and needs of others through no fault of their own........... men are better at killing things and simple 'Yes/No' questions and answers rather than thinking deeply about feelings!
Good point Rusty, yes I suppose they were also selfish outside the bedroom
and YES, I did tell them....but I am not going to repeat myself over and over again if they do not get the message....
butterfly27459: Hi guys, time to spice up the EU Forums a little
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?
Can you make clear requests about what your needs are to a man?
I think when you do, it will get much better for you. Also, it's a turn on for men ! How great is that!
It is a hard question, given that I have not seen 'many' men in the bedroom.
My experience is that no, they are not selfish in the bedroom.
There is of course your point here, 'you are not good at asking'
I would say that depends on the people involved and how close they are as a couple.
I would say that a close couple, one party would not be on a forum asking about this.
I find it odd, Butterfly, that a woman of your age and intelligence should not know the answer to this by now.
Still, I shall follow it with interest.
My experience is that no, they are not selfish in the bedroom.
There is of course your point here, 'you are not good at asking'
I would say that depends on the people involved and how close they are as a couple.
I would say that a close couple, one party would not be on a forum asking about this.
I find it odd, Butterfly, that a woman of your age and intelligence should not know the answer to this by now.
Still, I shall follow it with interest.
Yeah.....what she said....that did occur to me too...!
Sommerauer71:
I find it odd, Butterfly, that a woman of your age and intelligence should not know the answer to this by now.
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I find it odd, Butterfly, that a woman of your age and intelligence should not know the answer to this by now.
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Lagoona22: Yeah.....what she said....that did occur to me too...!
Me too actually butterfly.
Perhaps butterfly might have a man on CS, and expects he might be reading this?
venere08: Perhaps butterfly might have a man on CS, and expects he might be reading this?
Ven!
How are you?
Maybe.
Bingo....I like your quick mind.
venere08: Perhaps butterfly might have a man on CS, and expects he might be reading this?
Lagoona22: Bingo....I like your quick mind.
I don´t understand, if butterfly has a man on cs why would she want to post this and possibly put him off.
Sorry we´re all talking about you as though you´re not here butterfly, well you´re not here, but you know what I mean.
Come back and enlighten us.
Jan1305: I don´t understand, if butterfly has a man on cs why would she want to post this and possibly put him off.
Sorry we´re all talking about you as though you´re not here butterfly, well you´re not here, but you know what I mean.
Come back and enlighten us.
Sorry we´re all talking about you as though you´re not here butterfly, well you´re not here, but you know what I mean.
Come back and enlighten us.
No, I do not think that is the case, I think she is smart enough not to do something such as that.
Maybe it was just as she said, spicing up the forums.
Sommerauer71: Ven!
How are you?
Maybe.
How are you?
Maybe.
Sommer! I'm well, thanks. Late Sunday night here so am winding up and nearly ready for bed. Work day in the morning, which starts bright and early taking our new puppy for a longish walk to wear her out enough so she can snooze while I am at work
I read somewhere you have been working hard. Good girl.
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Question: Are many men selfish in the bedroom? Or have I been unlucky?
I have had quite a few lovers who would actually make little effort for ME, most were just more interested in getting FROM me what THEY wanted.... and I suppose I am not good at asking...
Can I educate a selfish lover? Or should I just move on?