I am pretty new to this online dating site stuff. I have a tendency to trust ppl and cannot understand why they would lie if looking to meet someone special. What are some of the signs that someone is being a fake, not who they say they are. I just want to meet someone nice to spend the rest of my life with . not some freak. so any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated
babyoh150: I am pretty new to this online dating site stuff. I have a tendency to trust ppl and cannot understand why they would lie if looking to meet someone special. What are some of the signs that someone is being a fake, not who they say they are. I just want to meet someone nice to spend the rest of my life with . not some freak. so any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated
Walk softly and carry a really big stick. Take your time, and time spent in communication first will usually weed out the 'freaks'. After spending some time hanging around these site, you get to be a battle hardened veteran and can see em coming a mile away.
And at the top of this page there is a button labeled "SCAM WARNING", let it become your best friend.
By the way, I am a business man stuck in Nigeria who lost his wallet and I have no money to get home. By the way I live in..in..um..just down the road from you and turn left at the drug store. Yeah, that's it...so can you send me some money. Coupons maybe? Hey, I know...cashiers cheques, I'll send you a bunch and you send me the money...okay? Sound good?
In response to: I am pretty new to this online dating site stuff. I have a tendency to trust ppl and cannot understand why they would lie if looking to meet someone special. What are some of the signs that someone is being a fake, not who they say they are. I just want to meet someone nice to spend the rest of my life with . not some freak. so any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated
As mentioned before - they tend to be rather quick about trying to get you off of here and communicating on yahoo or msn. Read the notes on scammers and if someone asks you for money - don't send it. Get involved in the forums and get to know people - then if there's someone you're not sure about - I'm pretty sure one of the long-timers on here would be only too glad to have an eyeball at a questionable profile.
Above all trust your 'gut' if something doesn't feel right then question it/them.
A few things that I have noticed in detecting the fake profiles:
Their discrition of themselves doesn't match the picture.
Fake profiles have very bland comments about themselves. I find when I read profiles of the real people, there is somthing in how they write about there activities, family, needs, that give some personality.
They give you their name and e-mail address in the first letter.
You get the sense they they haven't read your profile.
Way out of your age range that you are looking for.
I'm sure others can give you other red flags to look for.
thanks for the help. I have recently come across a man who i have talked to for only 3 days now and he confessed his undying love to me yesterday in an email. I don't know whether to just block him/ write thanks but no thanks/ or what. i hate being rude
babyoh150: thanks for the help. I have recently come across a man who i have talked to for only 3 days now and he confessed his undying love to me yesterday in an email. I don't know whether to just block him/ write thanks but no thanks/ or what. i hate being rude
WOW! In love in 3 days he says! And 'undying' to boot! He must be superman cause he is faster than a speeding bullet.
babyoh150: I am pretty new to this online dating site stuff. I have a tendency to trust ppl and cannot understand why they would lie if looking to meet someone special. What are some of the signs that someone is being a fake, not who they say they are. I just want to meet someone nice to spend the rest of my life with . not some freak. so any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated
You can do your own research too. Do a search using the person's profile name, given name, or email address. The internet is loaded with info on scammers; names, MOs, pictures, etc. Play safe, but above all; play smart. Good Luck and happy hunting.
Loner1960: Another suspicious sign. If in dought, wait a few days and see if their profile disapears. This happens often.
you were right the next day his pic was gone. buy he didmsn me. i have blocked him now. scary to think about things that might happen. but i have now met a nice guy and things are going well. thaks for all your advice good luck to you
New on this site, but it would seem to me lying will get a person nowhere.....the truth will come out fast enough if you ever decide to meet someone???
babyoh150: thanks for the help. I have recently come across a man who i have talked to for only 3 days now and he confessed his undying love to me yesterday in an email. I don't know whether to just block him/ write thanks but no thanks/ or what. i hate being rude
Just seen this on the new's blurbs...kinda interesting:
What's this By Colin Perkel, The Canadian Press
TORONTO - A con artist who preyed on single women with tales of his wealth and stature deserved an 18-month jail sentence handed him last fall, Ontario's highest court ruled Friday.
In upholding the sentence against Enrico Cagnotti, the Appeal Court found the judge at trial was justified in imposing a stiffer sentence than what had been recommended by Crown and defence.
"The appellant is an incorrigible con man who seeks to victimize women for financial gain, and who shows no respect for court orders," the court said in a brief decision.
"We are satisfied that the sentence is fit."
The Crown and defence had suggested a total sentence of about nine months.
Cagnotti, 50, of Tiny Township, Ont., pleaded guilty in November to three breaches of probation and one of a court order that he refrain from using dating websites.
He already had a long record of fraud-related convictions.
In sentencing him, Ontario Court Justice George Brophy said Cagnotti needed to be "sharply reprimanded." Brophy said Cagnotti's behaviour in cruising for fraud targets on the Internet needed to be denounced.
Cagnotti complained he had been unfairly treated and said he would appeal, but the higher court, which heard his case Thursday, wasn't biting.
Brophy was justified in rejecting counsel's submissions and imposing a stiffer jail term, the Appeal Court said.
The judge only did so after giving reasons why the sentence suggested by the Crown "was contrary to the public interest and the administration of justice," the court ruled.
Cagnotti's criminal record began a dozen years ago with a conviction for uttering threats. He has since racked up about two dozen convictions and jail terms for crimes including fraud, theft and forgery, uttering threats and obstructing police.
The courts banned him in August 2007 for three years from participating in online dating sites or pretending to be an "available partner."
Ontario Provincial Police, who arrested him, said women in several towns and cities had complained about him.
Women who met or had contact with him through dating sites said, among other things, he pretended to drive a $1-million Mercedes-Benz and claimed to be an airline pilot who owned a private flight-services company.
Cagnotti used different profiles and made false claims about his wealth and prestige to women, police said.
In sentencing him, Brophy found the accused was trying to get money by "playing on their emotions and psychological needs."
"Mr. Cagnotti would appear to be a career con man," the judge said.
"I don't think it's fair," Cagnotti protested at the time.
"I made my wrong. I was willing to do what had to be done, and people that I defrauded, I paid back with restitution."
eyesthatknowwhy: Just seen this on the new's blurbs...kinda interesting:
What's this By Colin Perkel, The Canadian Press
TORONTO - A con artist who preyed on single women with tales of his wealth and stature deserved an 18-month jail sentence handed him last fall, Ontario's highest court ruled Friday..."
Ha. Good one. Scum like con men (or women) deserve full prosecution.
babyoh150: I am pretty new to this online dating site stuff. I have a tendency to trust ppl and cannot understand why they would lie if looking to meet someone special. What are some of the signs that someone is being a fake, not who they say they are. I just want to meet someone nice to spend the rest of my life with . not some freak. so any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated
Well here is the answer to that question. Communication. Ask questions. Don't interrogate (he will run for the hills) Comunication is the backbone to all good relationships. If he/she is not willing to talk about what they want and who they are now or in the past then chances are they are hiding something. IF they can't communicate about the little things, god your in trouble when it comes to finances, children and the future.
Early on find out what his long term goals and aspirations are. IF they don't mirror yours or come close. Don't waste your time or his. Move on.
I agree with the other member who said get to know the person, until you do it will be hard to tell if they are fake or not. Don't fall quickly.
I've not found mine either but I have met some wonderful people who i consider to be some of my closest friends now.
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What are some of the signs that someone is being a fake, not who they say they are.
I just want to meet someone nice to spend the rest of my life with . not some freak. so any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated