Social Media are dangerous for a relationship or marriage life.

Yes. It's dagerous
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No. It's not dangerous
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I found that it's not easy to have a relationship with somebody who still active on social media, such as facebook, whatsapp, etc.

We don't know with whom our man or woman always keep in touch on facebook messages, whatsapp.. etc

Especially for a marriage life. I think it's dagerous too..

any experienced people who successfully handle this problem.. can you please share in here please..

thanks

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Darkbrownskins
any respons please.. :)

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unlaoised


If the relationship is a good one and there is trust between the two parties, social media should not be an issue.

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TheRedSquirrel87
It is in a relationship with me. Must she take a photograph of what we had for breakfast this morning and post it on facebook? the answer is not.

And every time she does this a little part of me forgets why I ever liked her and I don't believe it will ever remember.

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KNenagh
I don't get this. confused

Methinks if someone wants to stray, they will. Social media or not.

Simply find someone with the same values as your own, someone that regards monogamy as an important part of your relationship.

Never had an issue with this and if I thought it could be an issue with someone, I would be so out of there. super

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SoulToSoul7
Hi!wave
I think that if someone is a liar, he is like this not only in social media, etc., he is the same in the real life too. But the most funny thing is that usually this kind of people get what they give :)

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TheRedSquirrel87


Options = instability. Social media brings options.

More than this, however, social media breeds narcissism. And so thinking too highly of yourself + options = never being happy with what you've got(for very long).

Social media-absorption equals shit wife material. It's true.

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TheRedSquirrel87


There isn't the male equivalent as men really don't spend that much time on facebook. I suppose the closest is a man who's addicted to online pornography. Her social media LOOKATME syndrome equates to his online wanking disease.

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TheRedSquirrel87


It's all about self-love.

What men normally do online is a literal or figurative wank. Physically pounding his pud or wanking through the written word(as I do)it's all self-indulgence.

What woman commonly do online is set themselves up to be admired. They're self-love is not really about m**turbat or wishing to be seen as a citadel of knowledge, it's about being admired by men online for an ego-boost. It's about flattery. The woman's online self-love lies in the rich supply of unearned praise and compliments she's bound to receive. She is online to flatter herself.

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purr4mance



social media makes it "easier" for straying and having an emotional affair.

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123whisper
If you just dating someone,you have no control of what's going on and only affections your giving each day to each other can speak for itself but if people living together,it would be more than annoying to see partner giving more time to media or whatsapp than spending quality time with you.It's not media in question,it's partner mentality of addiction to media.It be best to communicate openly with person in questionwine

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KNenagh


Easier or not, straying is straying - there are people who are monogamous and not interested in straying of any kind, and that's the type of person I would want to be with.

I think it's easy enough (in most cases) to figure out who has rowing eyes or is into sleeping around.

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ali110
I don't think so , we can find love on social media ,it isn't harmful for relationship

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TheRedSquirrel87


Exceptions exist. Men being transparent at the best of times means that the ordinary woman, being only partially corrupt and consumed by vanity, will most times see through his flattery.

On a good day I would say that normally a woman does not turn into a bighead because of all the desperate men telling her(and every other woman)how amazing she is.

Although it's not without any effect. Social media shifts every woman to narcissism because no matter how much of an objective winner she is she wants to believe in her own hype. Her vanity makes her gullible.

And this is key. Most loser leans towards gullibility, false hope and unwarranted positivity out of desperation where women can be winners and yet remain extremely gullible. it matters not how accomplished or attractive she is as her vanity will always provide a way for a man(or the group at large)to control and influence her.

Even when she's a success her vanity makes her a dependent in the most fundamental way: impressionable.

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123whisper
By the way,this addiction to media includes both gender,not just women ! I know men that couldn't last long with any dating because he took more priority to be 'popular' on CS forums,and eventually he was kicked out of CS to come back again under false ID and I bat he still doesn't have no women.laugh

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SoulToSoul7


laugh I totally agree about that, already met a few of this kind, acting like Casanova all the time, one of them even was at the age of my parentsdoh online all day and night long, sending me messages from a few fake profiles, made only to chase much younger girls, just to feed his ego, but actually i'm absolutely sure that in his real life he can't even speak to girls 25-35 years younger than him. This kind of men usually post pictures 15-20 years ago and hide their real age, but lies have no future ! And when they can't find a woman for a real date, then start to ask "at least" :-) for virtual sex, and then... they usually end up in a woman's blocked list laugh

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Conrad73
I blame Zuckerberg!
People never used to stray before FaceBook!rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing devil

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Jamie_
Dangerous? Not really, people have been cheating since before all these social media sites existed, and they will continue to do so.

If you can't trust your partner, maybe its time to end things and move on.

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Hoplite
Well social media only ease to make people closer. It is not dangerous in itself no. It's on the person use of it. Your question look a bit insecure so may I tell you it's not necessary to use FB or snapchat to cheat on someone. If a man or a woman wants to cheat they will just end by doing it. The human free will, nothing can go against it.

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123whisper
thumbs up Most likely it's possible impotency, small private part or fatness that make this men deeply insecure to doubt himself and behave as big tough macho type on dating site,although it's probably plenty of potent men that has problem with perceptions of himself and others.

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123whisper
thumbs up Most likely it's possible impotency, small private part or fatness that make this men deeply insecure to doubt himself and behave as big tough macho type on dating site,although it's probably plenty of potent men that has problem with perceptions of himself and others.

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Ocee102
Social media is rarely the problem, but it often reveals problems.

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123whisper
Why is it that some couples happily and openly share and view each other’s social media statuses, while others find this very difficult?
An earlier study by Elphinston & Noller (2011), which examined Facebook use by people in relationships, found that Facebook surveillance behaviour by either partner was related to relationship dissatisfaction.
Furthermore, Tokunaga (2011) noted that online surveillance strategies are more likely to be used by younger individuals, who may have been in shorter relationships. While it could be argued that Facebook surveillance may be used to get to know a new partner better, it can equally be possible that Facebook surveillance might provoke feelings of romantic jealousy.
There are definitely other factors to consider, which other CS member already observed on this subject...
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MikeD12
Social media is not the problem and my opinion is that Facebook, and Twitter are for people who use it to broadcast every trivial happening in their lives.
As they generate self seeking attention they can also generate and in some cases exacerbate their own problems.

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Hoplite
The man or woman constantly search the best genitor and this uncounsiously, it's in every human if she or he has any doubt about the genes his kids could have with his/her partner, he or she will look for a better partner as long he or she has not find the perfect partner he/she will continue looking, but what we know is that perfection doesn't excist, so it's an endless quest.

Nowaday social medias are like a catalogue of possibility of partners so it means "genitors". It's only a trampoline to reach a goal but only one among the others...

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Elizabeth6891
I totally agree..

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