What is the most important quality in a friend? (28)
dependable dependable dependable dependable i recently had 2 friends that i didn't even know verry well show me what tru friendship is. biblical, epic ,,, life changing... friendship. one of them risked her own family phisicaly abusing her to help me realize i needed to get out of the relationsip i was in. the other friend betrayed a friend that he knew for 15 years to do what was right. kind of a long story but, being a real friend is sometimes making hard choices. not surgar coating the mistakes.
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A good quality in a friend to me is someone who's not afraid to confront me when I've done something wrong.
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All of the above + honest
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I voted dependable but there are so many other qualities you didn't mention. Loyalty, genuine, good communicator/listener, caring, giving, trustworthy and objective, to name a few.
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friendship
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loyalty......a friend is one who takes your part.......the most valuable trait......
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sense of humor, perceptiveness, discretion, loyalty, good fun,intelligence
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Sliprywnwt: I voted dependable but there are so many other qualities you didn't mention. Loyalty, genuine, good communicator/listener, caring, giving, trustworthy and objective, to name a few.
thank you for your good comments Sliprywnwt. Yes, there are other qualities that are not specifically mentioned..but i think loyalty, genuine, trustworty, caring and being a good communicator or listener can be incorporated from being a dependable person...Dependable in sense that you can expect or depend his loyalty no matter what, you can expect him/her to be there and listens your thoughts when you are happy or down...he or she could care you when you are sick and can expect or depend his/her trustworthiness forever....
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Respect. When you have respect all other characteristics fall into place.
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Dee4929: thank you for your good comments Sliprywnwt. Yes, there are other qualities that are not specifically mentioned..but i think loyalty, genuine, trustworty, caring and being a good communicator or listener can be incorporated from being a dependable person...Dependable in sense that you can expect or depend his loyalty no matter what, you can expect him/her to be there and listens your thoughts when you are happy or down...he or she could care you when you are sick and can expect or depend his/her trustworthiness forever....
I think there are levels to friendship. I've always been an introvert when growing up and never had any friends. When I was 29 years old I was divorced with a child and had to go to work. I made friends with a woman (Linda) at work who had a child the same age as mine and in fact both children went to the same daycare center.
I had a car but Linda didn't so when we went out to the clubs on the weekend I was the one who always drove us. We talked about everything for a few years. One day out of the blue I heard she was marrying our boss. She didn't tell me that she was getting married or invite me to the wedding. I put everything into the friendship only to be betrayed in the end. I decided that the friendship thing wasn't for me.
Until 30 years later I worked in a different place and made friends with another woman. She and I had a lot to talk about. We even went to concerts. She was unhappily married so I knew the boundaries for her time but we still had time a work to chat. Then it happened again....she stopped talking to me and gossiped to other women in the office about me. I started thinking this has to be my fault that two friends turned their back on me without ever having an argument.
A year or so ago I had a female friend on CS. I really liked her sense of humour and was impressed with how she was handling her life. Then one day she did the same thing and stopped emailing me and rarely responds to me in threads. I'm not angry with her, I just don't know why she had a change of heart.
I think I expected too much from friends like the things you mentioned (see in purple above). That is how I learned that when you have expectations you let the door open for disappointment
So now, once again, I am friends with a female on CS. It's not totally safe that she won't do the same thing but I'm taking a chance on her. I'm still needy in certain areas and she is ALWAYS there with a response. In turn, I am also there for her. We value and respect the friendship we have.
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A supportive friend you can trust and talk about everything, is the best friend you can have.
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woodstock1: loyalty......a friend is one who takes your part.......the most valuable trait......
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I also think friendship is lasting if it is true. you can go for years w/out seeing a true friend and when you do talk again it's as if you saw each other yesterday. I have a few friends like that from my younger days
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felixis99: I also think friendship is lasting if it is true. you can go for years w/out seeing a true friend and when you do talk again it's as if you saw each other yesterday. I have a few friends like that from my younger days
yes Felixis99, true frienship never ends...
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montemonte: I think there are levels to friendship. I've always been an introvert when growing up and never had any friends. When I was 29 years old I was divorced with a child and had to go to work. I made friends with a woman (Linda) at work who had a child the same age as mine and in fact both children went to the same daycare center.
I had a car but Linda didn't so when we went out to the clubs on the weekend I was the one who always drove us. We talked about everything for a few years. One day out of the blue I heard she was marrying our boss. She didn't tell me that she was getting married or invite me to the wedding. I put everything into the friendship only to be betrayed in the end. I decided that the friendship thing wasn't for me.
Until 30 years later I worked in a different place and made friends with another woman. She and I had a lot to talk about. We even went to concerts. She was unhappily married so I knew the boundaries for her time but we still had time a work to chat. Then it happened again....she stopped talking to me and gossiped to other women in the office about me. I started thinking this has to be my fault that two friends turned their back on me without ever having an argument.
A year or so ago I had a female friend on CS. I really liked her sense of humour and was impressed with how she was handling her life. Then one day she did the same thing and stopped emailing me and rarely responds to me in threads. I'm not angry with her, I just don't know why she had a change of heart.
I think I expected too much from friends like the things you mentioned (see in purple above). That is how I learned that when you have expectations you let the door open for disappointment
So now, once again, I am friends with a female on CS. It's not totally safe that she won't do the same thing but I'm taking a chance on her. I'm still needy in certain areas and she is ALWAYS there with a response. In turn, I am also there for her. We value and respect the friendship we have.
I had a car but Linda didn't so when we went out to the clubs on the weekend I was the one who always drove us. We talked about everything for a few years. One day out of the blue I heard she was marrying our boss. She didn't tell me that she was getting married or invite me to the wedding. I put everything into the friendship only to be betrayed in the end. I decided that the friendship thing wasn't for me.
Until 30 years later I worked in a different place and made friends with another woman. She and I had a lot to talk about. We even went to concerts. She was unhappily married so I knew the boundaries for her time but we still had time a work to chat. Then it happened again....she stopped talking to me and gossiped to other women in the office about me. I started thinking this has to be my fault that two friends turned their back on me without ever having an argument.
A year or so ago I had a female friend on CS. I really liked her sense of humour and was impressed with how she was handling her life. Then one day she did the same thing and stopped emailing me and rarely responds to me in threads. I'm not angry with her, I just don't know why she had a change of heart.
I think I expected too much from friends like the things you mentioned (see in purple above). That is how I learned that when you have expectations you let the door open for disappointment
So now, once again, I am friends with a female on CS. It's not totally safe that she won't do the same thing but I'm taking a chance on her. I'm still needy in certain areas and she is ALWAYS there with a response. In turn, I am also there for her. We value and respect the friendship we have.
Yes, you are right...frienship will really lasts if you value with respect from each other...
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popey: hi dee i think a friend is someone who well put up with us and all of our mistakes
i expect my friend to also be honest,,, tell me if i am being a bag o duche . tell me their tru feeling about my choices..... but still support me as long as my choice only effects me.------ This poll is Archived ------
What is the most important quality in a friend?
Someone with substance.
Someone with substance.
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honor......
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I say Dependable, a friend is nothing if their not there for you, just wasted space.
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Dee4929: need to have your advice and comments
\How about "true to oneself and true to others"....
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popey: hi dee i think a friend is someone who well put up with us and all of our mistakes
It is my dear Popey...sometimes is really really hard to forgive...but if someone has that quality to forgive and forget our mistakes..then he has that quality of a friend...
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27KentuckyGuy: I say Dependable, a friend is nothing if their not there for you, just wasted space.
Even for me Mr. 27KentuckyGuy...Dependable is the quality i really voted...the word itself is tag-along with many qualities...i supposed...
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A good friend needs to listen....and if you need to vent let you...if you do something wrong tell me....friends are so hard to find...moved to GA over 10 yrs ago my husband doesn't like to socialize so when I left...I have people I work with but no REAL FRIENDS....anyone want to be my friend???????????????
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ill be your freind carm i have realised recentley my work mates are the best freinds that i have they look out for me helped me through my divorce help me with my kids and are there when i need them having no family apart from my kids they are as close to it as can be
For you Carm
For you Carm
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felixis99: I also think friendship is lasting if it is true. you can go for years w/out seeing a true friend and when you do talk again it's as if you saw each other yesterday. I have a few friends like that from my younger days
felixis99 what wonderful experiences of friendship you have had. It is good to see that quality in others.
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honesty......if my friend sees that i am going to do something stupid... that friend should stand their ground and stop me. be honest. speak up.. be supportive of most things but frikin be honest!
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