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be kind anyway . . . .

ty Shanz - i came back to read this because today i again found myself struggling with the whys. . . why someone did something, why they continue to do something, and at times I find myself having a hard time with the word that I gave (long story but I am caring for a dog that belongs to someone else right now). Everyone that knows about my situation keeps telling me I am being takin advantage of - and maybe I am but the point is that it really doesnt matter if I am or not because this isnt about him and I, it is about my relationship with the Lord. It is about me being honest and sincere when I deal with people. I dont know what he is going thru or what he is thinking but I do know the type of man he is and dont believe he would ever ever take advantage of another person - actually know he would do everything in his power to not take advantage of someone but thats another story. so thank you so much, your words were the encouragement I needed right at this moment

RE: WISDOM 101

lol coffee what a treasure I have one like that at home too and she always brings me such joy and often I find I am blown away by her wisdom and compassion for others. children are truly amazing and yes in moments of complete disbelief I find they are really listening too

be kind anyway . . . .

thanks yall appreciate your kind words very much, really do

Aswina I will always be good to myself for to not be good to myself would be a dishonor to the Lord for he has given me so many blessings in this life. thank you for your kind words.

duckie thank you so much for that link - it hits close to home . The Dalai Lama is truly a man of wisdom and as strange as it may sound I believe God does not put boundaries on our faith by placing names on it. He is there in different shapes and forms for all people in the way that each people (culture) need him to be so that he may reach as many as possible.

I hope everyone has had a wonderful day . . . thanks again

RE: You should not be here.... go away!

@arose
Why are you asking me for sites when you say you have already been on one where you met someone.... as for the rest of what you said..... got bored reading it after the first chapter.

I only placed a shoe where it appeared to fit ^^

RE: You should not be here.... go away!

so feelinglost you mention sites for peeps just looking for friends???? can you direct me to a couple or so??? cuz to this point this is all that I have found. I am not interested in finding a MAN, any MAN at all. I am interested in the blogs and occasional forums. You see I dont believe online sites work, I went into one site (not this one) thinking to simply connect with a few folks of similar interests, partake in some interesting conversations and dialog online and ended up meeting someone very special, someone I could have easily been swept away by, and in truth in many ways was swept away by. When things fizzled I learned a hard lesson about meeting someone online, about myself and about the other person.

There are some folks that will find their match but it is like anywhere else - all in what you put into it and are willing to risk. I get really jaded when one says they are tired of looking at so many profiles and see that the woman is not interested in a man - all your basing your initial interest in is their looks. Sorry but I for one am tired of being treated as a piece of meat by men, if all you are doing is looking at the profiles you are treating women as a piece of meat trying to see which one at first glance wets your appetite. Gets real annoying. Better put some real effort in letting who u are be known - why not try by conversing in some dialog with someone rather than troll thru the multitude of profiles??? If you did that you might actually meet someone and find out their story before going on a rampage of how no female here really wants a MAN.


I come here for socialization, I am relatively new to where I am at and am working on getting out and meeting people around town more n more. It isnt easy and I find I still have a need inside to converse in some manner with people in similar situations as I am, a need to bounce things off with folks in a manner that I will not have to worry about judgments, and a place to share the good points of my days. Until I find that here where I live, until I have built up friendships here where I live this site and one other are great outlets for that. I dont take kindly to someone stating that this is only a dating site - anywhere you go is a potential dating site!!! whether it be a church, bar or online, when you bring males and females together there is always a potential but it doesnt mean it is a necessity to be actively seeking to be there.

Johnny n June

I grew up listening to Johnny Cash, George Jones, Conway Twitty, Waylon, Chris Christofferson, Loretta Lynn, and oh so many more.

And I agree, I cant quite put into words what love like that is but golly I sure know it when I see it.

You've Got to Stand for Something

Yup you're right frank - and I dont have any problems putting my head down on my pillow at night cuz I can sleep with what I did that day. I'm not no hero, just living this life the best way I can

RE: DIRT ROADS

Hey shadow that was good. . . really liked how you put that and I agree wholeheartedly. Its a big part of why I found myself where I am, dirt roads

RE: A Better Man

I agree summer but I also believe that the guy or gal needs to believe that they are worthy of such love because if they dont believe they are then it really wont matter how much a good woman loves a good man or vice versa because that love will never really be totally accepted.

Apples guys :)

now guys where d the darn ladder go

appleing good time

RE: A Better Man

I think the over all point is tho that the love a good woman can make a GOOD man better and the blog reminded me of something I shared with someone just a few days ago.

Let me put it this way . . . . a woman is like a compass to a man (ie the right man), each man has to search for his compass but once he has found it well he has a secure base in which to direct him as to the direction of his life. He has a purpose in which puts reason and sanity into his otherwise chaotic existance. Now not saying that everyman needs a compass, but I have a feeling for many that is what they are looking for - that reason and purpose to living, to being male. Ahhh that is the purpose of the woman to be a compass to a man. His guiding light, his direction as to how life is meant to be. Now on occasion guys tend to find a compass that they think will give them that, but mmmm later on find out that it wasnt exactly the right compass for them, it did not give them what they needed or there may have been something amiss with their compass and the connection they had. Ya know kind of like picking out that item that we so thought we wanted and then realizing it really wasnt right for us. Still we needed something like it and it drives us forward in search of it. When the right compass is found life moves smoother, men live longer and things in general tend to be less chaotic. (note I said in general, lol). In general finding this right compass makes the good man better as he is suddenly with direction and purpose in his life. She gives him that base to which he can do those things.

Awwww before anyone thinks this is only a one sided deal it is not For men serve a purpose for woman, yes they do . Men are like a pillar to which a woman can find strength, safety and purpose in their lives. Now not all strength comes from outside for at times he instills in her his own strength allowing her to accomplish feats she would not have without him by her side. He gives her safety from the dark nights out there and he gives her purpose as to her role and place in this world (and that role is defined by them together, by the way they are together).

“The true beauty of a woman is her inherent ability to make better a man in every way.” Don Williams Jr.

RE: What Is Fear Can You Tell Me?

Duckie just accept that is your fear and dont worry about it , nothing wrong with fear if we understand it is there. Once you accept that you fear something then you can move onto the next step of conquering it . . . . the funny part of that is conquering a fear may just be in the accepting it as it is, you gain control back from the fear and then suddenly you are less afraid of that fear .

RE: What Is Fear Can You Tell Me?

Fear is the greatest motivator known to humans. It motivates us to do things, not do other things ie run away from danger, not step off the cliff. It so powerful that at times we may not even realize that it is controling what we do, how we act, the way we think. People seek out companionship for fear of being alone, people walk away from companionship for fear it will not last. In either case fear is always there, always lurking behind the curtains.

There is only one manner in which I know of to concur fear . . .and that is to face it, go thru it, accept that it is there and deal with it. This then makes the difference between those who are truly couragous and those living in fear day in and day out. It can be as simple as allowing oneself to get out the door, invite new people into our lives or as simple as walking away from something that isnt good for us, isnt right for us.

RE: A heart warming story - saving Valentina

so cool ty

Decorating my garden

yes I agree, I have also been pulling a few weeds out of that garden to allow it to flourish. Some of those weeds had been entranced there for a long time, but they still detered from the beauty of the garden.

Smile, its a good day

besides when your smiling everyone else wonders what your doing

Smile, its a good day

oh n I figured out it is okay to feel weak in some areas even when you have always felt a strength within. Feeling weak, feeling like one can had no control is okay sometimes. . .I dont like thinking or feeling I am weak but I accept that in some ways I am, and I figured out the only way to feel stronger is to accept that weakness within

RE: Home sweet Home

Knew one guy that I couldnt even think of dating because of the condition he kept his house in, yet another guy I did date who well I would say he was domestically challenged in that regard but overall kept things up decent considering the hours he worked he worked. I was actually kind of impressed with the fact that he felt so domestically challenged and yet his house wasnt a complete disaster - just disorganized a bit :)

would agree tho, that how one keeps their home tells a lot about a person - for me I am on limited means financially right now and cant make things look as nice as I would like but that being said I try to keep things clean, feel they look better that way. Course I also have 3 preteens at home which at times makes it a challenge :)

A question of the heart :)

virgo you came closest to the reason he left, work but it wasnt that i wouldnt have been here for him - he pushed me away i am pretty sure because he didnt want to feel the pull for home and there were some other outside issues for him going on. thats how life goes sometimes

A question of the heart :)

ty all for your comments .. . pretty sure he said what he said cuz he was upset at the moment - not defending him mind you just saying he was and actually I understand why he was at the time and I believe we all say things at times when we are upset, when something hits a little closer to home than we realize. I was upset to but it wasnt at him so much as a third party that stuck their nose into something they knew nothing about - he was blowing steam my way because of that thrird party. And yes knowing the type of person he is he would have done the same for me or for anyone in a similar situation - it was one of the reasons I offered and agreed to watch his dog as i did. I do agree there are some unresolved issues sometimes we get answers and sometimes we dont. thats just life i guess. but i really thank yall for your input put my mind at ease a little bit thank you :)

Real Love - a definition

i m still tryin got figure that out too :) how many times do you give love a try??

Real Love - a definition

. Look up at the sky, at the birds flying in the sky, the cool gently breeze that blows against your cheek and tell me that love does not exist

Real Love - a definition

Lastly to love is not to be assured that our love is returned. It is what we are to do, to place expectations of trust and honesty on it is not the act of love it is what "should" come about in a loving relationship. But we are not perfect, and as such we do not love perfectly. True love is unconditional, as that between a mother and child. We are to love as our father has shown us love, he is the example that we have been given and when we fall away from that example we fall into worldly concepts of what love is. If we love as the Lord states well for me I trust that he will love me also and so I try to love as he has shown. Does that me my heart has never been broken, no. It does mean that I still love those that broke my heart, but I learned to control that love and show it in another way. Just because it was not received in one manner does it mean that it is not to be given.