Would you marry a person or seriously date a person that had s special needs child? (54)
lady93: Autisim is a hell of a disibility. Even though the kids are not responsibility how they act autisim can make you want to And at the age of 19 its too late. I mean Just like any child those with autisim understand right from wrong and many parents let them get away with soooo much stuff just because they have a label. I will tell you this I have a nephew with autisim. He is sweet as pie. When we first found out he had it we tried to deal with it not disipline when he necessary. He pinched me one time I pinched him back just as hard. Ask me if he ever pinch anyone again? NOPE Those children need rules ans guidlines as well. Many are more sever than others and it seems like that is what your lady friend was up against and I am truly sorry for that.
I tend to agree. I have a 20 year old autistic child, who is still living with me.. (and she never opted to pinching etc.. not since she was very small and I pinched her back as in the quote above!) . She is immature for her age, but in no way as much of a beast as I hear some kids become as autistic teens.
In fact, most are very impressed by her, as a mysterious and artisic element of my household..
I dont think disability is a hindrance to true love,- never can be. But it might be considered inconvenient by some..
But ask yourself: Do you consider your child a hindrance? Are you feeling in some way inferior because of you parenting a disabled child? If the answer is 'yes', then that might be off putting to a prospective lover.. If you dont believe in yourself, and dont love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to?
..just a thought..
lady93: I got an email from someone saying that I should not have asked this question. However, if they wouldhave read all of the postings they would see that I have a child born with pallister-killian syndrome and I was not making or trying to poke fun it was a ligitimate questions. I was curious because I had to dismiss a couple guys for that reason ya know....
I had to look up your sons condition and came across this site, I guess you already know it Lady93, but I'll post the link in case others want to read up on it:
GreenTassels: I had to look up your sons condition and came across this site, I guess you already know it Lady93, but I'll post the link in case others want to read up on it:
Thanks for the info.
I am not suitable for someone with someone with lots of problems.
Not because i don't care or am selfish, but because i have enough on my plate and cant cope with anything else.
Not because i don't care or am selfish, but because i have enough on my plate and cant cope with anything else.
GreenTassels: I tend to agree. I have a 20 year old autistic child, who is still living with me.. (and she never opted to pinching etc.. not since she was very small and I pinched her back as in the quote above!) . She is immature for her age, but in no way as much of a beast as I hear some kids become as autistic teens.
In fact, most are very impressed by her, as a mysterious and artisic element of my household..
I dont think disability is a hindrance to true love,- never can be. But it might be considered inconvenient by some..
But ask yourself: Do you consider your child a hindrance? Are you feeling in some way inferior because of you parenting a disabled child? If the answer is 'yes', then that might be off putting to a prospective lover.. If you dont believe in yourself, and dont love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to?
..just a thought..
In fact, most are very impressed by her, as a mysterious and artisic element of my household..
I dont think disability is a hindrance to true love,- never can be. But it might be considered inconvenient by some..
But ask yourself: Do you consider your child a hindrance? Are you feeling in some way inferior because of you parenting a disabled child? If the answer is 'yes', then that might be off putting to a prospective lover.. If you dont believe in yourself, and dont love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to?
..just a thought..
Yeah many would think it is a hinderence and as a parent anyone with that thought in mind has no place in my life or my childs life. My daughter comes first before any man sh** my dog comes first before any man. If it is true love then he will understand if not keep it moving
I find I relate alot better to women with pets... ferrets are extremely cute for isntance! I don't relate well to women who've had children with Mr. Wrong, in fact I rather resent that. 
I find it very disturbing that women are apparently quite busy having children with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and... well, you get the idea. It's like, ya'll are hell bent on reproducing with the worst of the male species for some reason. I just do not appreciate that.
Your children are part you AND part him... I'd think you'd choose alot better than you do.
- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")
I find it very disturbing that women are apparently quite busy having children with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and... well, you get the idea. It's like, ya'll are hell bent on reproducing with the worst of the male species for some reason. I just do not appreciate that.
Your children are part you AND part him... I'd think you'd choose alot better than you do.
- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")
lady93: My daughter comes first before any man sh** my dog comes first before any man. If it is true love then he will understand if not keep it moving
But in the begining, it's not true love (unless you for some reason believe in that "love at 1st sight or something). I'd say that pretty much every man with any sense of self-worth IS going to "keep it moving" with that attitude. I wouldn't blame 'em.
Pity you didn't think of your dog coming first before you hooked up with Mr. Wrong. Hmph!
This attitude is likely going to drive any man that has any sense of self worth and is worth anything himself, away.
Too many women are damaged goods, these days. It is depressing.
- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")
lady93: The wording? "its not the childs fault" Well its pretty self exlainatory. It is not the childs fault they were born with disibilities. Understand?
Not always true - with Genetic screening a human embryo may be aborted if serious defects are found.
It could therefore be the "parents/mothers" fault and not the "childs " fault. (Sarah Palin - for example)
Also Parents can be prescreened to discover recessive traits and probabilities for offspring to be "disabled" - then decide to adapt rather than risk having a "special needs" child
adopt (I meant to type)- unless you prefer adapt
GoodHeartforYou: Not always true - with Genetic screening a human embryo may be aborted if serious defects are found.
It could therefore be the "parents/mothers" fault and not the "childs " fault. (Sarah Palin - for example)
Also Parents can be prescreened to discover recessive traits and probabilities for offspring to be "disabled" - then decide to ad0pt rather than risk having a "special needs" child
It could therefore be the "parents/mothers" fault and not the "childs " fault. (Sarah Palin - for example)
Also Parents can be prescreened to discover recessive traits and probabilities for offspring to be "disabled" - then decide to ad0pt rather than risk having a "special needs" child
It can actually be benificial to work with disabled people coz u can't get mad at them, you to be patient and not rush things and learn to deal with life more peacefull.
GoodHeartforYou: Not always true - with Genetic screening a human embryo may be aborted if serious defects are found.
It could therefore be the "parents/mothers" fault and not the "childs " fault. (Sarah Palin - for example)
Also Parents can be prescreened to discover recessive traits and probabilities for offspring to be "disabled" - then decide to adapt rather than risk having a "special needs" child
It could therefore be the "parents/mothers" fault and not the "childs " fault. (Sarah Palin - for example)
Also Parents can be prescreened to discover recessive traits and probabilities for offspring to be "disabled" - then decide to adapt rather than risk having a "special needs" child
Well with my daughter specific disibility it was not found with genetic screening. Even after she was born it was not showing up in normal blood work, they had to do a bone marrow sample to find out what syndrome she had. Now is that my fault or would it be any other parents fault in this case? I think not because their was no way of knowing until my daughter was born
Not the best of choices, it depends on the circumstances honestly.
Michael211_2000: I find I relate alot better to women with pets... ferrets are extremely cute for isntance! I don't relate well to women who've had children with Mr. Wrong, in fact I rather resent that.
I find it very disturbing that women are apparently quite busy having children with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and... well, you get the idea. It's like, ya'll are hell bent on reproducing with the worst of the male species for some reason. I just do not appreciate that.
Your children are part you AND part him... I'd think you'd choose alot better than you do.
- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")
I find it very disturbing that women are apparently quite busy having children with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and Mr. Wrong and... well, you get the idea. It's like, ya'll are hell bent on reproducing with the worst of the male species for some reason. I just do not appreciate that.
Your children are part you AND part him... I'd think you'd choose alot better than you do.
- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!")
How are any of us to take this? A disability can happen to anyone. It has NOTHING to do with MR or MS Wrong!!!!!
I am Deaf. I was a premie, and my Twin brother did not make it. I was NOT born Deaf. I became deaf later. My parents worked with me and I survived despite many other health issues.
So, Tell me, because of this, my disabilities, were my Parents MR, and MRS. WRONG reprocucing with the worst of the HUMAN Spiecies?????
I think Not!!!!!!
How dare you be so Judgemental and Shame on you!!!!!
OP, I would marry a person with a special needs child.
This special needs thingie is soo out of my vocabulary
I reckon us peeps that reckon we are all their in the head are the true ones that should be in the special needs category
I reckon us peeps that reckon we are all their in the head are the true ones that should be in the special needs category
Mercedes1: This special needs thingie is soo out of my vocabulary
I reckon us peeps that reckon we are all their in the head are the true ones that should be in the special needs category
I reckon us peeps that reckon we are all their in the head are the true ones that should be in the special needs category
You got that part nailed right on the head!!!!
lady93: A lot of things are out your vocabulary with using "RECKON"
Whats wrong with the word Reckon?
lady93: Just curious of how people think about certain situation.
If I really loved the man, I could love his child. It would not matter if the child was special needs or not.I have dated a woman with a child that had special needs. We started out as lovers and within three weeks I ended up as the babysitter while she went out to the gym and other places. I would still date a woman who had a child with special needs as it was not the child's fault, but I would get to know the mother better.
pubwrite08: If I really loved the man, I could love his child. It would not matter if the child was special needs or not.
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Heck no. Women are enough drama without having to deal with another issue. However, it's not the child's fault being how he or she is.
The point is I don't have to (and therefore choose not to) deal with it.