Do you feel lonley? (36)

Oh yes. And that's really painful sometimes.

I definitely prefer to be in love, even if the one is in another country....

Me too stef.

The only time I´ve felt.....not lonely, but alone, is when I´ve been ill. fortunately that´s only been an occasional bad bout of flu to date.

That´s when I´ve wished for somebody to adminster some tlc.

If one does not have a partner, then I suppose it all depends on whether one has family and close friends. They are the lifeline to many of us, and prevent us from really feeling lonely. In my case anyway.

I am lucky enough to say I dont feel lonely any more..

But I used to, yes. The evenings were the worst, especially the dark, winter ones when you cant even go out for a walk or suchlike. I used the TV and CS for company, when I was lonely rather than head down to the bar, because I knew that was dangerous..

I remember last Christmas. It was a nightmare. I woke up on Christmas Morning at 3am, with a raging toothache. I had no painkillers in the house, and not even any alcohol strong enough to take the pain away. I felt so lonely, like I was the only person left in the world after a holocaust. I would have given anything for a hug, or a cuddle or even a friendly smile..

Luckily, I found an emergency dentist who very kindly saw me especially on Christmas Morning and gave me some pain relief. I slept the rest of the day.

I will never forget that day though. I have never felt so lonely and sorry for myself and aching for human touch.

Anytime in the future, that I want "space", or someone else irritates me, or I loose track of my priorites in life, I will think back to that day, and bless myself many times for the love and company and support I have now found..

Hi Petal, that´s what I was trying to say. When we feel ill, or as in your case with a raging toothache, we need tlc.

I do think though that family and very good friends can be a blessing if one doesn´t have a partner.

I know women with husbands or live in partners who couldn´t give two hoots if they are feeling ill. To be fair though, it´s not always that they don´t care, but they are afraid and try to act as though it´s nothing and will just simply disappear. My ex husband was like that. He loved me to bits, but if I was ill he just couldn´t handle it...out of fear.