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Very good post, HJF! I do this quite often. We can CHOOSE our friends, but we're given a family.
I've often asked myself, if my siblings weren't my siblings, would I associate with them? Probably not, unfortunately. I'm the "odd-ball" in the bunch. They're so vastly different from me, I just don't see us ever having come together as friends.
I've often asked myself, if my siblings weren't my siblings, would I associate with them? Probably not, unfortunately. I'm the "odd-ball" in the bunch. They're so vastly different from me, I just don't see us ever having come together as friends.
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HJFinAZ: Coping with Families
There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on a different basis.
There is no one or perfect way to deal with members of our family. It is up to each of us to choose a path that suits us and our needs at each point in time.
The idea that is new to us is that we can choose. We can set the boundaries we need to set with family members. We can choose a path that works for us, without guilt and obligation or undue influence from any source, including professionals. Our goal is to be able to take care of ourselves, love ourselves, and live healthy lives despite what family members do or don't do. We decide what boundaries or decisions are necessary to do this.
God, help me choose the path that is right for me with family. Help me understand there is no right or wrong in this process. Help me strive for forgiveness and learn to detach with love, whenever possible. I understand that this never implies that I have to forfeit self-care and health for the good of the system.
There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on a different basis.
There is no one or perfect way to deal with members of our family. It is up to each of us to choose a path that suits us and our needs at each point in time.
The idea that is new to us is that we can choose. We can set the boundaries we need to set with family members. We can choose a path that works for us, without guilt and obligation or undue influence from any source, including professionals. Our goal is to be able to take care of ourselves, love ourselves, and live healthy lives despite what family members do or don't do. We decide what boundaries or decisions are necessary to do this.
God, help me choose the path that is right for me with family. Help me understand there is no right or wrong in this process. Help me strive for forgiveness and learn to detach with love, whenever possible. I understand that this never implies that I have to forfeit self-care and health for the good of the system.
What you've just posted fits my family situation to a t.I won't elaborate so I don't appear a whinner.
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HJFinAZ: Coping with Families
There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on a different basis.
There is no one or perfect way to deal with members of our family. It is up to each of us to choose a path that suits us and our needs at each point in time.
The idea that is new to us is that we can choose. We can set the boundaries we need to set with family members. We can choose a path that works for us, without guilt and obligation or undue influence from any source, including professionals. Our goal is to be able to take care of ourselves, love ourselves, and live healthy lives despite what family members do or don't do. We decide what boundaries or decisions are necessary to do this.
God, help me choose the path that is right for me with family. Help me understand there is no right or wrong in this process. Help me strive for forgiveness and learn to detach with love, whenever possible. I understand that this never implies that I have to forfeit self-care and health for the good of the system.
There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on a different basis.
There is no one or perfect way to deal with members of our family. It is up to each of us to choose a path that suits us and our needs at each point in time.
The idea that is new to us is that we can choose. We can set the boundaries we need to set with family members. We can choose a path that works for us, without guilt and obligation or undue influence from any source, including professionals. Our goal is to be able to take care of ourselves, love ourselves, and live healthy lives despite what family members do or don't do. We decide what boundaries or decisions are necessary to do this.
God, help me choose the path that is right for me with family. Help me understand there is no right or wrong in this process. Help me strive for forgiveness and learn to detach with love, whenever possible. I understand that this never implies that I have to forfeit self-care and health for the good of the system.
Very nice, likewise as a previous poster, I won't elaborate about the situation, but definately something I deal with alot. Nice post!
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Thanks for sharing that HJFinAZ...
We always have a choice indeed. What do we really want and are we capable of forgiving ourselves and our family members...depends on the level of understanding of the individual...
Blood is blood...
We always have a choice indeed. What do we really want and are we capable of forgiving ourselves and our family members...depends on the level of understanding of the individual...
Blood is blood...
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This post hits home in so many ways. May your faith guide you and give you strength.
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We were born into a family. Was not our choice. As we grow
older the so called family starts drifting apart. Many
lies and hurtful things are done. Several years go by and
no communication is had. Then one very special person decides
it is time to try to reconcile this family. Said person
arranges a meeting. They meet, share hugs and tears.
Although some things still need to be talked over the
first step has been taken, because one family member said
enough water under the bridge. This is a true story and
I admire this person a great deal. It can work.
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There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on a different basis.
There is no one or perfect way to deal with members of our family. It is up to each of us to choose a path that suits us and our needs at each point in time.
The idea that is new to us is that we can choose. We can set the boundaries we need to set with family members. We can choose a path that works for us, without guilt and obligation or undue influence from any source, including professionals. Our goal is to be able to take care of ourselves, love ourselves, and live healthy lives despite what family members do or don't do. We decide what boundaries or decisions are necessary to do this.
God, help me choose the path that is right for me with family. Help me understand there is no right or wrong in this process. Help me strive for forgiveness and learn to detach with love, whenever possible. I understand that this never implies that I have to forfeit self-care and health for the good of the system.