Who would you fear most? (108)

Feb 21, 2009 10:11 AM CST Who would you fear most?
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA99 Threads 10 Polls 4,665 Posts
somechick: I would fear neither cause I finally realized that I don't have to be afraid to take risks in life.


The only thing is.. those risk usually end up costing my thousands to correct!!

Not going the same road again.
Feb 21, 2009 10:19 AM CST Who would you fear most?
petalbabe
petalbabepetalbabeOgdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland61 Threads 1 Polls 3,101 Posts
rasgumby: The only thing is.. those risk usually end up costing my thousands to correct!!

Not going the same road again.


Those who dont risk are also possibly missing out on a lot of happiness.

If money is such an issue, get a pre-nup!! Or dont get married - live in complete sin!!

Note to self: make sure you check which state theyre in BEFORE saying "live in sin"...

laugh


Hey, Raz..wave
Feb 21, 2009 10:28 AM CST Who would you fear most?
hopefloats
hopefloatshopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 Posts
uh ohWOW Ras! This is one of the best polls I've seen since I've been here! handshake

As to the answer, I'm with the others who say that would be a hard call to make. I can see over both sides of this fence. So I would ultimately say it depends on what exactly the underlying reasons are in each matter....... dunno

Best wishes to you in your search.
Merky
Feb 21, 2009 10:31 AM CST Who would you fear most?
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA99 Threads 10 Polls 4,665 Posts
petalbabe: Those who dont risk are also possibly missing out on a lot of happiness.

If money is such an issue, get a pre-nup!! Or dont get married - live in complete sin!!

Note to self: make sure you check which state theyre in BEFORE saying "live in sin"...

Hey, Raz..


That is how it would be, because I wont get Married again!!!hug

And yes.. I am saying never.
unlike Bush I do know the old saying......
Fool me once.. shame on you
Fool me twice.. shame on meyay
Feb 21, 2009 10:31 AM CST Who would you fear most?
nuala
nualanualadublin, Dublin Ireland12 Threads 6,456 Posts
hiya ras i have mailed the answer.......hug
Feb 21, 2009 10:33 AM CST Who would you fear most?
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA99 Threads 10 Polls 4,665 Posts
hopefloats: WOW Ras! This is one of the best polls I've seen since I've been here!

As to the answer, I'm with the others who say that would be a hard call to make. I can see over both sides of this fence. So I would ultimately say it depends on what exactly the underlying reasons are in each matter.......

Best wishes to you in your search.
Merky


Wow.. What a complimenthug

Don't get use to it, I don't do serious very often.
Feb 21, 2009 10:33 AM CST Who would you fear most?
petalbabe
petalbabepetalbabeOgdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland61 Threads 1 Polls 3,101 Posts
rasgumby: That is how it would be, because I wont get Married again!!!

And yes.. I am saying never.
unlike Bush I do know the old saying......
Fool me once.. shame on you
Fool me twice.. shame on me


laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

Wise man..sin is MUCH better...

rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Feb 21, 2009 10:35 AM CST Who would you fear most?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
rasgumby: Out of curiosity, what made you decide to stay single?


I always wanted to get married and have children.

I think women were afraid to take a risk with me...bipolar disease can scare people off....laugh
Feb 21, 2009 10:38 AM CST Who would you fear most?
nuala
nualanualadublin, Dublin Ireland12 Threads 6,456 Posts
mbcasey: I always wanted to get married and have children.

I think women were afraid to take a risk with me...bipolar disease can scare people off....



I hope you havent given up on meeting your someone special.....and its the women you have met, its their loss and hopefully someone else gain, as i know for a fact there is married people out there with bipolar who have loving partners hug



teddybear
Feb 21, 2009 10:40 AM CST Who would you fear most?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
nuala: I hope you havent given up on meeting your someone special.....and its the women you have met, its their loss and hopefully someone else gain, as i know for a fact there is married people out there with bipolar who have loving partners


Thank you Nuala...hug

I'm still here trying...grin
Feb 21, 2009 10:42 AM CST Who would you fear most?
mbcasey: I always wanted to get married and have children.

I think women were afraid to take a risk with me...bipolar disease can scare people off....


Hi Ken I think it's not so much the women you've met were scared off ..as much as they probably have never dealt with someone who has bipolar.People can be easliy scared of something new to them.
Feb 21, 2009 10:45 AM CST Who would you fear most?
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA99 Threads 10 Polls 4,665 Posts
mbcasey: I always wanted to get married and have children.

I think women were afraid to take a risk with me...bipolar disease can scare people off....


I guess that is understandable,
My Ex was bipolar and knew it but refused to take any kind of Meds.
Claimed it was against her religion (Jehovah's witness).

I don't know if all bipolars are as bad as she was but there was just no living with her.
and If the person is on their meds as needed, it makes a world of difference.

Have you tried a relationship without kids involved??
May be easier just one on one.

Wish you luck in finding an understanding and patient partnerthumbs up
Feb 21, 2009 10:47 AM CST Who would you fear most?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
somechick: Hi Ken I think it's not so much the women you've met were scared off ..as much as they probably have never dealt with someone who has bipolar.People can be easliy scared of something new to them.


Hi Anna...wave

I have played a part also in my failed relationships. But I think you are right that they never have dealt with the issue and were afraid to take a chance.
Feb 21, 2009 10:48 AM CST Who would you fear most?
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA99 Threads 10 Polls 4,665 Posts
rasgumby: I guess that is understandable,
My Ex was bipolar and knew it but refused to take any kind of Meds.
Claimed it was against her religion (Jehovah's witness).

I don't know if all bipolars are as bad as she was but there was just no living with her.
and If the person is on their meds as needed, it makes a world of difference.

Have you tried a relationship without kids involved??
May be easier just one on one.

Wish you luck in finding an understanding and patient partner


And before someone jumps on that... NO.. I am not one.
Feb 21, 2009 10:50 AM CST Who would you fear most?
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
rasgumby: I guess that is understandable,
My Ex was bipolar and knew it but refused to take any kind of Meds.
Claimed it was against her religion (Jehovah's witness).

I don't know if all bipolars are as bad as she was but there was just no living with her.
and If the person is on their meds as needed, it makes a world of difference.

Have you tried a relationship without kids involved??
May be easier just one on one.

Wish you luck in finding an understanding and patient partner


Thanks Ras...handshake

Yes, I had a relationship where she had children already. But apparently she didn't want to move forward and bailed out.

I am on meds and have always managed the bipolar fairly well. I am sorry about your ex...
Feb 21, 2009 1:43 PM CST Who would you fear most?
rasgumby
rasgumbyrasgumbyMoberly, Missouri USA99 Threads 10 Polls 4,665 Posts
roseofsharon: Is that the ONLY thing you have against me or was there something else?!!


I thought that was just the short list!!rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Feb 21, 2009 1:56 PM CST Who would you fear most?
I have dated two bachelors. I did not know it at the time. I was 19 and was dating a 23 year old man.
Our friendship has lasted over 30 years. The second I started dating when I was 28. I understand the effects of ADHG and Bipolar, and all the other issues. These were men worth loving, but never felt worthy of it.
Feb 21, 2009 2:21 PM CST Who would you fear most?
Farmer1
Farmer1Farmer1Fond du Lac, Wisconsin USA8 Threads 79 Posts
mbcasey: Thanks Ras...

Yes, I had a relationship where she had children already. But apparently she didn't want to move forward and bailed out.

I am on meds and have always managed the bipolar fairly well. I am sorry about your ex...


I here you speak of your disability that you suffer from. I can understand you issue for i work with others in a Co-op (Fond du Lac Synergy Cooperative) here in Fond du Lac,WI. that suffer from different types of illness. I help develop this co-op to not just support them but give them work as well. As a work Co-op, this is the only Co-op of its kind in the United States.
There is one in Canada but that's it in this continent. As for having a relationship with a co-worker, I have seen so many have to leave the job because it did not work out. I don't feel I should get involved with a co-worker for it can be painful after wards.
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