if they really needed you to.............. (31)
kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
Run forrest run......
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
Oh, this is Codependancy 101 built on taking prisoners and hemming each other in with emotional blackmail. It's not a case of the right thing to do morally but the healthy thing to do for yourself and that can be very difficult like coming off a drug. It's a hard road but it's worth it.This is about you I'm afraid and not him.
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
Break ups suck,
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He may take the situation of me
helping him to his advantage;
he may think by me helping him,
that in some way there may be
a reconciliation,if this were me.
IMO
helping him to his advantage;
he may think by me helping him,
that in some way there may be
a reconciliation,if this were me.
IMO
kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
It is a personal choice. I did it for my ex-husband after our divorce. He was an alcoholic and I went chasing after him in bars to get him home to safety. One winter we had a lot of snow and ice and I found him sleeping in the car. When your body is full of alcohol you don't feel the cold. Other times he would come to my door, drunk as a lord, and I fed him and gave him a place to sleep. He deserved respect not just because he was the father of our daughter but because he was a human being. Unfortunately I wasn't there one more time when I could have saved him. He was found dead two days after he died.
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why sink to their level be the person you are and do good by a friend but makesure they know thats all it is! 
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Been there, experienced that and don't recommend it. Leopards never change their spots. It's an old cliche but thêre is always some truth behind all thêse cliches. Do the thing that's right for you. we only have one shot at this life.
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I would be there for help; however, I do believe I would isolate my heart and keep it truly platonic. I could not kick someone to the curb, but everyone has been on the money that this is a big problem waiting to happen.
If you hadn't put the "...to the hospital...." part in there, I would have walked away.
If you hadn't put the "...to the hospital...." part in there, I would have walked away.
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Hell no
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snuggs99: It is a personal choice. I did it for my ex-husband after our divorce. He was an alcoholic and I went chasing after him in bars to get him home to safety. One winter we had a lot of snow and ice and I found him sleeping in the car. When your body is full of alcohol you don't feel the cold. Other times he would come to my door, drunk as a lord, and I fed him and gave him a place to sleep. He deserved respect not just because he was the father of our daughter but because he was a human being. Unfortunately I wasn't there one more time when I could have saved him. He was found dead two days after he died.
but that is not ur fault
You cant put ur life on hold forever..
Its something to help someone..but not all the time...
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
we are all want and need a good relationship,so why u need to suffer or waste your time to someone treat u bad? dont blame yourself in what happen to him,is your time to move on and have peace to yourself,let them learn a lesson..just think only about yourself,jmo.
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I have been through this many times and have always been there to help them through. Support is key even if the a relationship is over.
Hey Jeff.
Hey Jeff.
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kissmedeeply: but that is not ur fault
You cant put ur life on hold forever..
Its something to help someone..but not all the time...
You cant put ur life on hold forever..
Its something to help someone..but not all the time...
I didn't say anything was my fault. I chose to help him. I knew him for four years before we got married and I knew he was a good man. He drank all the time but I was only 16 years old when I met him. I didn't know about alcoholism. I had my own life and starting dating a couple years after my divorce. My helping him didn't get in the way. He was the best friend I ever had.
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leonjs48: hi there, very nice to see you this morning!!
I just wanted to slip in while I can before I get in trouble.
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snuggs99: I didn't say anything was my fault. I chose to help him. I knew him for four years before we got married and I knew he was a good man. He drank all the time but I was only 16 years old when I met him. I didn't know about alcoholism. I had my own life and starting dating a couple years after my divorce. My helping him didn't get in the way. He was the best friend I ever had.
I know you didnt..i was just saying it becos i felt ur pain of him going and you werent there this time..
kudos for you and sticking by him
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kissmedeeply: I know you didnt..i was just saying it becos i felt ur pain of him going and you werent there this time..
kudos for you and sticking by him
kudos for you and sticking by him
You are so right Kiss. It was very painful for his mother to call me and say "he's gone". I cried all the time. People couldn't understand why I would cry for an ex-husband. It was a plantonic relationship but that didn't matter. I worried about him all the time. And I'm not exaggerating when I say this, it took almost three years before the crying and sadness stopped.
To this day when my daughter and I talk about daddy, my eyes swell up with tears.
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snuggs99: You are so right Kiss. It was very painful for his mother to call me and say "he's gone". I cried all the time. People couldn't understand why I would cry for an ex-husband. It was a plantonic relationship but that didn't matter. I worried about him all the time. And I'm not exaggerating when I say this, it took almost three years before the crying and sadness stopped.
To this day when my daughter and I talk about daddy, my eyes swell up with tears.
awww...i know it must be so hard at times..as i said kudos to you for being there for him..To this day when my daughter and I talk about daddy, my eyes swell up with tears.
The world would be such a better place if we would be there for people
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kissmedeeply: awww...i know it must be so hard at times..as i said kudos to you for being there for him..
The world would be such a better place if we would be there for people
The world would be such a better place if we would be there for people
I'm not pining for him. He died in 1975. It's just a memory that stays in the past unless someone brings up a subject that opens the door to talk about it. Life moves on.
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
Sorry but I wouldn't.
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
Absolutely not!! I have been down this road several times and they have taken advantage of me and it will not happen again. I will help them get professional help, show them the road to the doctor once and them I am done!!!
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rubendario: Absolutely not!! I have been down this road several times and they have taken advantage of me and it will not happen again. I will help them get professional help, show them the road to the doctor once and them I am done!!!
Good answer!!
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Sojourner: Good answer!!
I meant 
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kkitty2: If you were in a long term relationship and they treated you wrong so many times you just fell out of love with them.
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?
Avoid them like the plague!
Nothing but grief and heartache otherwise.
You're no doctor.
Why put yourself through it when you can find someone normal,who i'm sure wouldn't want you councilling an ex!
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Big_John: I would be there for help; however, I do believe I would isolate my heart and keep it truly platonic. I could not kick someone to the curb, but everyone has been on the money that this is a big problem waiting to happen.
If you hadn't put the "...to the hospital...." part in there, I would have walked away.
If you hadn't put the "...to the hospital...." part in there, I would have walked away.
yeah I did walk away and he fell apart, and I really don't think he knows how to deal with it. does anybody? I tell him, I am not the one that can help him.
We have a daughter and I will try to find someone to get him the help he needs to deal with it.
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Sojourner: I meant
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people get hurt all the time and sometimes for the wrong reason and are not thinking right what did u do to make it so bad because it take two to f everything up not just one so look at yourself and think its your choice maybe u can help and be happy long relationship is worth keeping sound like u had someone to break yourheart before this do you have any kids together if so i would help him or her out life is to short and kids are to small yes i would help
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people get hurt all the time and sometimes for the wrong reason and are not thinking right what did u do to make it so bad because it take two to f everything up not just one so look at yourself and think its your choice maybe u can help and be happy long relationship is worth keeping sound like u had someone to break yourheart before this do you have any kids together if so i would help him or her out life is to short and kids are to small yes i would help maybe its love u may not every know until you try
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Sometimes it is hardest to put aside past emotions to do what is right. I have been down this road and have not regretted the humanity I have shown to others even when they had none for me. At the end of the day, I can hold my head up high.
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if they really needed you to..............(Vote Below)
You break up and then that person is having a lot of mental problems dealing with it, like going to the hospital and they just don't know how to deal with their broken heart.
You find yourself feeling so bad because even though you don't love them in the relationship sense you still care for them and you don't want anything bad to happen to them.
You tell them to seek help and they ask you to help them through all of this, would you?
is it the right thing to do?