is there any women outhere that would actually travel miles to see some 1 they met on here ( Archived) (39)

If he and I were serious, then absofreakinglutely

Without meeting? Not I, he may turn out to be a looney.
He can come to me first to find out if he loves me

Yep I would.

My vote is – doubtful

Just feel lazy today…

I'll travel to the moon in search of love if necessary. Why should I restrict myself to one Geographical location ? The world is mine to discover.

Yep. There are some. One of them is coming to spend the summer with me.

sure is the circumstances were right and safe. I have a passport and love to fly, and have the time. just need the money.

good for you

I lost count of the number of times my ex visited me this last year (and vice versa)..... every few weeks!

I would do it if the online connection and phone calls convinced me that it would be a trip worth taking, but I don't act impulsively. Also, though, I would have a Plan B. If the face-to-face was not as positive as initially imagined (and I mean for all reasons....mainly, no chemistry in person), then I would have a back-up plan of what to do while I am in his country. I would do some touring and sightseeing on my own to make the most of my journey. Because, let's face it....sometimes there's just no spark. It works both ways. If he felt no chemistry between us, I'd have to accept it and go on and do other things.

Sure why not. If the interest is real and huge there's no distance getting to that person. It is when the interest is not so big you have second thoughts. When you want something really bad you are willing to make it happen, nomatter what. Goes with almost anything in life. Not just love.

Yes, was going to, but it didn't work out

I've visited and been visited many times over the last 15 years; at the very least, it is the best way to be introduced to a new city--by someone who knows the non-touristy places to see.

I have noticed that visiting does not work as well as being visited, and I believe this has to do with sharing the risk of flying and meeting someone for the first time. When someone says, "sure, come visit", they're not really invested--they don't really care if it doesn't work out, and it's almost never worked out. But when I offer to pay for the ticket then we're both taking a risk of sorts, or at least we're invested somewhat in the success of the outcome.

You have to promise to be either a good host or a good guest for your new 'friend' for a few days, no matter what, and then usually you can just have a good time; like having distant relatives coming to town, or an exchange student.

One thing is for sure, spending time chatting--online or telephone--first, is a must. By the time this question comes up, both should not have any question about traveling to meet that someone--it's just a matter of the details by then.

Now for the real challenge--can developing a relationship over a distance really work?!

Does it have to be women who post here ? I am going over 1,000 miles in a few weeks.

My ex and I had the security of booking our flights ahead to see each other.......... I had already booked a flight to see her on the 16th of this month and again on the 10th July - and she had already booked and paid for a flight out here on 4th August - we were never apart for more than a few weeks at a time.

We were both very committed to each other and it made us both feel good that the other wasn't 'just talk' and made the effort to plan ahead.

It's a shame things didn't ultimately work out, but it certainly wasn't her fault and the distance thing wasn't a real problem and I believe we could have coped carrying on as we did until she could either quit work or my mother died - and even then we'd have spent a few months in her beautiful house and then a few months over here - a truly idylic life for a couple so deeply in love with each other.

Interesting post!

I love to fly and visit friends, but visiting a special loved one is totally different - it's what you both live for when you are apart even though you can both have fulfilled lives when not together............. travelling to be together is just such a wonderful thing to constantly look forward to until the next time in just a few weeks that becomes just a few days.

Distance does NOT kill a relationship - other issues kill a relationship whether you are apart or in each others' faces 24/7/365.