Do you truly in your heart think you could meet your soul mate on an online singles web-site (72)
Jan1305: Well one only has to look at the well documented statistics to discover that online dating has an extremely poor success rate.
I´ve never been under any illusion here, as I´ve said before on many occasions.
I´ve had seven online dates in three years, all of which were disappointing, or not what I was expecting for a variety of reasons. In between, I´ve also had RL dates, which although did not go beyond three or four dates (until recently), were much more enjoyable, and easier. No emailing back and forth for months on end, an immediate physical attraction, and all the other advantages of meeting somebody face to face.
There are a few exceptions here on CS, but in comparison to the membership number, online dating sadly fails to "come up with goods".
I think one has to maintain a good social life, which isn´t difficult in my part of the world where everybody socialises outside due to the good weather and tradition, and people are not reserved, so it´s easy to strike up friendships.
If that isn´t possible, then online dating can be an additional aid, particularly to boost ones confidence, (though it can also be a cruel place) make friends, and learn about other cultures if nothing else.
I´ve never been under any illusion here, as I´ve said before on many occasions.
I´ve had seven online dates in three years, all of which were disappointing, or not what I was expecting for a variety of reasons. In between, I´ve also had RL dates, which although did not go beyond three or four dates (until recently), were much more enjoyable, and easier. No emailing back and forth for months on end, an immediate physical attraction, and all the other advantages of meeting somebody face to face.
There are a few exceptions here on CS, but in comparison to the membership number, online dating sadly fails to "come up with goods".
I think one has to maintain a good social life, which isn´t difficult in my part of the world where everybody socialises outside due to the good weather and tradition, and people are not reserved, so it´s easy to strike up friendships.
If that isn´t possible, then online dating can be an additional aid, particularly to boost ones confidence, (though it can also be a cruel place) make friends, and learn about other cultures if nothing else.
I may have to move up your end? My social life is non existent!
My las 2 Long Term relationships have BOTH been from online sources - one was 6 years long (terrible relationship) and the other 3 years. It CAN work, it DOES work and, I believe it ceates a level playing field for many inhibited people out there. However, on a FREE site, you'll ALWAYS get what you pay for member-wise...
illu_66: Bought one from Soulmates R Us - It sucked!!
That's why it took me three years to return it to the store!!!
Ahhh. That's why it took me three years to return it to the store!!!
I've never gone there. I think it's the cheesy ad's. You know the ones.
The annoucer yells "Hurry hurry hurry, only 1 model left at our cheap cheap prices of and arm and a leg. Stores all across the world are selling out fast! Come one come all and get your soulmate at half price on Tuesdays!"
I would like to believe it begins here and continues with e-mails, progresses to phone calls and eventually meeting for the first time. I know when that happens to me I will be a nervous wreck and my heart will be beating 90 to nothing
Raven0: Ahhh.
I've never gone there. I think it's the cheesy ad's. You know the ones.
The annoucer yells "Hurry hurry hurry, only 1 model left at our cheap cheap prices of and arm and a leg. Stores all across the world are selling out fast! Come one come all and get your soulmate at half price on Tuesdays!"
I've never gone there. I think it's the cheesy ad's. You know the ones.
The annoucer yells "Hurry hurry hurry, only 1 model left at our cheap cheap prices of and arm and a leg. Stores all across the world are selling out fast! Come one come all and get your soulmate at half price on Tuesdays!"
heheheh - agreed- I was captivated by the giraffe with the loooong tongue... Hmmm the power of advertising!
illu_66: Read it again - it's NOT Assoul mate ;)
HA! I think I just met mine so the answer is YES!!! lol.personaly i think we can find true love anywhere!!!and it usually happens when we least expect it.. i hope you find who your looking for good luck 
Raven0: Ahhh.
I've never gone there. I think it's the cheesy ad's. You know the ones.
The annoucer yells "Hurry hurry hurry, only 1 model left at our cheap cheap prices of and arm and a leg. Stores all across the world are selling out fast! Come one come all and get your soulmate at half price on Tuesdays!"
I've never gone there. I think it's the cheesy ad's. You know the ones.
The annoucer yells "Hurry hurry hurry, only 1 model left at our cheap cheap prices of and arm and a leg. Stores all across the world are selling out fast! Come one come all and get your soulmate at half price on Tuesdays!"
"Sold" !! to the gentleman in the Jeep. 
jackiedd: HA! I think I just met mine so the answer is YES!!! lol.
Cool - I'll cross everything and hope it works out for you - I'm feeling generous.
It always come whenyouleast expect it, or when you finally give up - I guess the self imposed pressure is off and you relax, that positive 'cleansing' suddenly makes you both more attractive and more receptive and BAM - You're Jackiedd - Congrats hon!
jackiedd: HA! I think I just met mine so the answer is YES!!! lol.
See, I knew it.They are hiding around out there.
Good for you jackiedd.
illu_66: I may have to move up your end? My social life is non existent!
My las 2 Long Term relationships have BOTH been from online sources - one was 6 years long (terrible relationship) and the other 3 years. It CAN work, it DOES work and, I believe it ceates a level playing field for many inhibited people out there. However, on a FREE site, you'll ALWAYS get what you pay for member-wise...
My las 2 Long Term relationships have BOTH been from online sources - one was 6 years long (terrible relationship) and the other 3 years. It CAN work, it DOES work and, I believe it ceates a level playing field for many inhibited people out there. However, on a FREE site, you'll ALWAYS get what you pay for member-wise...
Why is your social life non-existent?
Do you have Spanish friends too? I found that the very few English people I met here in Murcia city centre were teachers like me, but much younger generally, and to be frank, not really teachers, just English speakers travelling around for fun.
As soon as I started making Spanish friends my world opened, and they are very dear to me.
Online dating doesn´t meet expectations for the majority of users in the romantic aspect, there is no doubt about that, and statistics back it up.
I do agree though that "inhibited" people, who perhaps are loners, may find it much easier to at least strike up a conversation on a dating site. That does not guarantee success though does it.
Jan1305: Well one only has to look at the well documented statistics to discover that online dating has an extremely poor success rate.
I´ve never been under any illusion here, as I´ve said before on many occasions.
I´ve had seven online dates in three years, all of which were disappointing, or not what I was expecting for a variety of reasons. In between, I´ve also had RL dates, which although did not go beyond three or four dates (until recently), were much more enjoyable, and easier. No emailing back and forth for months on end, an immediate physical attraction, and all the other advantages of meeting somebody face to face.
There are a few exceptions here on CS, but in comparison to the membership number, online dating sadly fails to "come up with goods".
I think one has to maintain a good social life, which isn´t difficult in my part of the world where everybody socialises outside due to the good weather and tradition, and people are not reserved, so it´s easy to strike up friendships.
If that isn´t possible, then online dating can be an additional aid, particularly to boost ones confidence, (though it can also be a cruel place) make friends, and learn about other cultures if nothing else.
I´ve never been under any illusion here, as I´ve said before on many occasions.
I´ve had seven online dates in three years, all of which were disappointing, or not what I was expecting for a variety of reasons. In between, I´ve also had RL dates, which although did not go beyond three or four dates (until recently), were much more enjoyable, and easier. No emailing back and forth for months on end, an immediate physical attraction, and all the other advantages of meeting somebody face to face.
There are a few exceptions here on CS, but in comparison to the membership number, online dating sadly fails to "come up with goods".
I think one has to maintain a good social life, which isn´t difficult in my part of the world where everybody socialises outside due to the good weather and tradition, and people are not reserved, so it´s easy to strike up friendships.
If that isn´t possible, then online dating can be an additional aid, particularly to boost ones confidence, (though it can also be a cruel place) make friends, and learn about other cultures if nothing else.
What well-documented statistics?
I've found online dating excellent, as well as bumping into people on the street, whisking them off their feet and asking 'How's your father?'.
My stats are good - where do you get your 'well documented statistics' from?
By the way, I met my last wife via the internet....... we 'knew' each other from 2000, met in 2001 and got married in 2004. The fact the relationship ended had nothing to do with having first contacted each other online.
Jan1305: Why is your social life non-existent?
Do you have Spanish friends too? I found that the very few English people I met here in Murcia city centre were teachers like me, but much younger generally, and to be frank, not really teachers, just English speakers travelling around for fun.
As soon as I started making Spanish friends my world opened, and they are very dear to me.
Online dating doesn´t meet expectations for the majority of users in the romantic aspect, there is no doubt about that, and statistics back it up.
I do agree though that "inhibited" people, who perhaps are loners, may find it much easier to at least strike up a conversation on a dating site. That does not guarantee success though does it.
Do you have Spanish friends too? I found that the very few English people I met here in Murcia city centre were teachers like me, but much younger generally, and to be frank, not really teachers, just English speakers travelling around for fun.
As soon as I started making Spanish friends my world opened, and they are very dear to me.
Online dating doesn´t meet expectations for the majority of users in the romantic aspect, there is no doubt about that, and statistics back it up.
I do agree though that "inhibited" people, who perhaps are loners, may find it much easier to at least strike up a conversation on a dating site. That does not guarantee success though does it.
My best friend lives near Murcia.......... some place that sounds like 'Cava Roi'?
illu_66: I may have to move up your end? My social life is non existent!
My las 2 Long Term relationships have BOTH been from online sources - one was 6 years long (terrible relationship) and the other 3 years. It CAN work, it DOES work and, I believe it ceates a level playing field for many inhibited people out there. However, on a FREE site, you'll ALWAYS get what you pay for member-wise...
My las 2 Long Term relationships have BOTH been from online sources - one was 6 years long (terrible relationship) and the other 3 years. It CAN work, it DOES work and, I believe it ceates a level playing field for many inhibited people out there. However, on a FREE site, you'll ALWAYS get what you pay for member-wise...
you are inhibited???
you dont look either sound so
I definetely believe that I can
find love on a dating site;it's
been proven before by other members
of C.S.!!!!
find love on a dating site;it's
been proven before by other members
of C.S.!!!!
melinmaui73: Just curious how the general public truly feels about this.
Here goes I know people will probably have all kinds of things to say about this but I don't beleive in soul mates or love. It is only illusoins. Men (in my case) tend to prentend to be someone totally different then what they really are.
You fall for the illusion they have projected. I know this sounds sinical but that's how it is...
You fall for the illusion they have projected. I know this sounds sinical but that's how it is...
RobertC2: What well-documented statistics?
I've found online dating excellent, as well as bumping into people on the street, whisking them off their feet and asking 'How's your father?'.
My stats are good - where do you get your 'well documented statistics' from?
By the way, I met my last wife via the internet....... we 'knew' each other from 2000, met in 2001 and got married in 2004. The fact the relationship ended had nothing to do with having first contacted each other online.
I've found online dating excellent, as well as bumping into people on the street, whisking them off their feet and asking 'How's your father?'.
My stats are good - where do you get your 'well documented statistics' from?
By the way, I met my last wife via the internet....... we 'knew' each other from 2000, met in 2001 and got married in 2004. The fact the relationship ended had nothing to do with having first contacted each other online.
There are a number of links which I could post, but I´m sure most people don´t bother to read links anyway. Just be sure to read information which does not come from a self-promoting online dating company.
You were lucky then Robert, one of the few I mentioned. However, there are also studies which state that internet marriage also has a low success rate.
Other studies have come up with figures stating that self-effacing men are more successful in online dating.
That can´t be true though can it Robert, given your "success".
I seem to be the only negative voice here, and I´m sorry for dampening everybody´s optimism.
Good luck.
temporary: you are inhibited???
you dont look either sound so
you dont look either sound so
surprisingly, to some degree, yes.
Having spent MANY years as a professional entertainer, performing to 1,000s of people, I surprise myself with just how reluctant I am to socialise with groups of 5 or 6 or more - weird.
Hermititus has set in!
Jan1305: There are a number of links which I could post, but I´m sure most people don´t bother to read links anyway. Just be sure to read information which does not come from a self-promoting online dating company.
You were lucky then Robert, one of the few I mentioned. However, there are also studies which state that internet marriage also has a low success rate.
Other studies have come up with figures stating that self-effacing men are more successful in online dating.
That can´t be true though can it Robert, given your "success".
I seem to be the only negative voice here, and I´m sorry for dampening everybody´s optimism.
Good luck.
You were lucky then Robert, one of the few I mentioned. However, there are also studies which state that internet marriage also has a low success rate.
Other studies have come up with figures stating that self-effacing men are more successful in online dating.
That can´t be true though can it Robert, given your "success".
I seem to be the only negative voice here, and I´m sorry for dampening everybody´s optimism.
Good luck.
I think that stats probably show that all marriages have a low success rate these days - depending on what you consider 'low'. I'd consider that a success rate of less than 90% in marriages was low considering it's supposed to be a contract between two people for life.
Jan1305: There are a number of links which I could post, but I´m sure most people don´t bother to read links anyway. Just be sure to read information which does not come from a self-promoting online dating company.
You were lucky then Robert, one of the few I mentioned. However, there are also studies which state that internet marriage also has a low success rate.
Other studies have come up with figures stating that self-effacing men are more successful in online dating.
That can´t be true though can it Robert, given your "success".
I seem to be the only negative voice here, and I´m sorry for dampening everybody´s optimism.
Good luck.
You were lucky then Robert, one of the few I mentioned. However, there are also studies which state that internet marriage also has a low success rate.
Other studies have come up with figures stating that self-effacing men are more successful in online dating.
That can´t be true though can it Robert, given your "success".
I seem to be the only negative voice here, and I´m sorry for dampening everybody´s optimism.
Good luck.
I wasn't negative!
I have to agree with Dragonfly - I don't believe in 'one person' for you. I believe you can find someone, find an interest/connection and then it's all down to dedication and hard work.
Jan1305: Why is your social life non-existent?
I don't want to hijack the thread - but a series of events and decisions means that I'm pretty much alone in RL at the moment.
RobertC2: My best friend lives near Murcia.......... some place that sounds like 'Cava Roi'?
It must be Caba Roig. Lovely beaches and popular with tourists and ex-pats.
NO....
illu_66: I wasn't negative!
I have to agree with Dragonfly - I don't believe in 'one person' for you. I believe you can find someone, find an interest/connection and then it's all down to dedication and hard work.
I have to agree with Dragonfly - I don't believe in 'one person' for you. I believe you can find someone, find an interest/connection and then it's all down to dedication and hard work.
I didn´t say you were negative. I was referring to my voice being the only negative one about online dating.
I´m sorry that you are alone in RL at the moment as you said after this post I´ve quoted. It happens to many of us at some stage in life, and my remarks about having good friends and a social life may seem (unintentionally) flippant to those like yourself in such a position.
Good luck to you.
Jan1305: I didn´t say you were negative. I was referring to my voice being the only negative one about online dating.
I´m sorry that you are alone in RL at the moment as you said after this post I´ve quoted. It happens to many of us at some stage in life, and my remarks about having good friends and a social life may seem (unintentionally) flippant to those like yourself in such a position.
Good luck to you.
I´m sorry that you are alone in RL at the moment as you said after this post I´ve quoted. It happens to many of us at some stage in life, and my remarks about having good friends and a social life may seem (unintentionally) flippant to those like yourself in such a position.
Good luck to you.
Cheers Jan,
Did I come across as down? I never meant too.
There's a big difference between sadness and lonliness.
I'm not sad at ALL, and ONLY lonely in RL - Weekends can be a right pain when all you do is sit at home, but I'm still far from being sad about it.
I've been very used to my own company on and off for many years. Things will change on the RL lonliness front and, by the end of this year, everything will be back on track - in fact a whole lot better than it has been for MANY years. This year's ending well...
illu_66: Cheers Jan,
Did I come across as down? I never meant too.
There's a big difference between sadness and lonliness.
I'm not sad at ALL, and ONLY lonely in RL - Weekends can be a right pain when all you do is sit at home, but I'm still far from being sad about it.
I've been very used to my own company on and off for many years. Things will change on the RL lonliness front and, by the end of this year, everything will be back on track - in fact a whole lot better than it has been for MANY years. This year's ending well...
Did I come across as down? I never meant too.
There's a big difference between sadness and lonliness.
I'm not sad at ALL, and ONLY lonely in RL - Weekends can be a right pain when all you do is sit at home, but I'm still far from being sad about it.
I've been very used to my own company on and off for many years. Things will change on the RL lonliness front and, by the end of this year, everything will be back on track - in fact a whole lot better than it has been for MANY years. This year's ending well...
Yes you did come across as a little down. People often put on a brave front here, or promote a different persona, not sure why really, but I´m quite perceptive.
I´m here tonight because my boyfriend is nursing his sick mother. His father is there, but as Javi is a doctor, his mum feels more comfortable when he´s around.
That´s another thing I love about Spain, care for the elderly and family values still exist.
Jan1305: YPeople often put on a brave front here, or promote a different persona.
Gawd No! I'm as obnoxious in real life as online ;). Can't be arsed with all those games. I'm a 'warts n all' guy.
You're right about Spain and it's family values. I have somtimes wondered how my lie would have been if I'd grown up here instead of UK (I'm 1/2 Spanish - or Spanglish as some on here have called me). But I had a VERY British upbringing - wasn't even taught the language!
There are LOTS of things wrong with Spain, but The Family is still an important thing is most people's lives and a value that IK would do well to emulate.
I couldn't date a Spanish 'princess'. The are all sooo 'precious'. I like a bit of adventure, humour and wickedness.
So NO Spanish Soulmate for me :D
Nope I doubt it.
melinmaui73: Just curious how the general public truly feels about this.
You should not be here, if you thought otherwise. !
Isn't that why we are all here...... hope springs eternal !
melinmaui73: Just curious how the general public truly feels about this.
yes
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