Superguy: I was dating a nice girl who is 14 years younger.She is 32. She said she liked me but our age difference is a probnlem. Your opinions please
Maturity is more of an issue for me, however, I do enjoy and am more comfortable in the company of an older woman.
From personal experience, I find them to have a bit more of a maturity level and higher intelligence. However, that being said, I have met a few younger women that were just as mature and in some cases more so than some older women that I knew. So personality is definately a #1 issue.
One can be older and still be a complete jerk and one can be young & sweet. And vice versa.
Just a matter of what the person has to offer on a maturity level as far as I am concerned.
Hmm... I wouldn't date someone 14 years my senior either. It has nothing to do with personality. There are 35 year olds with a great personality. So it's not a matter of either age or personality, it's both!
If she's 32, she can still comfortably have kids. There are SO many good reasons for not dating an older man as opposed to a younger man and without going through all of them, she probably just said: you're a nice guy, but you're just too old. That's my guess, at least. Think about it if the situation were reversed and a woman 14 years your senior was seriously interested in you.
When it comes to marriage, statistically speaking, if she picked you, then she'd be spending the better part of her life as your nursemaid and then as a widow. That is not an appealing thought for many women.
I wouldn't mind having a young wife, a youthful person with all the enthusiasm is fun an' all...but I probably wouldn't do it....for the simple reason that how much fun can it possibly be for a woman in her 30's, to be in the sack with an old codger in his 50's??....eewww!!!...nah, I'd rather have a saggy old thing like me, so I can feel comfortable...
Lagoona22: I wouldn't mind having a young wife, a youthful person with all the enthusiasm is fun an' all...but I probably wouldn't do it....for the simple reason that how much fun can it possibly be for a woman in her 30's, to be in the sack with an old codger in his 50's??....eewww!!!...nah, I'd rather have a saggy old thing like me, so I can feel comfortable...
So cool...I'm 56...that means I'm gonna be walking around with a 35 year-old babe on my arm...??...Very nice, until some good-looking dude of 36 comes walking by in his lean jeans and ripped gym body...
that's not going to be much fun for me...or her!!....now way...it can't last...
...for me 12 years max...at the very most...
Butterflyboo1974: I thought that the theory was half the oldest person's age, plus seven?
Scubadiva: Hmm... I wouldn't date someone 14 years my senior either. It has nothing to do with personality. There are 35 year olds with a great personality. So it's not a matter of either age or personality, it's both!
If she's 32, she can still comfortably have kids. There are SO many good reasons for not dating an older man as opposed to a younger man and without going through all of them, she probably just said: you're a nice guy, but you're just too old. That's my guess, at least. Think about it if the situation were reversed and a woman 14 years your senior was seriously interested in you.
When it comes to marriage, statistically speaking, if she picked you, then she'd be spending the better part of her life as your nursemaid and then as a widow. That is not an appealing thought for many women.
My Husband was 15 yrs older than me, we were married 16yrs, had 2 children at first it was fine.
But as the children got older i wanted a career again, he became jealous of that and wanted me home, plus we started to want different things, i was young enough to still want to go out althought i wanted him to come he didn't enjoy the same things, his response was he had been there and done it.
When you are in love then nothing matters,she said she liked you and like is no basis for marriage, why did she become involved with you,she already knew you were older..
SuperguyOPlondon, Greater London, England UK12 posts
[ yes that what I did not understand. she gots angry when i did not talk to her. she was happy when we were together. I am sure she enjoyed my comapny.Maybe she needed more time]
Superguy: I was dating a nice girl who is 14 years younger.She is 32. She said she liked me but our age difference is a probnlem. Your opinions please
Hey Superguy!...what's up here?...you say you were dating a woman of 32, and she is 14 years younger than you....right?...I checked your profile and it states you are 37 years old....something's wrong here, or am I being shtoopid??....
Lagoona22: Hey Superguy!...what's up here?...you say you were dating a woman of 32, and she is 14 years younger than you....right?...I checked your profile and it states you are 37 years old....something's wrong here, or am I being shtoopid??....
Hi Lago!
I was just thinking that too!! Perhaps it's the senile brains that can't do modern arithmetic!
Personally, I think once you're over about 25, up to 5 or 6 years either way doesn't make any difference - certainly when you get into your 30s it can be considered "same age". Up to 10 years will probably not present any major problems if the chemistry is right.
Much over 10 years can, and probably will, present its own problems sooner or later if were talking marriage - which is a rather different matter from dating and/or enjoying someone's company. If the relationship is strong enough, these problems will probably be overcome - but they exist. Everyone's outlook on life changes over the years - and what doesn't seem to matter at 23 and 37, may start to matter at 46 and 60! So yes, I think the age difference you're talking about does matter. Whether it's a deal breaker or not depends on the couple concerned.
Aage does not matter. It depends on the two ppl and wether or not they see eye to eye. Maturity has everything to do with the particular individual and less to do with how many years they have spent on this earth. Jmho
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