Would you travel to another country to meet a guy you met here? (207)
patmacglasgow, Strathclyde, Scotland UK730 Threads 6 Polls 9,662 PostsHave you lot finished yet ??? Is it safe to come out 
yes Pandora, thank you
I haven't given up on him
but the next move IS his if there is to be one
and he will have to explain his little disappearing act for us to remain friends - and that may be all it ever is - good friends
but I won't act tough and talk of moving on to the next one like it didn't matter because it did matter- to ME anyway - MY feelings & interest were genuine
I have moved on as that is in my best interests
but ya, I have done so while still annoyed with my "friend" and as I've said many times "friends " do not DO these kinds of things to each other so all of these guys claiming they want to be "friends" are pissing into the wind IMO
I haven't given up on him
but the next move IS his if there is to be one
and he will have to explain his little disappearing act for us to remain friends - and that may be all it ever is - good friends
but I won't act tough and talk of moving on to the next one like it didn't matter because it did matter- to ME anyway - MY feelings & interest were genuine
I have moved on as that is in my best interests
but ya, I have done so while still annoyed with my "friend" and as I've said many times "friends " do not DO these kinds of things to each other so all of these guys claiming they want to be "friends" are pissing into the wind IMO
Liamc: Would you travel to another country to meet a guy you met here? I created this poll because on this site there are many foreign women, and very few from my country. I would like to know how seriously this site is taken and if ppl are ready to actually to travel to meet someone they think they can have a future with..
Only if I felt the man was worth it....
felixis99: EXACTLY
I recently had a guy from another site ask me to visit him, but I don't know that it was thoughtful as what he was really doing was asking me to assume all the expense of our first meeting. I let him know I'd welcome him here, but he didn't pick up on that so I'm glad I didn't bother to travel to see him....as I was ultimately left with the impression that he wasn't that interested anyway...
I haven't rea the whole thread so pls 4give any toe treading but from the ladies comments on the last couple of pages I gather it's a matter of faith 4 the man to travel in their eyes.
I'd just like to point out that some of us have commitments we can't "offload" and that sometimes it's just not possible for the man to travel.
I'd also like to point out that in these circumstances I don't think it fair for the lady to be paying out all the travel costs either (depending on what they are) and bearing in mind the host will be bearing the cost of putting someone up and providing for them.
I recently had a guy from another site ask me to visit him, but I don't know that it was thoughtful as what he was really doing was asking me to assume all the expense of our first meeting. I let him know I'd welcome him here, but he didn't pick up on that so I'm glad I didn't bother to travel to see him....as I was ultimately left with the impression that he wasn't that interested anyway...
I haven't rea the whole thread so pls 4give any toe treading but from the ladies comments on the last couple of pages I gather it's a matter of faith 4 the man to travel in their eyes.
I'd just like to point out that some of us have commitments we can't "offload" and that sometimes it's just not possible for the man to travel.
I'd also like to point out that in these circumstances I don't think it fair for the lady to be paying out all the travel costs either (depending on what they are) and bearing in mind the host will be bearing the cost of putting someone up and providing for them.
well I would not stay with a man I've never met, and if you really wish to make a good impression you will do the trveling
OR you can just wait till I get there
not happenin
as Pandora said - it is a sign of how interested he is in me - making time around his commitments to visit is an important part of that - especially if he is busy
OR you can just wait till I get there
not happenin
as Pandora said - it is a sign of how interested he is in me - making time around his commitments to visit is an important part of that - especially if he is busy
felixis99: well I would not stay with a man I've never met, and if you really wish to make a good impression you will do the trveling
OR you can just wait till I get there
not happenin as Pandora said - it is a sign of how interested he is in me - making time around his commitments to visit is an important part of that - especially if he is busy
OR you can just wait till I get there
not happenin as Pandora said - it is a sign of how interested he is in me - making time around his commitments to visit is an important part of that - especially if he is busy
I don't wanna burst your bubble but the fact is you wouldn't be invited
can't think what gave you the idea you might
SUNSHINEB0Y: felixis99: EXACTLY
I recently had a guy from another site ask me to visit him, but I don't know that it was thoughtful as what he was really doing was asking me to assume all the expense of our first meeting. I let him know I'd welcome him here, but he didn't pick up on that so I'm glad I didn't bother to travel to see him....as I was ultimately left with the impression that he wasn't that interested anyway...
I haven't rea the whole thread so pls 4give any toe treading but from the ladies comments on the last couple of pages I gather it's a matter of faith 4 the man to travel in their eyes.
I'd just like to point out that some of us have commitments we can't "offload" and that sometimes it's just not possible for the man to travel.
I'd also like to point out that in these circumstances I don't think it fair for the lady to be paying out all the travel costs either (depending on what they are) and bearing in mind the host will be bearing the cost of putting someone up and providing for them.
I recently had a guy from another site ask me to visit him, but I don't know that it was thoughtful as what he was really doing was asking me to assume all the expense of our first meeting. I let him know I'd welcome him here, but he didn't pick up on that so I'm glad I didn't bother to travel to see him....as I was ultimately left with the impression that he wasn't that interested anyway...
I haven't rea the whole thread so pls 4give any toe treading but from the ladies comments on the last couple of pages I gather it's a matter of faith 4 the man to travel in their eyes.
I'd just like to point out that some of us have commitments we can't "offload" and that sometimes it's just not possible for the man to travel.
I'd also like to point out that in these circumstances I don't think it fair for the lady to be paying out all the travel costs either (depending on what they are) and bearing in mind the host will be bearing the cost of putting someone up and providing for them.
Not necessarrily. It´s wiser to stay in a hotel, and I imagine most people would prefer this if they are seeking a genuine relationship.
Personally I would travel to meet someone if I felt strongly enough about the man, and if I had spent some time getting to know him in the virtual sense beforehand. I love travelling and have done so alone for many years now, albeit to work in the countries I´ve travelled to, so it does not present any fear for me.
If things don´t work out then I can get a good holiday experience out of it.
felixis99: well I would not stay with a man I've never met, and if you really wish to make a good impression you will do the trveling
OR you can just wait till I get there
not happenin as Pandora said - it is a sign of how interested he is in me - making time around his commitments to visit is an important part of that - especially if he is busy
OR you can just wait till I get there
not happenin as Pandora said - it is a sign of how interested he is in me - making time around his commitments to visit is an important part of that - especially if he is busy
when I said can't I meant can't, someone with an inflexible attitude like the above could be missing out on many oportunities to meet perfectly nice gentlemen (or ladies) because it comes across as being very vain to people reading those kind of statements and they would be put off straight away.
It shows no understanding of peoples situation if they had a disabled child for instance or animals that needed care etc; not everybody has friends or neighbours or relatives to fob things off on.
There are a lot of peeps who will remain lonely in their twilight years because they cannot face the world with an open heart the way they once could when they were young.
JAN_is: Not necessarrily. It´s wiser to stay in a hotel, and I imagine most people would prefer this if they are seeking a genuine relationship.
Personally I would travel to meet someone if I felt strongly enough about the man, and if I had spent some time getting to know him in the virtual sense beforehand. I love travelling and have done so alone for many years now, albeit to work in the countries I´ve travelled to, so it does not present any fear for me.
If things don´t work out then I can get a good holiday experience out of it.
Personally I would travel to meet someone if I felt strongly enough about the man, and if I had spent some time getting to know him in the virtual sense beforehand. I love travelling and have done so alone for many years now, albeit to work in the countries I´ve travelled to, so it does not present any fear for me.
If things don´t work out then I can get a good holiday experience out of it.
if someone were to come from a foreign country to visit here the usual thing in this country would be to have the accomodation sorted for them before they arrive (whether it be a hotel or whatever) and meet them at the airport, feed them etc;
SUNSHINEB0Y: if someone were to come from a foreign country to visit here the usual thing in this country would be to have the accomodation sorted for them before they arrive (whether it be a hotel or whatever) and meet them at the airport, feed them etc;
Yes I know, that applies to most hospitable people wherever they are in the world, but it´s not always financially possible. I´m saying that I would not mind visiting another country and paying for my hotel if I thought it would be worthwhile, and if I thought I could have an interesting travel experience if the relationship potential was not there upon meeting. If the man I was visiting wanted to foot my hotel bills or pay half, fine, I will gladly accept.
I don´t go along with the "gentlemanly" opinion offered here by some of the ladies because of my personal beliefs and experiences, also because of some of the things you mentioned making it difficult for men to travel.
i have before , turned out to be not the best of decisions but luckily made it back home with no serious harm done, but was enough to make me realize i wasnt thinking very clearly and that it wasnt very smart of me- IF i were to do it again I would be smarter about it.
JAN_is: Yes I know, that applies to most hospitable people wherever they are in the world, but it´s not always financially possible. I´m saying that I would not mind visiting another country and paying for my hotel if I thought it would be worthwhile, and if I thought I could have an interesting travel experience if the relationship potential was not there upon meeting. If the man I was visiting wanted to foot my hotel bills or pay half, fine, I will gladly accept.
I don´t go along with the "gentlemanly" opinion offered here by some of the ladies because of my personal beliefs and experiences, also because of some of the things you mentioned making it difficult for men to travel.
I don´t go along with the "gentlemanly" opinion offered here by some of the ladies because of my personal beliefs and experiences, also because of some of the things you mentioned making it difficult for men to travel.
you sound like a very practical lady with a lot of grace
SUNSHINEB0Y: I don't wanna burst your bubble but the fact is you wouldn't be invited
can't think what gave you the idea you might
can't think what gave you the idea you might
oh that's mature
maybe your comment on it silly
I was speaking hypothetically anyway
Women should not do the traveling, mainly for security reason
and any man who cannot respect that is not worth our time
gemeh22: i have before , turned out to be not the best of decisions but luckily made it back home with no serious harm done, but was enough to make me realize i wasnt thinking very clearly and that it wasnt very smart of me- IF i were to do it again I would be smarter about it.
EXACTLY
hey gemeh! was wondering where you were earlier when we were making trouble on here in some of the other threads
gemeh22: i have before , turned out to be not the best of decisions but luckily made it back home with no serious harm done, but was enough to make me realize i wasnt thinking very clearly and that it wasnt very smart of me- IF i were to do it again I would be smarter about it.
Hey Gem.....
Have done the same thing....once.....myself...
Makes ya think twice now.....
Where was my head.... But, never say never.... How would you do it smarter??? just out of interest....
felixis99: EXACTLY
hey gemeh! was wondering where you were earlier when we were making trouble on here in some of the other threads
hey gemeh! was wondering where you were earlier when we were making trouble on here in some of the other threads
how have you been? what fun did i miss felixis99: oh that's mature
maybe your comment on it silly
I was speaking hypothetically anyway
Women should not do the traveling, mainly for security reason
and any man who cannot respect that is not worth our time
maybe your comment on it silly
I was speaking hypothetically anyway
Women should not do the traveling, mainly for security reason
and any man who cannot respect that is not worth our time
I'd be really gratefull to you if you stay in america please
yabbadabbadont: Hey Gem.....
Have done the same thing....once.....myself...
Makes ya think twice now.....
Where was my head.... But, never say never....
How would you do it smarter??? just out of interest....
maybe do a background check on them to start with if its possible . you know violent history type stuff. Have done the same thing....once.....myself...
Makes ya think twice now.....
Where was my head.... But, never say never....
How would you do it smarter??? just out of interest....
gemeh22: maybe do a background check on them to start with if its possible . you know violent history type stuff.
great idea and the usual other precautions too, don't travel alone etc,SUNSHINEB0Y: when I said can't I meant can't, someone with an inflexible attitude like the above could be missing out on many oportunities to meet perfectly nice gentlemen (or ladies) because it comes across as being very vain to people reading those kind of statements and they would be put off straight away.
It shows no understanding of peoples situation if they had a disabled child for instance or animals that needed care etc; not everybody has friends or neighbours or relatives to fob things off on.
There are a lot of peeps who will remain lonely in their twilight years because they cannot face the world with an open heart the way they once could when they were young.
It shows no understanding of peoples situation if they had a disabled child for instance or animals that needed care etc; not everybody has friends or neighbours or relatives to fob things off on.
There are a lot of peeps who will remain lonely in their twilight years because they cannot face the world with an open heart the way they once could when they were young.
I would not have done it when I was younger either - again - for security reasons
and again, a man who cannot respect that is not worth the time
and I am a good deal more open hearted now than I ever was when younger
also:
we have no way of knowing if people are what they say they are on here - no reason or way to know if someone's hardship story is true
and not sure I'd want to get involved with someone in the situations u describe as they wouldn;t really be available to me - now as they're not able to travel here
or in the future due to their "other commitments"
one of my search preferences is someone who is available to me and has resolved their family and ex issues...so I would be looking for someone who had more freedom than what u describe anyway...so ur criteria doesn't really apply to me
bottom line for security reasons a woman should not do the traveling even if no other issues are involved
if a man is interested - he will make it happen
SUNSHINEB0Y: I'd be really gratefull to you if you stay in america please
let's remember that you are the one who came on here, apparently with the specific intent to harass me, and I do nor appreciate it. If you attack me as you have been doing I will defend myself
and report you
just stop attacking me please - I will go where ever I want to go
only a cowrd has no picture
SUNSHINEB0Y: great idea and the usual other precautions too, don't travel alone etc,
and maybe an alternative place to stay.....
SUNSHINEB0Y: great idea and the usual other precautions too, don't travel alone etc,
ya I'll bring my possy next time but seriously i agree best not to travel alone. When I did it I went alone, I did however gave all the information on him to my family and friends - asked him to send me a copy of his drivers license etc proof of address etc for peace of mind for my family and friends thinking that I was being smart in that but should have been smarter all around.
SUNSHINEB0Y: if someone were to come from a foreign country to visit here the usual thing in this country would be to have the accomodation sorted for them before they arrive (whether it be a hotel or whatever) and meet them at the airport, feed them etc;
And what if you arrive only to find that it hasnt been taken care of, and dude is a freak ??
HotrodLarrys: No But I Did for a Woman..The Country was Nice!
Hate to say it, but Kentucky isn't another country, it just seems like it.
venusenvy: And what if you arrive only to find that it hasnt been taken care of, and dude is a freak ??
Pull his toupee down over his face......Then run....?
felixis99: I would not have done it when I was younger either - again - for security reasons
and again, a man who cannot respect that is not worth the time
and I am a good deal more open hearted now than I ever was when younger
also:
we have no way of knowing if people are what they say they are on here - no reason or way to know if someone's hardship story is true
and not sure I'd want to get involved with someone in the situations u describe as they wouldn;t really be available to me - now as they're not able to travel here
or in the future due to their "other commitments"
one of my search preferences is someone who is available to me and has resolved their family and ex issues...so I would be looking for someone who had more freedom than what u describe anyway...so ur criteria doesn't really apply to me
bottom line for security reasons a woman should not do the traveling even if no other issues are involvedif a man is interested - he will make it happen
and again, a man who cannot respect that is not worth the time
and I am a good deal more open hearted now than I ever was when younger
also:
we have no way of knowing if people are what they say they are on here - no reason or way to know if someone's hardship story is true
and not sure I'd want to get involved with someone in the situations u describe as they wouldn;t really be available to me - now as they're not able to travel here
or in the future due to their "other commitments"
one of my search preferences is someone who is available to me and has resolved their family and ex issues...so I would be looking for someone who had more freedom than what u describe anyway...so ur criteria doesn't really apply to me
bottom line for security reasons a woman should not do the traveling even if no other issues are involvedif a man is interested - he will make it happen
I'm so glad you feel like this, I can't imagine what "hardship" stories you've created in your head, neither of the scenarios I mentioned were of "hardship" children are usually a source of joy (here anyway) and so can animals be, but I'm really happy to hear you'll be staying where you are.
yabbadabbadont: Pull his toupee down over his face......Then run....?
Wish I thought of that the other night.
yabbadabbadont: and maybe an alternative place to stay.....
and be in constant contact with a third party via a mobile phone letting them know your location at all times, car registrations that you travel in etc
gemeh22: ya I'll bring my possy next time but seriously i agree best not to travel alone. When I did it I went alone, I did however gave all the information on him to my family and friends - asked him to send me a copy of his drivers license etc proof of address etc for peace of mind for my family and friends thinking that I was being smart in that but should have been smarter all around.
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