Why are YOU here??! (44)
Green_Sleeves: So why are you here? Select from the above? (or is it below?)
Did you start out seeking something but, over time change your mind as a result of your efforts?
im here cos im bored if i meet someone thats a (unlikely) bonusDid you start out seeking something but, over time change your mind as a result of your efforts?
I came here to find a relationship and although I have made a lot of good friends here, both male and female, I have had no luck in finding a long term relationship. Between you, me and the wall, I have pretty much given up these days and only come on to read the forums and chat to friends, as seems to be common with us long timers. 
LadyBlackAdder: I came here to find a relationship and although I have made a lot of good friends here, both male and female, I have had no luck in finding a long term relationship. Between you, me and the wall, I have pretty much given up these days and only come on to read the forums and chat to friends, as seems to be common with us long timers.
miss Black Adder may I just say...the fools do not know what they are missing
Miss Diva Bella, I have to agree, they certainly don't. 
snowlynx: No Millieh, there are loads of genuine men left, all you have to do is look and they will be right there!
You're dead right..lots of nice men out there
snowlynx: No Millieh, there are loads of genuine men left, all you have to do is look and they will be right there!
Hopefully the date i have soon will be ok
Green_Sleeves: So why are you here? Select from the above? (or is it below?)
Did you start out seeking something but, over time change your mind as a result of your efforts?
Did you start out seeking something but, over time change your mind as a result of your efforts?
Joined for two reasons:
Tired of the pub/club thing - meeting the same people etc.
Became too busy to go out as much as I used to.
Was going out and talking to a lot of people in pubs/clubs, it was fun for a while. But it was difficult to meet anyone I really liked. The pub/club thing is so hit and miss, you chat to so many people only to discover that they're not what you were looking for - or they drop off the radar etc.
Then, about 6 months ago, I was finishing a course in college that left me with practically no time off to head out. It was intense, all week, most of the weekend. So, I thought, with summer coming up, I'd give the internet thing a try. Maybe set up a few dates for the summer. Also, I thought that chatting to people here first might be better than approaching randomers in a club and trying to extract a conversation from them.
Like an opportunity to get to know someone, before you get to know them. Or something like that. But after a while, I realised that it's actually harder to meet someone here than it is socially.
I was going to delete my account, but decided to check out the forums. Some of the people were nice, so I stayed on a while. That's my CS story, book's out next year!!
so far it seems only a third of people are here because they are looking for a relationship! wow! interesting to know.
im here because i am ready to meet someone special and all going well, enter into a relationship. i see online dating as just another medium for meeting people. im am trying to be proactive in my love life, but so far, to no avail............
im here because i am ready to meet someone special and all going well, enter into a relationship. i see online dating as just another medium for meeting people. im am trying to be proactive in my love life, but so far, to no avail............
I did sign up looking for a relationship but that's not happened as yet, might try a meet n greet if I pluck up the courage to attend one!!
Cooors: I did sign up looking for a relationship but that's not happened as yet, might try a meet n greet if I pluck up the courage to attend one!!
Ah there isn't any courage needed to meet people off here. All you need is a well lined stomach wall and to be prepared the buy the usual round that all first timers do!
skyblue43: Ah there isn't any courage needed to meet people off here. All you need is a well lined stomach wall and to be prepared the buy the usual round that all first timers do!
that for me is a challenging one, but when it comes to online arranging dates it can be a daunting task i would believe
i find it easy enough to make friends with people online, but for seeking more, possible, but requires alot of patience and time not that i am not patient but i would have to wait til i would have the required time
i do however feel personal contact would really answer the question as you can't really know how you feel about the person through photographs, may made the contact interested, but personal meet answers the attraction.
woops was reading the thread and should of quoted the op lol
the wonders alcohol does to the system
the wonders alcohol does to the system
scarwolve: that for me is a challenging one, but when it comes to online arranging dates it can be a daunting task i would believe
i find it easy enough to make friends with people online, but for seeking more, possible, but requires alot of patience and time not that i am not patient but i would have to wait til i would have the required time
i do however feel personal contact would really answer the question as you can't really know how you feel about the person through photographs, may made the contact interested, but personal meet answers the attraction.
i find it easy enough to make friends with people online, but for seeking more, possible, but requires alot of patience and time not that i am not patient but i would have to wait til i would have the required time
i do however feel personal contact would really answer the question as you can't really know how you feel about the person through photographs, may made the contact interested, but personal meet answers the attraction.
Hey! Persoanlly I try not to think of it as 'organising a date' ie in a romantic sense, far too much stress and nerves that way
I prefer to call the first one a 'meet up', as you are aware yourself you dont really know someone (no matter how much you think you do via messages, texts etc) until you meet in person.Try not to seek 'love' online, but get to know someone, meet up, if you get on you get on, if not, then at least you can move on, or at least have made a new friend!
Thats the best advice I can offer at the mo', although I'm by no means a love guru, far from it
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That's interesting, as I always thought that if the internet had been around when I was twenty I wouldn't have tried online dating. But I see your point about being able to get to know someone, more chance of doing that here than in a bar/club alright.