Does separated mean still married? Or do most people realize it takes 4 years to get a divorce in Ir (59)
All I can say is in n Ireland if your apart two and a half years and both party's are amicable you can divorce, but if one contests you have to be apart five years.
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dateadave: Just so I'm clear here.
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
They are single and honesty is best and would not put me off as long as the relationship is over and they are over it.
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dateadave:
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Depends.. it obviously blocks getting married until they are properly divorced. So, circumstances differ from person to person.
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I know someone who got a divorce in about 2 months and had it filed.
dateadave: Just so I'm clear here.
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
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Muffiler: All I can say is in n Ireland if your apart two and a half years and both party's are amicable you can divorce, but if one contests you have to be apart five years.
I beg to differ.
Before a court can grant a divorce, the following conditions must be met:
The parties must have been living apart from one another for a period amounting to four out of the previous five years before the application is made.
There must be no reasonable prospect of reconciliation.
Proper arrangements must have been made or will be made for the spouse and any dependent members of the family such as children of either party and other relatives.
Source - citizensinformation.ie
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Separated to me, means single. Yet, I am constantly asked was I married!!!
I would imagine there are many people that would prefer to be divorced, as you mentioned, this takes times. It also has cost implications. With our current economic downturn, it is no surprise to me to see separated here on so many profiles.
I would imagine there are many people that would prefer to be divorced, as you mentioned, this takes times. It also has cost implications. With our current economic downturn, it is no surprise to me to see separated here on so many profiles.
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MrRick77: I know someone who got a divorce in about 2 months and had it filed.
In the Republic of Ireland?
Northern Ireland doesn't count.
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it just means simply your in purgatory, neither married nor divorced, great place to be lol
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Separated is single as far as I`m concerned, as long as the person is being honest about being separated, there will always be the few players chancing their arm (or other bodily parts). Who the hell wants to get remarried within a 5yr time frame anyway? Freedom...party time!!
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dateadave: Just so I'm clear here.
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
I wouldn't consider someone in that situation to be married, given the length of time apart from their ex spouse and taking into consideration that there's no way back for them - to me such a person while still not divorced are actually available.
I don't know how likely or not it would be that someone who's profile says separated still has feelings for their ex, this or any other dating site is the wrong place for them then IMO. Lying about your marital status is not acceptable to me.
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concon40: it just means simply your in purgatory, neither married nor divorced, great place to be lol
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fifitrixibelle: Separated is single as far as I`m concerned, as long as the person is being honest about being separated, there will always be the few players chancing their arm (or other bodily parts). Who the hell wants to get remarried within a 5yr time frame anyway? Freedom...party time!!
Too right!
The 5 year wait sucks big time
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MermaidDreams: Too right!
The 5 year wait sucks big time
Aw do u have your heart set on anyone here, maybe a chippie from carlow ? The 5 year wait sucks big time
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fifitrixibelle: Aw do u have your heart set on anyone here, maybe a chippie from carlow ?
Am I that transparent?!
Lordy I'm in no rush to go down that route again, just want to do things properly and get my name back
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dateadave: In the Republic of Ireland?
Northern Ireland doesn't count.
Northern Ireland doesn't count.
Northern Ireland does count. But I know what you mean, it is quicker up here, still have to be separated 2 to 5 years if the other half does not agree to the divorce and of course no disagreements over anything, kids etc.
If the other half agrees and access etc is sorted, its quick.
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MermaidDreams: Am I that transparent?!
Lordy I'm in no rush to go down that route again, just want to do things properly and get my name back
Lordy I'm in no rush to go down that route again, just want to do things properly and get my name back
You are not legally your married name and therefore can return to your maiden name any time.
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dateadave: I beg to differ.
Ya could always kill the wench?
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dateadave: Just so I'm clear here.
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)
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oops fingers twitchy tonight
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WittyandWise: You are not legally your married name and therefore can return to your maiden name any time.
I thought I'd need some sort of proof to change my name back to my maiden name on my passport? Like I did when I
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dateadave: I beg to differ.
Before a court can grant a divorce, the following conditions must be met:
The parties must have been living apart from one another for a period amounting to four out of the previous five years before the application is made.
There must be no reasonable prospect of reconciliation.
Proper arrangements must have been made or will be made for the spouse and any dependent members of the family such as children of either party and other relatives.
Source - citizensinformation.ie
Before a court can grant a divorce, the following conditions must be met:
The parties must have been living apart from one another for a period amounting to four out of the previous five years before the application is made.
There must be no reasonable prospect of reconciliation.
Proper arrangements must have been made or will be made for the spouse and any dependent members of the family such as children of either party and other relatives.
Source - citizensinformation.ie
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MermaidDreams: I thought I'd need some sort of proof to change my name back to my maiden name on my passport? Like I did when I foolishly got married?
You do have proof, your birthcert. You can simply go back to using your maiden name.
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Glatlol: You do have proof, your birthcert. You can simply go back to using your maiden name.
some of these double bubble names would make you 
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mjpd67: some of these double bubble names would make you anyways
Who said anything about double barreled names?
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MermaidDreams: Thanks Glatlol. So I don't need proof I'm separated then? Could've done the name change years ago in that case
Honestly you dont, your maiden name is your birth name and you can use it as you want, I did.
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Glatlol: Who said anything about double barreled names?
well your on about going back to your maiden or virgin name was only saying that you hear a lot of women using there maiden name with their marriage name and was saying some of them suck sound crappy ,so mind yourself there miss getting down of your high horse 
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MermaidDreams: I thought I'd need some sort of proof to change my name back to my maiden name on my passport? Like I did when I foolishly got married?
You just go back to using it, first place you change it is the doctors etc, you have your birth cert as proof. I am not saying it is straight forward everywhere but bottom line is you are not legally your married name and thus can revert back and its legal, and this is your stance when arguing with twats who don't know it. lol I had problem getting my driving license changed.
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mjpd67: well your on about going back to your maiden or virgin name was only saying that you hear a lot of women using there maiden name with their marriage name and was saying some of them suck sound crappy ,so mind yourself there miss getting down of your high horse
lol who pissed on your cornflakes
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Does separated mean still married? Or do most people realize it takes 4 years to get a divorce in Ir(Vote Below)
I'm talking about a marriage that is over, has been over for some time and both parties have been living apart for at least a year, have had no intimacy over that period and no desire to do so or to get back together.
Of course in Ireland it takes 4 years of living apart to get a divorce so...
Do you consider someone in these circumstances to still be married and would it put you off meeting them?
Do you think that it is likely that someone who sets their marital status as separated to be not over their ex?
Or is it acceptable to lie about this on your profile as long as you own up to it before meeting?
(personally I think honesty is best but I realize sometimes people might be uncomfortable sharing info with everyone out there)