Should couples live together before their married? (52)
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thank you NJ ......and you be good....
You know I always am.
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No, I want to send him home when I'm tired of him.
Just kidding about sending him home. I believe in a long courtship and a short engagement. This gives you plenty time to get to know each other. For me, I don't want to live together. It is too easy to just drift and never form any kind of solid relationship. Too easy to live with someone until the "right" person comes along. I can say this is the case in all situations, but I have seen it and experienced it enough myself.
i read all these posts here and i don't really know what to make of them except that people are mixing the definitions of relationship and marriage. For god's sake (for those people who believe in god), marriage is not a "relationship" like a relationship between a store owner and his/her customers; it is not a "relationship" between two buddies, nor it is a relationship between two businessmen. Marriage is a sacred "BOND". you don't do the marriage thing if you allow yourself to cripple with the thoughts that it won't work, period! you do it because you are sure that you are going to give 110% to keep that sacred bond going until the end! i mean it really beats me..why this mix up? it is ok that you don't want to get married. But why is the fake effort to put a so-called "relationship" ahead of that "sacred" bond called marriage! i mean the whole idea of a "relationship" or living together stems pretty much from the idea that you are not sure about marriage, right? people can live together before marriage all they want but please don't try to bring "marriage" into your mess of relationship because i find it really insulting to the judgement/rationalities of those people who see marriage from a very different and clear angle.
is that like test driving a car before you buy it,but if you don't like the car after you buy it,you can always sell it and get another car 
I would just go for the living together and skip the marriage. But that's just me.
Wow dude. Some say yes. Some say no. It does not work for me. I think it is probably an individual decision. Later - K
zdeathangelz: is that like test driving a car before you buy it,but if you don't like the car after you buy it,you can always sell it and get another car
And thereby "depreciating" the value of the "car". I hope people thing a little more deeply about this whole "relationship/living together" saga.
Sometimes signing a Marriage License is like a giving a license to be stupid. Or rather, giving permission to act as you please since your legally bound to stay together.
Better to find out beforehand before committing to someone.
Better to find out beforehand before committing to someone.
I think it's a good idea, but I wouldn't go so far as to call it a pre-requisite.
the answer is a flat NO
avecaim: Cohabitation carries with it both good and bad potential learning experiences. Mine have taught me a lot and also that living together makes marriage less likely If children are involved you should not live together or sleep over. It is confusing to them and sets a bad example.
I agree. I'm a child too..... and I get confused when ladies want to sleep over.
It doesn't matter really,assumingh they are both two,mature,responsible adults.
assuming...
Papers are only papers....
i would rather live with someone than be married again.
Marriage is irrelevant, unless we're discussing taxes.
Nope...not living with someone first -- I don't believe in "shacking up" ... it's not for me. He's either in all the way or not ... so marriage is the only way I'd live with a man again. 
Ocee35: Marriage is irrelevant, unless we're discussing taxes.
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i only lived with my husband about 2 weeks and then
we Married..