Do you believe widows are desperate for a new mate? (60)
I dont think so.
They crave what we all crave..company
They crave what we all crave..company
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No,...
Were human beings and carry on with life,...I suppose it all depends if that person is ready for a new mate?.....
Were human beings and carry on with life,...I suppose it all depends if that person is ready for a new mate?.....
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Spot on. 
Amity: I dont think so.
They crave what we all crave..company
They crave what we all crave..company
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All singles, especially after marriage and divorce need some kind of fellowship. Many need a re-marriage.
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Goodess!!! No! more likely the men are
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Bloody right! Thanks for that, it's my impression too! 
passion8: Like yourself, I'm finding that when a guy finds out I'm widowed, he jumps to one of two conclusions........ Either that I'm desperate and willing to sleep with anyone, or that I have loads of money and am an easy catch.
It seems to me that a lot of men on these sites have unterior motives for being here. By the time you've sorted out the married ones; those here for as many lays possible; those looking for the next house to move into (before they ditch their present partner); the young lads looking for experience with an older women, the foreign nationals looking for a British passport; and of course the scammers............ there doesn't seem to be many genuine guys left.
I've also noticed that some guys seem happy to date serial divorcees, but are scared out of their wits at the thought of dating a widow. Would love someone to prove me wrong!!
It seems to me that a lot of men on these sites have unterior motives for being here. By the time you've sorted out the married ones; those here for as many lays possible; those looking for the next house to move into (before they ditch their present partner); the young lads looking for experience with an older women, the foreign nationals looking for a British passport; and of course the scammers............ there doesn't seem to be many genuine guys left.
I've also noticed that some guys seem happy to date serial divorcees, but are scared out of their wits at the thought of dating a widow. Would love someone to prove me wrong!!
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I've heard it was the other way around. Widowed men get married only a little while after their partner's death
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my dads a widower since he was 36 he is 50 now he has never looked at another woman sometimes i feel sad he might be lonely but he said there was only 1 woman for him
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galwaydave: my dads a widower since he was 36 he is 50 now he has never looked at another woman sometimes i feel sad he might be lonely but he said there was only 1 woman for him
aww bless him
What a sweetheart.
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I was single for years after husband passed,wasn't interested in anyone else.I spent my time raising my daughter,working.I dated a few times but found i wasn't ready.So no i don't think so,but i think it really depends on the person .
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I do think there is a perception among some to view the widow as desperate for something. At least in the very beginning when you are freshly widowed. I remember a few nerve-wracking experiences right after the funeral when men started turning up for all sorts of unusual reasons. One really young kid showed up and made the world's most awkward pass. If I hadn't been so horrified it would have been funny. To this day he blushes beat read whenever he sees me (I told him to go home or I would call his mommy).
Then I "borrowed" my girlfriend's husband and we set about creating a rumor so everyone would think I had found someone.
Then I "borrowed" my girlfriend's husband and we set about creating a rumor so everyone would think I had found someone.
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I'm not sure about the desperate part but I do believe having lost someone they are more likely to place a higher value of someone they connect with knowing the constant uncertainty of the future. If you want to really know how you feel about someone imagine if they were gone.
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Amity: did someone have to to much sugar on your cheerios.
So after a certain amount of time...is it unfair for this person to move on with their lives?
You dont have to have someone to have a life!So after a certain amount of time...is it unfair for this person to move on with their lives?
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conjor: You dont have to have someone to have a life!
I understand that..im single myself, and choose to be!!
But im saying, if someone had mourned for years for a lost one...is it not fair for that person to seek love again?
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Amity: I understand that..im single myself, and choose to be!!
But im saying, if someone had mourned for years for a lost one...is it not fair for that person to seek love again?
But im saying, if someone had mourned for years for a lost one...is it not fair for that person to seek love again?
Well I definitely hope to move on someday. Who wants to spend their life alone???
It just takes time, I hope. 
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WhatUwish4: Well I definitely hope to move on someday. Who wants to spend their life alone??? It just takes time, I hope.
Exactly my point.
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Amity: Exactly my point.
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passion8: Like yourself, I'm finding that when a guy finds out I'm widowed, he jumps to one of two conclusions........ Either that I'm desperate and willing to sleep with anyone, or that I have loads of money and am an easy catch.
It seems to me that a lot of men on these sites have unterior motives for being here. By the time you've sorted out the married ones; those here for as many lays possible; those looking for the next house to move into (before they ditch their present partner); the young lads looking for experience with an older women, the foreign nationals looking for a British passport; and of course the scammers............ there doesn't seem to be many genuine guys left.
I've also noticed that some guys seem happy to date serial divorcees, but are scared out of their wits at the thought of dating a widow. Would love someone to prove me wrong!!
It seems to me that a lot of men on these sites have unterior motives for being here. By the time you've sorted out the married ones; those here for as many lays possible; those looking for the next house to move into (before they ditch their present partner); the young lads looking for experience with an older women, the foreign nationals looking for a British passport; and of course the scammers............ there doesn't seem to be many genuine guys left.
I've also noticed that some guys seem happy to date serial divorcees, but are scared out of their wits at the thought of dating a widow. Would love someone to prove me wrong!!
So very true.
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Amity: I understand that..im single myself, and choose to be!!
But im saying, if someone had mourned for years for a lost one...is it not fair for that person to seek love again?
Of course it is...but some feel guilty about moving on with a new partner.You even get mad at your partner for dieing and leaving you all alone...its just part of the healing process...may take years for some,some are never readyBut im saying, if someone had mourned for years for a lost one...is it not fair for that person to seek love again?
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WhatUwish4: Well I definitely hope to move on someday. Who wants to spend their life alone??? It just takes time, I hope.
I'm scratching my head. I didn't know you were a widow. How could I have missed that after all this time? Sorry to hear that. Probably sounds silly, but it's new to me.
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Amity: Omg..whos been talking about me dribbling n snoring
Would it be ungentlemanly to make references to somnolent botty-popping?
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There are 2 types... One type after a while searching for a partner...the other type, they want to remain sigle.
conjor: You dont have to have someone to have a life!
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demonfairy: Of course it is...but some feel guilty about moving on with a new partner.You even get mad at your partner for dieing and leaving you all alone...its just part of the healing process...may take years for some,some are never ready
It's not the guilt or anger that keeps me back. It's more that after being married for so long you're identity tends to shift towards a married mindset. It's not like we were EVER co-dependant, but we were inter-dependant. I think it just takes awhile to get back into the idea of being a complete individual again, and in many ways you have to redefine yourself and your life. Personally, I wanted the time to think things through, get adjusted and decide where I wanted to go next in my life. After all, when a spouse dies life as you knew it comes to a screeching halt. You can't just "start over" as if nothing's changed.
Well, I guess you could jump from one relationship straight into another, but I wouldn't want to.
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You are right
WhatUwish4: I think it's a given that someone would be thinking that - but that doesn't make you desperate. If you came out of a good marriage, you're more likely to place a much higher value on true intimacy more, so you're likely to be more choosy, not less.
JMHO
JMHO
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bob1959: I'm scratching my head. I didn't know you were a widow. How could I have missed that after all this time? Sorry to hear that. Probably sounds silly, but it's new to me.
Hi Bob...No worries, but thank you. It's been two years now so I'm adjusting.
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I have been a widow for 7 years now, married 36. I definitely miss that special bonding that being in love gave. Some nights are extremely lonely for sure. Does that mean I am ready to hop into bed with the first guy that comes along? NO!!!
I have been hit on so many times by guys thinking that very thing. But as soon as I nix that idea, refuse to watch them supposedly pleasing themselves on the webcam and tell them I do not have a large bank account, most are gone quickly.
However I have also met a few that are very nice and we have remained friends. So not all are after a quick roll in the hay
I, like many others, do hope to find someone willing to walk beside me for however long my journey here lasts. But as I stated with one of my pics, I Am Nobody's Fool.
I have been hit on so many times by guys thinking that very thing. But as soon as I nix that idea, refuse to watch them supposedly pleasing themselves on the webcam and tell them I do not have a large bank account, most are gone quickly.
However I have also met a few that are very nice and we have remained friends. So not all are after a quick roll in the hay
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WhatUwish4: It's not the guilt or anger that keeps me back. It's more that after being married for so long you're identity tends to shift towards a married mindset. It's not like we were EVER co-dependant, but we were inter-dependant. I think it just takes awhile to get back into the idea of being a complete individual again, and in many ways you have to redefine yourself and your life. Personally, I wanted the time to think things through, get adjusted and decide where I wanted to go next in my life. After all, when a spouse dies life as you knew it comes to a screeching halt. You can't just "start over" as if nothing's changed.
Well, I guess you could jump from one relationship straight into another, but I wouldn't want to.
It is a lot to handle,we have to find our selfs again,so to speak,some man e-mailed me looking for a new love said he was a widow,didn't like being a lone.I asked him how long he had been a widow,he said 4 weeks,he didn't like doing house chores,cooking for himself,sleeping alone.I was nice to him explained maybe he needed a little more time,but wished him well on his hunt...everyone is differentWell, I guess you could jump from one relationship straight into another, but I wouldn't want to.
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Are you snoring too. You and me will be a cacophony duet
Amity: Omg..whos been talking about me dribbling n snoring
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