Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met? (163)
jawoww: Thank you for the "Welcome"...
My Pleasure!
jac379: I think pushing, or expanding boundaries is scary for most people. It's going outside your comfort zone, isn't it? Isn't that why it can also be exciting, or thrilling?
You've inspired me to another risk here...will I lose the real me?
Maybe interactions online are a way of experiencing some of the joys of relationships without it being so intrusive that we have to change our ways too much.
You've inspired me to another risk here...will I lose the real me?
Maybe interactions online are a way of experiencing some of the joys of relationships without it being so intrusive that we have to change our ways too much.
or find the real you?
i agree, i think online affords one a bit more control, in that you can walk away from the computer whenever you wish...
and for me...and this is a big one..it gives me the 'think time' if i choose, that isn't always there in real life.
jac379: Or that incompatibility is not the same as rejection, or failure?
Or that we choose to be careful with the way we go our separate ways?
Or that we choose to be careful with the way we go our separate ways?
all too often, incompatibility or rejection, get confused with failure.
not failure...experience.
it's all experience.
then we can choose how we think about it, how to grow from it...
jono7: or find the real you?
i agree, i think online affords one a bit more control, in that you can walk away from the computer whenever you wish...
and for me...and this is a big one..it gives me the 'think time' if i choose, that isn't always there in real life.
i agree, i think online affords one a bit more control, in that you can walk away from the computer whenever you wish...
and for me...and this is a big one..it gives me the 'think time' if i choose, that isn't always there in real life.
Did you mean that you might find the real you, rather than lose yourself in a relationship, or did you mean that finding the real you can feel like a risk?
I like the idea of playing with the idea that finding the real you feels risky. So many possibilities.
I'm with you on the 'think time' thing, definitely.
jono7: all too often, incompatibility or rejection, get confused with failure.
not failure...experience.
it's all experience.
then we can choose how we think about it, how to grow from it...
not failure...experience.
it's all experience.
then we can choose how we think about it, how to grow from it...
I Think we spend alo't of time doing this!
jono7: all too often, incompatibility or rejection, get confused with failure.
not failure...experience.
it's all experience.
then we can choose how we think about it, how to grow from it...
not failure...experience.
it's all experience.
then we can choose how we think about it, how to grow from it...
I'm thinking about threads which are titled 'failed relationships' and the like.
We use very loaded language sometimes, don't we?
I wonder if that comes from the stigma of 'failed' marriages and divorce, and/or from other sources.
jac379: Did you mean that you might find the real you, rather than lose yourself in a relationship, or did you mean that finding the real you can feel like a risk?
I like the idea of playing with the idea that finding the real you feels risky. So many possibilities.
I'm with you on the 'think time' thing, definitely.
I like the idea of playing with the idea that finding the real you feels risky. So many possibilities.
I'm with you on the 'think time' thing, definitely.
ideally...it would be great to find the real me within the relationship, rather than lose myself in it.
so many possibilities, of discovery, in or independent of relationships...
i take risks with my art...and there have been some good outcomes.
i think the same can happen with relationships, or simply with self.
i think relationships are awesome mirrors if we are willing to pay attention..
but at the end of the day...there i am....
Real life relationship endings can be a lot more complicated than turning off a computer but does not have to be that complicated.
In other words if its not right End it.
In other words if its not right End it.
jac379: I'm thinking about threads which are titled 'failed relationships' and the like.
We use very loaded language sometimes, don't we?
I wonder if that comes from the stigma of 'failed' marriages and divorce, and/or from other sources.
We use very loaded language sometimes, don't we?
I wonder if that comes from the stigma of 'failed' marriages and divorce, and/or from other sources.
yes, very loaded!
even just the language we use, our choice of words...is so 'telling' if we start to pay attention to it.
paying attention to what is actually being said without adding projection is a bit of an art i think.
observation provides a lot of info..
...and the devil's in the details....
chatonlyman2: Real life relationship endings can be a lot more complicated than turning off a computer but does not have to be that complicated.
In other words if its not right End it.
In other words if its not right End it.
"it ain't over 'til it's over"
-yogi berra-
The mind can be tricked into many things...so yes for some, I guess it is.
bodleing2: The mind can be tricked into many things...so yes for some, I guess it is.
So, why do you think the mind id being tricked if someone falls in love without meeting their love interest?
jac379: So, why do you think the mind id being tricked if someone falls in love without meeting their love interest?
With or without meeting, little difference. It's the term 'falling in love...being in love, that's the trickery, we're hooked on it...even before we can love ourselves...
bodleing2: With or without meeting, little difference. It's the term 'falling in love...being in love, that's the trickery, we're hooked on it...even before we can love ourselves...
Yeah, I'm never really sure what falling in love, or being in love means.
Even the love I have for my daughter has changed as she's changed and it's different from the love I have for my granddaughter which has changed as she's changed. I can't quite put my finger on any of that, though. I can't define, or even describe it.
jono7: "it ain't over 'til it's over"
-yogi berra-
Your right but inevitably its over-yogi berra-
jac379: Yeah, I'm never really sure what falling in love, or being in love means.
Even the love I have for my daughter has changed as she's changed and it's different from the love I have for my granddaughter which has changed as she's changed. I can't quite put my finger on any of that, though. I can't define, or even describe it.
Love describes itself but for most its actually about love due to life experience and stuff. I will try my explanation.Even the love I have for my daughter has changed as she's changed and it's different from the love I have for my granddaughter which has changed as she's changed. I can't quite put my finger on any of that, though. I can't define, or even describe it.
If a person thinks another person in their life would be a good thing then the are dreaming for a reason. What that reason is what is the obstacle however dealt with before and after.
People are hard to read if they don't tell.
Anyhow till one learns to have a direction were all damned to hell.
NiteFast_Rich: Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met?
Fast_Rich: Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met?
Love is a big word, it takes time to get to know and to fall for someone IMO, so a no from me.
You can get to like and to want to meet someone after corresponding and talking to them.
I suppose most things are possible but falling in love with someone you've never met is basing a relationship on superficial experiences.
The person could be someone totally different in person.
The person could be someone totally different in person.
Ccincy: I suppose most things are possible but falling in love with someone you've never met is basing a relationship on superficial experiences.The person could be someone totally different in person.
I agree someone might not be how you expected in person, that we can build a picture from our own frame of reference.
I'm curious about the 'superficial experiences' bit, though.
I think I've had some quite 'deep' conversations with people over the years and maybe personal things sometimes get discussed that people might find difficult face to face without the barrier of a certain anonymity, or distance.
There's also that thing about physical attraction alone being labelled as superficial.
Perhaps intimacy and superficiality are a bit too fluid to really hold tight in our hands.
jac379: I agree someone might not be how you expected in person, that we can build a picture from our own frame of reference.
I'm curious about the 'superficial experiences' bit, though.
I think I've had some quite 'deep' conversations with people over the years and maybe personal things sometimes get discussed that people might find difficult face to face without the barrier of a certain anonymity, or distance.
There's also that thing about physical attraction alone being labelled as superficial.
Perhaps intimacy and superficiality are a bit too fluid to really hold tight in our hands.
I'm curious about the 'superficial experiences' bit, though.
I think I've had some quite 'deep' conversations with people over the years and maybe personal things sometimes get discussed that people might find difficult face to face without the barrier of a certain anonymity, or distance.
There's also that thing about physical attraction alone being labelled as superficial.
Perhaps intimacy and superficiality are a bit too fluid to really hold tight in our hands.
I agree Jac, how do we know whether we are dealing with true intimacy and emotional connection or with a delusion we have created for ourselves? Perhaps the only way to know is when it's over?
How do you explain the hundreds of women that mail me and tell me they have fallen in love with me? 
KNenagh: Love is a big word, it takes time to get to know and to fall for someone IMO, so a no from me.
You can get to like and to want to meet someone after corresponding and talking to them.
radioimmunoelectrophoresis ,thats a proper big word,and its in the oxford dictionoryYou can get to like and to want to meet someone after corresponding and talking to them.
rebel2: How do you explain the hundreds of women that mail me and tell me they have fallen in love with me?
Oh that's easy. You're irresistible.
Hiya Reb
LadyDiz: Oh that's easy. You're irresistible.
Hiya Reb
Its a cross i have to bear Hiya Reb
Hi Dizzy!
rebel2: Its a cross i have to bear
Hi Dizzy!
Hi Dizzy!
Oh I know, it's tough but you'll soldier through. 
rebel2: How do you explain the hundreds of women that mail me and tell me they have fallen in love with me?
because they are all sick.....(mental...problems)..........
truheart1941: because they are all sick.....(mental...problems)..........
Shutupa your face 
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