How would you rate if you partner is checking on your gadgets like Cellphone or Computers? (63)
Etlal: No Problem.. Nothing to hide but that will be sing of mistrust and that will hurt me. Sometimes will be business or work or other things reasons and I will be telling her that and explain but if she went in my phone and computer that will be mistrust and I do not like it
I always ask this: What do you suppose a wife/girlfriend would do and say if she were to walk in and find the husband/boyfriend going through her purse, clutch, etc.? (It wouldn't be a pretty scene----I rest my case).
Hello all,
great to hear your views...
I am back from outside having
while watching Russia vs. Greece match and Greece got the first goal!
Well, for me there shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship and if you respect and trust each other but sometimes it takes time to trust someone especially if s/he has hidden motives or agenda to you.. so better be cautious especially you have put everything your personal info or accounts in your cp or lappy that would be so dangerous..
Also about relationships, if s/he truly loves you then there is no reason for her/him to catch you on that thing "Ask" is enough. For some reason if you trust your partner better share to them your personal necessities to avoid doubts and jealousy.
great to hear your views...
I am back from outside having
while watching Russia vs. Greece match and Greece got the first goal! Well, for me there shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship and if you respect and trust each other but sometimes it takes time to trust someone especially if s/he has hidden motives or agenda to you.. so better be cautious especially you have put everything your personal info or accounts in your cp or lappy that would be so dangerous..
Also about relationships, if s/he truly loves you then there is no reason for her/him to catch you on that thing "Ask" is enough. For some reason if you trust your partner better share to them your personal necessities to avoid doubts and jealousy.
Susanne1: I would let my cell phone lie around openly and let my partner look at all the content in my presence because I have nothing to hide.
I would, however, go up in arms, if my partner tried to check up on me on the sly, or demand to be given full access at all times, even in my absence.
Asking is fine - demanding and expecting to see it all is not.
I hear you, but I am not so sure I would even be OK with asking. (It's rude).I would, however, go up in arms, if my partner tried to check up on me on the sly, or demand to be given full access at all times, even in my absence.
Asking is fine - demanding and expecting to see it all is not.
Vern8880: Hello all,
great to hear your views...
I am back from outside having while watching Russia vs. Greece match and Greece got the first goal!
Well, for me there shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship and if you respect and trust each other but sometimes it takes time to trust someone especially if s/he has hidden motives or agenda to you.. so better be cautious especially you have put everything your personal info or accounts in your cp or lappy that would be so dangerous..
Also about relationships, if s/he truly loves you then there is no reason for her/him to catch you on that thing "Ask" is enough. For some reason if you trust your partner better share to them your personal necessities to avoid doubts and jealousy.
It is wrong to expect someone to lose their privacy just because you are intimately involved. It's called respect, and it is cast away so casually it makes me wonder how any relationships can survive. I do not "owe" my wife/partner all my feelings. Some things are still sacred.great to hear your views...
I am back from outside having while watching Russia vs. Greece match and Greece got the first goal!
Well, for me there shouldn't be anything to hide in a relationship and if you respect and trust each other but sometimes it takes time to trust someone especially if s/he has hidden motives or agenda to you.. so better be cautious especially you have put everything your personal info or accounts in your cp or lappy that would be so dangerous..
Also about relationships, if s/he truly loves you then there is no reason for her/him to catch you on that thing "Ask" is enough. For some reason if you trust your partner better share to them your personal necessities to avoid doubts and jealousy.
rohaan: I hear you, but I am not so sure I would even be OK with asking. (It's rude).
I suppose it depends on the relationship, doesn't it? I think I would actually show my partner, before he could even ask; unless it would mean to betray a friend's confidence - I would very firmly draw the line there.
Nessa7:
No not midgets .. but I have the info of all of them in my handbag called "My Little Black Book"
How many pages is this list????,mine runs to a few.-No not midgets .. but I have the info of all of them in my handbag called "My Little Black Book"
felixis99: agreed - "thank heavens he's someone else's problem now"
LOL hehehe...
Nessa7: Nope no touching my cell phone or laptop .... Touch my handbag and I will chop his hands off
I could've imagine that. Talk about the dark side...
Susanne1: I suppose it depends on the relationship, doesn't it? I think I would actually show my partner, before he could even ask; unless it would mean to betray a friend's confidence - I would very firmly draw the line there.
A bit of a "Catch 22", as we say. If a person is too secretive, that's a problem. If a person is too inquisitive and nosy, that's a problem. Gosh and darn it--what are we going to do? knowwhatimeanjellybean?Hmmm... I have seen a great match here than at EURO2012 (Nessa & Almera03) they look cute together while exchanging views though the one needs to give up but the other still catching hers...
I smell something here. 
I smell something here. rohaan: A bit of a "Catch 22", as we say. If a person is too secretive, that's a problem. If a person is too inquisitive and nosy, that's a problem. Gosh and darn it--what are we going to do? knowwhatimeanjellybean?
I know what you mean!
I personally have never felt insecure enough to demand to know what my partner did with his cell phone, I'm not much of a worrier.
But I did have one of my exes actually read my text messages before I could and then try to blame it on another friend, when I noticed that the message had been opened already - well, he was a goner soon after. Not just because of that, but it was a symptom, a hint that this guy didn't trust me and that I could not trust him.
Susanne1: I know what you mean!
I personally have never felt insecure enough to demand to know what my partner did with his cell phone, I'm not much of a worrier.
But I did have one of my exes actually read my text messages before I could and then try to blame it on another friend, when I noticed that the message had been opened already - well, he was a goner soon after. Not just because of that, but it was a symptom, a hint that this guy didn't trust me and that I could not trust him.
You're very savvy. I sincerely believe that if someone is THAT concerned about those things, there probably IS something uncool going on, and it's time to skedaddle anyhow. Those 'red flags' are given to us for a reason, and they are right more frequently than wrong. JMOI personally have never felt insecure enough to demand to know what my partner did with his cell phone, I'm not much of a worrier.
But I did have one of my exes actually read my text messages before I could and then try to blame it on another friend, when I noticed that the message had been opened already - well, he was a goner soon after. Not just because of that, but it was a symptom, a hint that this guy didn't trust me and that I could not trust him.
We all have different views and opinions.. It's never got to be the same that's how relationship is. That is why there is called understanding and I hope that it's a two way street. If I'm in a long term relationship I will surely wonder his action over his personal things. And sometimes it's a test to your partner if he is open to you or not then maybe he has some baggage's still unresolved. Maybe he has "trust" issue, and to avoid conflicts respect! 
I will leave you now with warmest goodnight
and hope to see yah all tomorrow then.. 
XOXO
I will leave you now with warmest goodnight
and hope to see yah all tomorrow then.. XOXO
i dunno...
i would be ok with a partner checking my cell, puter, whatever...
chances are extremely good that they are probably already apprised of anything of import on them.
i would have a problem with exposing a confidence from a friend, but that is a shared value...so don't think it would happen.
i would be ok with a partner checking my cell, puter, whatever...
chances are extremely good that they are probably already apprised of anything of import on them.
i would have a problem with exposing a confidence from a friend, but that is a shared value...so don't think it would happen.
jono7: i dunno...
i would be ok with a partner checking my cell, puter, whatever...
chances are extremely good that they are probably already apprised of anything of import on them.
i would have a problem with exposing a confidence from a friend, but that is a shared value...so don't think it would happen.
i would be ok with a partner checking my cell, puter, whatever...
chances are extremely good that they are probably already apprised of anything of import on them.
i would have a problem with exposing a confidence from a friend, but that is a shared value...so don't think it would happen.
I have a problem with the words "checking on".
If he needs to check on me, the question is why?
Am I doing something out of character that "worries" him?
If the answer is yes, we should be talking about MY behaviour NOT having him "check up on me".
If the anwser is no, he has trust issues he needs to resolve WITHOUT "checking on me".
EagleWoman: I have a problem with the words "checking on".
If he needs to check on me, the question is why?
Am I doing something out of character that "worries" him?
If the answer is yes, we should be talking about MY behaviour NOT having him "check up on me".
If the anwser is no, he has trust issues he needs to resolve WITHOUT "checking on me".
I've checked you out on many an occasion and you've never once invited me over so we can talk about it If he needs to check on me, the question is why?
Am I doing something out of character that "worries" him?
If the answer is yes, we should be talking about MY behaviour NOT having him "check up on me".
If the anwser is no, he has trust issues he needs to resolve WITHOUT "checking on me".
almera03: I've checked you out on many an occasion and you've never once invited me over so we can talk about it
Must be coz you checked me OUT
I think any type of "checking up" behaviour is creepy, controlling, and unbalanced. 
EagleWoman: Must be coz you checked me OUT
Those smarty pants must be dirty by now 
yah....i see what you're saying
i think on first read, i just took 'checking' to mean
like 'checking out', as opposed to 'checking on'.
like you, i would expect my partner to be talking to me first if he had any questions. what's the point of being in a relationship if one doesn't trust their partner, and feel safe to ask about anything?
(or discuss anything...)
i think on first read, i just took 'checking' to mean
like 'checking out', as opposed to 'checking on'.
like you, i would expect my partner to be talking to me first if he had any questions. what's the point of being in a relationship if one doesn't trust their partner, and feel safe to ask about anything?
(or discuss anything...)
oops, above was for EW
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venusenvy: I think any type of "checking up" behaviour is creepy, controlling, and unbalanced.
Although I dont consider it nice I wouldnt mind if he does I have nothing to hide
LonelyMontse08: Although I dont consider it nice I wouldnt mind if he does I have nothing to hide
Are you implying that those who do mind, it´s because they have something to hide?
Vern8880: as I have read somewhere that "You can touch his/her body but never the cellphone"
If she touches my phone, I will giver her a colonoscopy with it.
MADDOG69: Hey! I won't even charge her for it.
awwwwwwwwww. your all heart.............
Nessa7: Nope no touching my cell phone or laptop .... Touch my handbag and I will chop his hands off
Have to agree about the handbag..
I can find anything in my bag without looking UNTIL someone else has been in it...
As for my cell or computer both are free and open to my partner
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I would, however, go up in arms, if my partner tried to check up on me on the sly, or demand to be given full access at all times, even in my absence.
Asking is fine - demanding and expecting to see it all is not.